What a rollercoaster of emotions you must be feeling, exacerbated no doubt by excess hormones. I'm so sorry this fetus wasn't viable, but I'll keep sending good thoughts your way.

Oh my goodness what a scary and sad thing you went through. I hope you are feeling better and will continue to improve. My suggestion would be for you and your husband to see a genetic counselor and determine if there are any genetic factors involved. Do you know if they were able to obtain samples from the fetus for testing. Take care of yourself! Slow and easy!

Raven, they were able to get the gestational sac out with the d&c and they sent it to pathology so I'm hoping we can find out if there were any problems. We're leaning towards IVF so that we can test the embryos first for genetic and chromosomal issues that are the leading cause of miscarriage, so hopefully we'll have a much better chance of a successful pregnancy.

I’m so sorry for your loss and the scary situation. I’m glad that you had a good medical staff to support you. I wonder why you had that kind of reaction to the med. it must be very unusual. Thank goodness you are ok!

Lisa, the pill they gave me is actually used to induce miscarriages and abortions, but in a higher dose for those. I had a small dose and my doctor didn't indicate at all that there might be a chance for a "spontaneous miscarriage" as she calls it. I call it "spontaneous hemorrhage!" Honestly I am a little angry that she didn't warn me this might happen. Luckily I looked it up when I took it, and warned my husband that if I start bleeding heavily, we'll have to go to the ER. Guess my instincts were right!

The purpose of the small dose is to soften the cervix and make the d&c easier. The dilation part is the most risky, I believe, so that helps. The attending OB says that he only gives it a few hours before the d&c procedure in case of something like this happening. I don't know why she told me to take it 15 hours before.

I am so sorry for your loss Chi. It is always a true loss no matter how we try to handle it. All those added complications added at an already sad and stressful time breaks my heart for you. Back in the day I had a fetus cease to develop and I was also scheduled for a d&c. However I don't think the oral drugs were available then. My doctor placed Osmotic Dilators the day before the D&C to soften and dilate my cervix. When DD went through a similar experience she was given the abortion pill. But her pregnancy wasn't as advanced as mine.

Chi, many of us have had miscarriages and then gone on to have children with no complications. I remember my mother had a few, and her doctor told her that often a miscarriage is Mother Nature's way of managing a problem. I found comfort in that statement when I experienced two early on. Keep positive. One doctor told me there is a higher incidence of pregnancy after a D&C. Turned out to be true for me.

So sorry for your loss. I am certainly not a medical expert, but I think it's a good sign that you were able to get pregnant on your own. Take care of yourself.

Chi - I am so sorry that you and your husband are going through this.

You have been on an emotional and physical roller coaster. My own son and DIL have been going through fertility issues for several years too and I know how difficult it is. Sending hugs your way.......

I am so sorry for all the trauma, emotional and physical that you went through. I hope you heal quickly from this event and can move forward smoothly from it. Sending you thoughts of comfort and courage.

OMG. I am glad to hear you are coping so well. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

I am so sorry for your profoundly sad and scary time. Sending good thoughts and gentle hugs your way.

Sending caring thoughts to you and your DH. This is just the place to come to and share what you are going through.

Know we are here for you 24/7. (((((Hugs)))))

I'm so sorry for your experience but I hope you'll fight on. And don't worry about the grossness, life is that way sometimes. Sending warm thoughts our way.

Oh, no, Chi, how horrible, the whole thing, the pain, the miscarriage. I am so sorry you had to go through all of what you suffered, I'm glad you are alive.

I'm sorry to hear about your experience. Sending hugs your way. (((Chi)))

I am so sorry for your loss, and for enduring a very frightening few days on top of that. I am glad you are feeling better and are healing both physically and emotionally.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Glad your recovering and ready to go on.

Chi - I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that your recovery is uneventful and that your wishes come true.

My niece went through IVF with an eventual birth of a beautiful daughter. She is a handful just like her mother!

Wow - how scary all that was just to read it! So sorry for your loss. I hope and pray for good things to come in the future!

Wow Chi, I'm glad you shared this with us! We're here for you, as you know, and I'm sure writing it out, helped a lot. What a roller-coaster of emotions. I'm so sorry you lost your little one. But I like what Sheila Joyce said, that it was nature's way of dealing with a larger issue.

As usual, you were even to keep your sense of humour!

Hugs and best wishes to you and hubby

This is the place to let it all out. Cry! Rant! Look in the mirror at the strong woman who came through this trauma, pain and sorrow. I'm confident that *wonderful* days are just around the corner for you and your DH.

Oh my, how traumatic! I am so sorry you and your husband had to go through such an ordeal. Wishing for your next pregnancy to be a successful one!

I'm sorry to hear about such an awful experience. Best wishes for better days.

I am glad that you had this arena to write it out and share what happened, and how you are processing it. Hugs to you.

So sorry for what you have been through, Chi. As you recuperate, give yourself time to grieve your loss, sort through your emotions and to let your mind and body heal.

My heart goes out to you for the miscarriage and the trauma of having the D&C. I'm glad that you came through it intact!

So sorry...but do not give up. I had two miscarriages, D&C (and experienced many of the things you did) and then three babies with no problem. Keep the faith!

I'm sorry, Chi:( I have never lost a child or had a miscarriage, so I can't pretend to know what you are going through. My prayers to you and your husband for your terrible loss and what you are going through. Also, be prepared to be extremely tired for several weeks. I don't know if you had a blood transfusion, but with the loss of so much blood it takes the body time to make new cells, and you will be tired. Also, the emotional aspect of everything is draining. I wish I could hug you, but sending big cyber hugs.

