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Comments (7)If I was still married, i would have gone insane by now. Or....I would drive from the big city up to the mountains in a crappy house on a non-maintained road from a long day at work, where he will either be home already, or not home yet. i would cook for the family but he wouldnt eat because he had a late lunch, so there was never any family time. then i would walk to the little cabin about 1000 yards away which i basically called my second home, my solace room, turn on the kerosene heater, and call my friend Karen to walk down the road and we would happily sit in the cabin and smoke a bowl and complain about of boring husbands. Then she would leave and i would go to bed as I walked past my snoring husband with empty beer cans all round and the TV blasting and big german sheperds sleeping around him as the little mice would scurry by right in front of the sleeping dog...haha! I would crawl into bed and sleep alone (thank God becasue I couldnt stand his awful hands touching me anymore, let alone to have sex with him!) He usually woke up after wetting himself in the middle of the night to come to bed. He was/is a disgusting man! The house was filthy becasue I finally just went on strike. Today, 10 years and a lot of struggling to get back on my feet alone, I am so happy!!!! My house is so clean, there is no one around to pick up after. I eat when i want. I can sit on my couch because my husband hasnt been pissing on it night after night. I love my home, I am so greatful for everything I have, my health, my peace of mind...! I have a great boyfriend who lives n his own house!!!! Would I trade all this in for a smelly couch?! I'm thinking not!...See MoreGood marriages can end in divorce
Comments (40)finedreams: All of the religious counselors I have ever heard speak regarding marriage problems, have always suggested that abuse and infidelity are grounds for divorce. I believe that people who stay in a marriage where either occurs may hold on to this as the reason they stay. I would venture to guess that they actually stay because of fear. Whether it is a fear of being alone, or a fear of being unlovable, or a fear of supporting themselves or children on their own, or a fear of the violent person getting visitation rights and their inability to protect their children, or fearing that if they left, that they would make their spouse very angry, or all of the above, I think it boils down to fear. Perhaps they don't want to lose their home and life as they know it. And it is easier to use the vows and church as their reason for staying in such a situation, than to admit that they are afraid to be alone. When chronic infidelity occurs within a marriage, perhaps they feel responsible somehow. Or their sense of self esteem is so damaged, but again, I think it often is fear that keeps them from leaving. Or perhaps they don't leave because they really do not want another woman/man parenting their children, or involved in the lives of the children and family....See MoreConflict resolution curiousity
Comments (19)With apnea ... they tend to move alot ... trying to get better airflow. Mind telling body to move to improve airway. They tend to be tired/or cranky during the day, from the tossing and turning lack of restful sleep. Headaches and numbess because of lack of blood flow ... brain trying too hard to keep lungs working neglects the extremities. The snoring is interuppted by a pause then gasp... brain kicking in "breathe fool". My 15 yr old son had sleep apnea and hubby has sleep apnea. My sons went away basically when he had his tonsils and adenoids out. When he would sleep it sounded like hiccoughs. Gasping constantly for air. My hubby is on a cpap (breathing) machine....See MoreSnoring solutions
Comments (46)We sleep separately as well. I also have a very hard time falling asleep unless the room is ABSOLUTELY quiet. Husband isn't a terrible snorer but he sleeps on his back and he sort of 'puffs' as he breathes till he gets into deep sleep at which the snoring does start....totally keeps me awake. We also have entirely different sleep patterns as he likes to go to bed and get up very early, while I like to stay up a bit later and wake later too. He gets up several times a night for bathroom visits, etc. Even the *bed* style we like is opposite: he prefers a rock hard mattress and I'm a cloud-soft kinda woman. Oh, and he gets cold if the temperature goes much below 80 while I cannot sleep in such swelter. I also find as I've gotten older if I have a sleepless night (or series of nights) I feel really, really awful and dysfunctional. Those youthful days of being able to function on a handful of hours of sleep are long gone for me. So yeah, separate rooms works very well for us :). One of the highlights of a typical day now for me is when I finish the chores, shower, get into my nightgown and then settle down in my super comfortable bed with a good book to relax while I read til I'm drowsy, then turn the lights out to sleep in peace and quiet. It was such a revelation when I could finally do that every night after years of reading in the living room so I didn't wake him up followed by lying sleeplessly in bed trying desperately to go to sleep-and I tried earplugs, melatonin and all kinds of other tricks. I understand about being embarrassed because it seems to be one of those commonly accepted marital rules, but sleeping in the same bed/room just doesn't always work and as Jen said, different bedrooms doesn't mean there's no intimacy or that you're living in an unhealthy marriage. We'll be celebrating our 30th anniversary in a few months--each ensconced in our nice cozy beds in our own rooms LOL....See More3katz4me
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