Does it bother you when someone keeps trying to change your style?
caflowerluver
4 years ago
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Comments (7)I was a late bloomer with learning how to dress myself. Before MSP, I knew what colors looked good on me. I have a sense of color, at least. But I did not know how to dress my body. I did not know how the clothes were supposed to drape on my particular body in order to look good. I was not willing to take any risks when buying clothes. I stuck with styles that we just kinda OK. I did not know when something was just not working for me, and to get rid of it. After going through an eye-opening education from MSP which taught me which styles look best for me, I can walk into a store and immediately head toward something that is worth trying on. I don't think I have ever had to reject a MSP suggestion. I guess you'd have to actually try MSP to know exactly what I mean when I say that her suggestions are to aim for a classic style, but take risks with low-cost accessories that can be updated every season. MSP lets you know how to invest your fashion dollar wisely in items you'll reach for again and again. One day, during a flurry of buying clothes, I ended up with a top that was very cute, fit well, had colors that complement my complexion, etc. But later, when I tried on the shirt, and took a careful look at the top AND my face together, I decided that the pattern of the fabric made the shirt seem "too young" for me. So I ended up giving away a brand new shirt, simply because I had not considered my age. (mid-40's) I consider that MY mistake, not MSP's! The older I get, the more important it is that I aim for that chic timeless look, take my fashion risks in subtle ways, and not try to directly copy the teenagers too much. Some fashions translate well for older women, some don't. Harriet, you sound like you'd be fine even without MSP. You say you know what styles work for you. As for being made to order online, I don't think there is a way to know for certain that something is going to look good until you actually try it on. I know what you mean when you say that the stores often do not have the full line of clothing. They want you to order online. When you are striving for proper fit, you might end up sending back something that you ordered online. I only order online if there is a good return policy, and try to stick to retailers that will give me free return shipping. I have an L.L. Bean credit card, and that gives me free return shipping. If I buy something from Lands' End, I can return it for free at the local Sears store....See Morewhat do you do when your husband changes???
Comments (15)My husband went through the same thing a few years ago. Not a shift change just a change in responsibilities and expectations at work that were way over his head. He's not a cop but the situation is very similar. He also had mood swings , problems sleeping, he would smoke to relax and have a drink. Lose his temper with his two kids. I mean the same way you described! i would be sitting at the dinner table eating. and if his son didn't eat fast enough or at way too slow after 5 minutes he's be telling him off and nagging him to death to eat his plate. My SS would bow his head , wouldn't enjoy his meal and my husband would be telling him 'well you'll be left alone again cause you are not eating.' It got to the point i got pissed. so one night i turned around during meal time and nagged him. ' oh your not eating those veggies, oh you haven't touched them yet. why haven't you finished. ? its been 5 minutes?...you dont like my cooking? come on hurry up! we've going to miss our program, you eat too slow! what are you a cow? do you have several stomachs to digest? ; well needless to say i got the dirty looks, I smiled and left to clean the dishes. next time he did it again, i told him in front of his kids that i will not have dinner or lunch or breakfast while you badger your son. You have problems deal with them and dont take it out on the kids. This issue was early inthe relationship. So i spoke with him about work and found out his stresses and gave him soem ideas to change. Work finally changed and so did his attitude. Sorry for the long story. But i honestly think that your husband has stress from work. Either a traumatic experience that caused him to change his shift and of course the simple shift change cause sleep deprivation until his body acclimatizes to the time zone. But hes taken up cigarettes...which is not good for his nerves and his daily routine with you have changed. You have to find a middle ground to work together. If he doens't change his shift back to waht he did before you 'll need to make new time together. Some couciling is a good idea. As well, if he did go through a traumatic experience then your husband definetly needs counciling....See Moredoes this bother you?? two faucets...too close????? your advice
Comments (6)Sfmomoxo - I have been looking forward to seeing your kitchen since earlier back splash conversations - it is looking beautiful. I agree with plllog - the heights may be bothering you, but only if you stare at them (which you are probably doing now, but won't in the future.) If I were starting from scratch I would have put the water spout closer to the corner, but as it is I think it looks fine where it is. Regarding creating a new location, which side is your dishwasher on or your dirty to clean/dishwasher route? I would want to keep the water spout on the opposite of the dishwasher or out of the dirty to dishwasher route. It is no uncommon in our house that someone is loading the dishwasher and someone else wants water and being on the same side as the dishwasher would be very annoying. Putting in a soap dispenser is just more mola and if you didn't want it in the first place I would not bother. It will just add more clutter to behind your sink. For me this is an "issue" that would fade into the background because there is no functional problem and the visual is minor....See MoreWhen someone calls your house "cute", does that mean small?
Comments (27)I have fully concluded by this thread to avoid ever having your house be called “cute”, you have to spend over a mil at the beach. Cute is a cute word. I know it’s my very individual, personal opinion yet I’d never describe someone’s house, wedding ring, relationship, job, business endeavor, “cute”. I will think of it as a compliment from here on out but with our vast language, full of adjectives, “cute & adorable” to me are reserved for adults that have freckles (compliment), babies, little children, puppies, kittens (any small animal), stuffed animal, etc. Somehow, the word takes on a different meaning & tone despite the very adult & expensive moves/accomplishments one had to make to achieve them. It really misses the mark as a compliment, however genuinely intended....See Morecaflowerluver
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