Lafonda-the red is one of my favorite choices I made. Makes me happy, even when I'm doing laundry! It is BM Raspberry Truffle and the ceiling is SW Believeable Buff (looks similar to SW Blonde with my lighting). The raspberry truffle is great, not too blue, not too pink, it's seems to be a very true shade of red. Thank you for the wonderful compliments! You're very sweet!

Oak white combo is not dated. This pic on This Old House site last week: Other pics: Paint your cabinets only if you want to. Do not get on the trend merry go round. Unless your budget is huge, you wont be able to keep up with the changing trends.

Grays work best with white and very dark trim and cabinets. It can be a challenge to get cool grays to work with warm wood tones - they don't bring out the best in each other. Look for warm grays or greens with gray undertones, taupe, and greiges. Warm wood tones look best with whites, cream, creamy beige, blues and greens. Some whites that lean gray might work. The below pic is Maritime White and reads light gray. This green gray may be too dark, but a lighter shade of the same idea might work: This is a lighter one: A white may be a way to go:

You definitely need some color, personally whites, creams and anything in the brown family is drab. Try a matte mossy green, or light olive tone. The lighter greens go well with your trim, add color, and a welcoming feel.