Tell me about being a stay at home parent family
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Comments (15)cawfe - thanks for your thoughts. Unfortunately my ex lives about 30 min away, so isn't available for much in the way of picking up/dropping off, unless it's on a weekend the boys are with him. I'm pretty much the primary parent, and my fiance helps when I have a scheduling conflict, but we don't rely on my ex for anything logistical. You're right, Dad's feeling left out although the boys are generally pretty circumspect in what they tell him of my fiance. They tell me nothing of my ex's GF (not that I ask except in the context of something else). sweeby - counseling is still an open question. The counselor who's doing the assessment of my older son has made it clear that she's not the right person to help us with co-parenting because that would put her in a dual role. She's happy to refer us to others, but the whole idea makes me tired. I can't tell you how many years we spent in counseling while we were married, both together and individual. I'm hoping that my son's counselor can help us get to the bottom of any harm that might have been done to him as a result of his father's fears. One alternative I'm considering is to give up on my ex ever changing, and instead work as a "family" within our current structure, the 4 of us (myself, fiance, 2 boys) and go to family therapy to talk about all of our concerns. This to me seems much more useful. I'm coming to the conclusion that in order to co-parent, there has to first be a foundation of trust and respect. Unfortunately we don't have either, and by the time we "get there" with a counselor, my sons will probably have gone off to college and the point would be moot. I'm pretty discouraged about making any progress, but then again I realize how stuck I am. It's late at night, I'm hoping all of this is somewhat coherent ;-) Ann...See MoreWhat do you enjoy most about staying at home?
Comments (77)Being retired and having my pensions arriving, I'm fortunate to not have immediate financial concerns and having lived alone for years, I am used to that. Our church is providing daily inspirational messages and provides a partial Sunday service on their site and gatherings of several on various occasions on Zoom. I've been working on developing telephone trees with them and family and friends. Also wondering about taping a message on various stranger's storm doors in a local neighbourhood asking if they have become stir crazy yet ... and might be interested in talking to an old guy from the 1930s whose telephone in childhood on a farm nearby was a big box on the wall with a stem like a tulip sticking out of the front to take one's talk and a listening tube on a wire that hung on the side of the box. One rang a series of long and short rings to call local neighbours and there was a signal to call a central operator who would call people at a greater distance. A question for you gardenweb friends - have you thought that someday you'd like to develop some latent interest lying unpursued in your psyche? Maybe this would be a good time to rouse it from slumber. Also give some thought to evaluating your life: as you look at yourself in the mirror, are you reasonably, quietly and rather humbly pleased with the person that you see? Maybe to consider improving some errors or defects, putting things right with friends where you feel that you had done them some wrong? I hope that you can exit this period a better person than the one who entered it. Good wishes for your journey through this time and as you participate in the "new normal" after. ole joyfuelled...See MoreDo you find the more you stay home the more you want to stay home?
Comments (29)We've been splitting our time 50/50 between Los Angeles and our house in Cathedral City (Palm Springs are), and we have nice, large outdoor spaces at both houses. I would like to have people over, but I don't mind staying in our houses for this period. I miss going to fabric stores. We have so much to do at both houses - much of it maintenance - that we do not run out of things to do. I think I prefer the house in CC because it has a pool, but it is a bit expensive to heat the pool in the dead of winter. It's no more expensive than cooling that house in the summer, however. We have bikes at both houses and go for bike rides whenever we want, although I will not ride my bike in CC in the summer - I just spend more time in the pool. My original plan was to rent the house in CC for additional income, and so our budget is stretched pretty thin now. Cathedral City put a moratorium on short term vacation rentals one week after we closed on that house, and so we haven't been able to rent it anyway. We're very glad to have it as a safe get-away, since not only are we prevented from air travel - we cannot afford it at this time. There are lots of places for us to go for hikes or mountain biking in southern California, and so there's always that. I stopped going to the beach on a regular basis when we moved from Venice to Westchester in 2009, and I do miss that a bit, but it's still there. However, I will not be going back to the Venice boardwalk until the pandemic is over. To answer the question: No, I do not find that the more I stay at home the more I want to. I definitely want to get out, but I'm not climbing the walls and am reasonably content....See MoreWhere's the thread about staying in your house?
Comments (28)My parents already had the trash service coming to their garage door to pick up, for an additional quarterly fee. But, they won’t enter the garage, liability issues. The carts had to be wheeled out of the garage. (And no, the carts couldn’t stay outside the garage, because of ease of putting the trash in and to prevent critters from getting in. If it’s easy for you, it’s easy for a raccoon! Back in the early 60s, my grandmother’s mailbox was at the end of the lane, on the main road. When her ALS kept her from walking all that way, she talked to her mailman, and moved her box to the foot of her driveway. Some years later, it moved to where the front walk met the stoop. Then to the stoop. Then, the mailman rang the doorbell and waited for her to answer the door. So it was a combination wellness check/mail delivery. My parents had caregivers who were afraid to go to their mailbox, because they had seen deer in the woods. DMIL moved to a condo building after her heart attack 22 years ago. She does have to make the trip to the common mailroom for her mail, but it is everyone’s opportunity to see one another....See Morerobo (z6a)
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