How to get my 85 yr. old mother in my SUV?
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14 years ago
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Twin mattress for 83 yr old mother
Comments (10)My father-in-law lived with us from age 86 until he died last year a few days after his 92nd birthday. He had numerous aches and pains when he first arrived. We bought one of those electric beds for him, twin XL size, with a remote control. It raised and lowered at head and knees and had a vibrating feature. We attached the bed to a regular twin headboard that matched the other furniture in his "suite." We also put an egg crate topper and a regular WATERPROOF mattress pad on the bed, then flannel sheets. Cozy. His main exercise every day was making the bed, the bending and stretching that he did in performing the task kept him more limber than if I had made the bed for him. It turned out that DFIL hadn't been to a doctor in years and I started taking him in every three months, just like changing the oil in the car. The doctor put him on several medications and his quality of life improved a lot. Three squares and interacting with the family helped, too. Bringing him to live with us was a lifesaver for him and enriched our family. You may find that your mother hasn't been seeing doctors on a routine basis, so living with you may immediately improve her access to medical care. I agree with the previous poster completely about pain management and investigating that route. We spent about $1,100 for the bed and it was money well invested. You could try looking at classified ads and estate sales for such a bed at a lower cost. My teen daughter cannot live without her feather bed, it's like a four-inch-thick mattress pad. A feather bed might be more comfortable for your mother than an egg crate or foam topper. We bought ours at the mail-order (also web) Company Store....See MorePlease help - Mother of 13yr old boy
Comments (7)Kay.... Going through the teen years can be like the terrible two's but with a much larger child! It can last for years. Don't get discouraged. I have a DS16 and just trying to have, what I consider, a normal conversation with him can sometimes make me want to stick hot pokers in my eyes....or his. It might be a good idea to talk with him at a time that is calm and remind him what the rules are. I have tried to lay down some sentences that I can say to DS16 during a discussion or disagreement that can remind him of the rules....Such as...."Remember who you are speaking to."...."You need to lower your voice."....."Your tone of voice sounds disrespectful to me." and so on. Sometimes he doesn't even know that he is loud or that I think that the way he is saying something in bothering me. All of that being said....do what you can to rule out the things that we all fear as parents of teens....alcohol or drug use, inappropriate internet use, depression, becoming sexually active. I'm sure I have left things out but you get the message. This day and age is tough. I feel for these kids. All the more reason to not let go of your house rules when it comes to respect and safety for the teens. Discussing with him some changes that he might like as he matures is an option. Stress the "As he matures" part. He needs to learn to handle his anger, talk about his feelings and still follow the rules. Each one comes to a calmer place at a different time. Some take a long time. The hard knocks of life can be the only teachers for some kids. Parents lose IQ points big time when their kids hit their teens. I wouldn't rule out getting him into see a counselor if you feel his anger is beyond control. Some kids can't talk to their parents and a third party can really help. It doesn't mean that their is something wrong with him. His brain and his body are on mega drive right now. Watch how he grows in the next few years!....I have heard that every growth spurt, whether it be mental or physical is preceded by an emotional time of turmoil. I think that is true when a child is entering into the just beginning to walk months and the teen years. Just fasten your seat belt. The ride will be bumpy at times. It is a good thing that God gives us these kids as sweet little babies. If we got them as teenagers they would likely mysteriously disappear...or we would. I remember thinking, when my DD20 was a teen and she would be mouthing off to me...."You know child, you are standing way to close with your back to those stairs to be talking to me like that."...Of course I would never push her but a bit of a sense of humor helps!!!...See MoreNeed to get my mother in my truck
Comments (3)Would advise abandoning this idea entirely. Too much risk. Falling-risk on an older person with this body mass is tremendous. Be very careful. Stools and step-ladders, in particular, I would stay away from. If at all possible, suggest renting a mini-van. If your mother is more-or-less "normal" height, I think you'll find the seating surface pretty closely matches her fanny's height while she's standing. All she'll have to do is back up to the seat edge and slide on. The Chrysler versions also have a handle-assist on the door frame so she can help herself and feel more secure....See MoreHow can I help my 2yr old learn to talk?
Comments (3)I think there is a way mothers talk to a child that encourages talking......every time you pick him up say "up"....not I am picking you up now"...as you put his shoes on, say "shoe" not....shall we put your shoes on"....then graduate to "shoe on".....and "shoe off". He sure should be saying more than that by 24 months. Talking baby talk to a 15 month old actually helps them learn to speak correctly......and once he has learned the basics, you are free to say.."Look! There goes a red car!"....but he needs to learn to say "look! Car!" first. I have an inlaw's inlaw's child ( got that???LOL!) who is 2 and says almost nothing....no sounds.....no squeals of delight no giggles. He has been in speech therapy for a couple of months and is now saying things like "down" when prompted.....but is still very quiet! Once I called someone with a baby a few months old.....and she answered the phone in a hoarse voice. I asked if she had a cold, she said it was the first words she had said that day....because, she said, there is no one hre to talk to but the baby. Talk to your baby! They thrive on interaction! Linda C...See Morebriejean
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