Well, I guess I don't get to guess anyone's age since it has all been revealed. Allison - WOW! I so want the name of your surgeon since Im in TN, so could easily make a trip to AL. You look amazing and you've got a peaches n cream skin (hatin ya!!) Mona - you look so awesome & what a cutie you are!! I, too, want your make-up secrets and too funny @ the story you told about the older woman. Eclectic - you are beautiful and I wouldn't have guessed 40. Ive noticed women of color age beautifully & you will too. Cooperbailey - You are a doll & it's weird but from your post you look like I would expect you too. Very approachable. Sueb - you have those dark hershey bar eyes that are gorgeous! Judiegal - you have that beautiful dark Italian coloring and hair. You look awesome & all those are your girls??!! OMG - 1 child just about did me in!! Stinky - 48....no way, girl!! Pesky - you have nary a wrinkle & your DH doesn't even look younger than you!! So your having eyelid surgery, too. You'll be passing for a sibling to your children! Kitchenkelly - you are such a cutie!! Shee - Show your pretty face, girl!! I remember seeing a pic of your b4 & your gawgeous! you youngin :) Mitch - You look awesome....would you please come to TN and teach me how to dress & accessorize. I bet you have some awesome clothes. And beautiful teeth. Susanwrites - I would have never guessed your age. What beautiful hair you have.....long blonde and flowing Kellyeng - welll, aren't you a cutie. Beautiful eyes Golddust - I don't think you or your daughter look your age. You both are beautiful. I really want to comment about everyone b/c I feel as women we need to hear about the beautiful we do have. Women can be so catty that they don't often compliment other women. know I too often pick myself to misery with comparing myself to others that are younger, skinnier, more stylish.....the list goes on. Ok....I'll be back b/c I have comments about the rest....gotta leave to pick son up from school. Smiles:) Smiles:)

Sorry, I get so much to reply to I don't usually get back to these posts. You need to e-mail me because I may never see your replies & questions. If my memory is correct, around 35 years ago occassionally the compressors had higher BTUH ratings than the condensing units. Laxer49 I just checked your page & my birthday is on Dec 8th, too, I will be 73. Those 10-SEER condensers' used to do real well. If the E-Coil has a leak it should be replaced anyway. Laxer49, If it were me, I would put a New half ton larger BTUH rated Coil in there with a TXV refrigerant control. If you can get a real good deal on a new 10-SEER with that combination & the correct tightly sealed ducts & airflow it should cool okay in the hottest weather. If you want the most cost-effective payback I would do all I could to reduce the radiant & other heat gain as the insulation will also reduce the heating bills. The Installation is the most important thing, it has to be done right! Read & learn allyou can. Funkeruski, I suppose they replaced the evaporator with a matching TXV controlled coil? Everything has to be performed just right & even then if it is real hot & the indoor load is also heavy it may not equal the old unit which would have a larger BTUH capacity compressor on that 4-ton condenser. Those high SEER tests are performed under rather light load conditions. The SEER of a system is determined by multiplying the steady state energy efficiency ratio (EER) measured at conditions of 82°F Outdoor Temperature, 80°F Dry Bulb and 67°F Wet Bulb (near 50%RH) indoor entering air temperature by the Part Load Factor (PLF) of the system. (The PLF is supplied by the government.) IMO, they ought to be tested at 95 or 100-F outdoor temperature. Which SEER do you think will perform better at 100-F plus ambient temperatures, the one with the larger capacity compressor or the smaller one? You could slow the blower CFM down to keep the suction pressure & E-Coil temp somewhat lower, but that also drops sensible capacity some. At 82-F outdoors, the 15 should do real well against the 10. Just my viewpoint. udarrell _ 2007 Here is a link that might be useful: udarrell.com

No, he has been controlling in the past, I'm just starting to realize it now. He has always put me at a distance from my family and in his first marriage did the same thing, moved her across country from her family. We have been separated before. We are in what Forbes considers one of the most miserable cities in the country Stockton, CA. I have looked high and low for jobs NOTHING! I'd be willing to do just about anything at this point. Unemployment here is 20%! He agreed to help her with school provided we all come out here. She made a mistake and didn't take a full load her first semester and has a 6000.00 debt that finiancial aid won't pay for. It has to be paid in full before she goes back. She has taken responsibiliy for the mistake, found a job working only 12 hours a wk b/c that's all there is to find here. It will take forever at that rate for her to pay off. We agreed to help her but he recently said that he will not help her get back in school and she's on her own. He has never allowed me to let her learn how to drive in "his cars". My concern isn't only for my daughter getting back in school but I also have a mother who has just been diagnosed with Parkinson's disease who needs help but I can't help her, my daughter, myself or anyone at this point. Please give me some advice. I'm from the south, don't like to argue and stress, he's from NY and is very rude and aggressive, even at work.

Wow. Seven adults all in one home , a BM butting in and now a baby on the way. Not sure just what you expect to hear here as to "where do I go from here". You're in your own home currently with your kids. He's in his own home currently with his two kids, a GF and a grandbaby. I say stay put where you are. Nothing is changed from eight months ago when you moved out. Why go back now? Do you really want your soon to be baby to be living in that crazy household? I don't see this as a 'wait until the kids move out'. Are any of these kids ever going to move along? Are they going to mate and move in even more people? If they were to move out are they still going to run 'your' household and pull Daddy's strings? This man is now in your life, divorce or not, for at least the next 18 years. His chldren and their growing crew are also going to be around somewhere. They dislike you, they likely will not take kindly to a your baby and may just blame the baby for 'making Dad stay with that woman'. What about counseling for yourself? Maybe a good look inside yourself to find why and what it is that your next step needs to be...for your own good and the sake of the baby. Just because baby is due soon does not mean you have to make big decisions immediately. Take some time to sort out your own self, what it is you want and need, what's best for your current underage kids. You may also need to consult your lawyer about legal advice on things like child support, visitations, healthcare for the baby ect.