(((Chi and husband))) Unfortunately, I am "expert" at miscarriages (four and a nonviable pregnancy known as hydatidiform mole). I remember one of them feeling a lot like giving birth; you aren't far off or crazy. I'm so so glad you have a plan to keep you going and each other to get through this. Don't let it get you too down. I had all those, and still ended up with the most amazingly perfect child ever. He's the biggest joy of my life. I sometimes think he's somehow a compensation for those other losses. Stick together and stay strong. We're here for you, too.

You went thru a harrowing time of it and a scary one too. I'm glad you had a good outcome in what could have been very serious or deadly. I'm so sorry for your miscarriage. I never had one personally but I know what it's like to think of it as a baby as soon as you know you're pregnant. I'm confident you will have a successful pregnancy soon and maybe more. Best of luck to you and your husband.

Chi, so sorry for what you are going through. "Hugs"

Oh Chi, I am so sorry for your loss. It's a relief that you are through the medical end of things and healing now. Many hugs for you and your DH.

Chi (and DH), I am so very sorry for your loss. What a terrifying experience you've had and glad you went to the ER. Hugs to you!

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and the whole frightening experience. I lost two units of blood when I had diverticulosis. If you didn't have a transfusion, it will take some time to get your stamina back and you will definitely need some iron pills. I'm sure your doctor will check your iron levels when you go for a check-up. Hugs and wishing you great success in the future.

Thank you so much for your sweet words and sympathy! I was worried that this was just sharing too much, but I'm glad I did. I think it helped. I know miscarriages are sadly pretty common and I think my physical experience was on the abnormal end of it (I hope so anyway!)

It scared me enough that I started looking at surrogacy options but it's something like $100,000 to do that. I hope in time I'll feel ok trying it again myself.

Luckily I didn't need a blood transfusion and they didn't release me until they checked my blood a few times. I've been eating iron-rich foods as it can't hurt.

Thank you again, everyone. It's so nice to feel like I'm not alone in this process!

I'm so sorry for all you've been going through. No ... not TMI. This is a (normally) friendly place and we (mostly) care for one another - - - and all of our joys and struggles. Please keep sharing -

I'm so sorry for all you've been going through. No ... not TMI. This is a (normally) friendly place and we (mostly) care for one another - - - and all of our joys and struggles. Please keep sharing -

So sorry for your harrowing experience and your loss! Two of my Dsils had multiple miscarriages then had beautiful babies. Wishing the same for you as well as a quick and complete recovery. Hugs.

I'm sorry you had to go through all that. Big hugs.

Wow, I can imagine how fearful you were to go under general anesthesia, especially with hemorrhaging and dropping blood pressure! But thankfully you were at the hospital and in good hands. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, which may have been a fetus medically, but was of course, a potential child, to you and your husband.

The fact that you did get pregnant naturally, is a good sign. It means that you are not infertile, so I'd think your chances of a successful pregnancy, whether natural or through IVF, will be great, since you have proof that you were able to conceive. Take the time you need to recover physically and emotionally, then look forward to planning your 'rainbow baby,' with all our best wishes!

We care, Chi. Thanks for sharing. Better days are ahead for you and your hubby.

It's tough and adds to my stress because I'm already 35, which is ancient in fertility terms. Luckily recent studies show I'm likely ok for a few more years and it's very common in my area for women to have babies in their late 30's and even early 40's. There are of course more risks but life sometimes works out differently than we plan.

An ivf benefit is that we can freeze embryos now, and that helps a lot with the risks since I'm just starting the "advanced" age so my risks are still pretty low (and we can screen the embryos). Age at transfer doesn't matter nearly as much. I'm lucky DH's company insurance pays 100% for IVF so we might as well take advantage.

So sorry to hear of your loss.

Yes, some medications used have amnesic properties. While others may disagree, it seems like a humane thing to do. Who want to wake up with a tube in their trachea, unable to talk?

Thank you for sharing your comments, "I feel grateful, given my extreme reaction to the medicines (bleeding was NOT supposed to happen), that I had the d&c done in a hospital. I worry if I had gone to the surgical suite in the doctor's office instead, it might have ended differently."

The non-hospital surgi-centers scare me. Sure they are less expensive, but if something goes wrong (think of the Joan Rivers case) the resources needed - may not be available.

"The non-hospital surgi-centers scare me."

I've had that thought too for the few experiences I've had. You're an insider and feel that way? That makes it much worse!

I agree. I don't know if they keep blood on-hand and it was a good 10-15 min away from any hospitals. I also liked that the attending OB said she has done thousands of these, many in an urgent setting, so I trusted her completely. I've had barely any bleeding or pain so I think she did a good job.

Chi, I am so sorry to hear about your ordeal and your loss. Wishes for a quick recovery and a bright and healthy future.

Chi, I'm sorry for your loss, and all that you went through. It's encouraging that you got pregnant on your own (with DH's help, of course), and hopefully, the next pregnancy will be in the near future. It is fortunate that they will be able to do tests to determine if there will be a problem in the future. I am sending you healing thoughts and prayers, and will continue to pray that you will be a Mom in 2019!

Oh Chi, I'm so sorry this one didn't 'take'. I too had a miscarriage and was devastated until two months later when we learned we were expecting our first daughter. You've been through the wringer so be kind to yourself. Are you still doing the keto diet? Can you put it on hold for awhile? Sorry for sounding bossy. I'm very glad you feel better after "talking" with everyone here. :)