I am turning into my BFF's mother. Shopping q.
mtnrdredux_gw
4 years ago
Growing up, my BFF's mother had OTT tastes. Think boa-feather-trimmed dressing gowns, snakeskin leather pants, lots of gold and anything leopard. My BFF was always aghast.
Alas, I fear I am turning into her.
It started with my the gold mirror over the fpl in my MBR, with is ringed with entwined serpents. It was quite a departure from my Shaker leanings but I love it and it sparks joy each day. I do own a white button down with just a hint of leopard piping, I admit. And I just bought a DVF maxi in a python print, which I love.
This item has been in my shopping cart for probably a month. I have asked my "lady's maids" (that's what my DD's call themselves when they are giving fashion/grooming help) and they give it a thumbs up. But I expect they just want to borrow it.
I used to work with someone who had a similar belt, which I always coveted. In fact I have tried to find it but cannot (I think it was a gold alligator.) Of course she was prob 30 and had a supermodel's figure, which I also coveted. But that may have something to do with my crush on this belt. Note she always wore it with a very simple outfit, as would I.
So... hopelessly goofy, or whimsically chic?
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4 years agoHuh, here is an answer, and a sad missed opportunity!
BTW, is this displayed on a...lunchroom tray from middle school?!
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4 years ago
jojoco
4 years agoThis is a creative take on a classic style. I would wear it in a heartbeat. I'm not sure if the following picture will solidify your decision or send you running, but it looks the same in style of these. Perfect with a tailored look, imo. I think you should buy it.
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4 years agoOf course I had plaid!! I always made sure the strips coordinated with my button on, monogrammed, purse covers. :)
(so sad 80’s stuff is “vintage” lol!)
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