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ravencajun Zone 8b TX
6 years ago
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Comments (2)Peruvian squill? Here is a link that might be useful: Scilla peruviana...See MoreMore pictures...
Comments (5)Belatedly the best of wishes for your wedded life. Thanks for the pictures,looks like you had a lovely wedding. I too spend this weekend at a wedding, small and private, the bride a former good neighbor, the groom a friend of my husband. Nancy is 74, and Frank 79. They have no living relatives, no children, the couple and 5 friends were the wedding party....See MoreMake New Friends, But Keep The Old....
Comments (4)It was my pleasure, Vaodiva! I enjoyed the lovely ride in the country (you live in a gorgeous area) and the chance to meet you, too. And topping it off by a ride over to Felix's house from yours made it perfect. And FEEEEELix, dahlink! If you think that *I* think YOU are old...well, what can I be thinking about MYSELF, I wonder?? Oh, yeah...now I remember. I think *I* am OOOOOOLLLLLLLD! I've said so myself, in this very forum, about a kajillion times, haven't I? Well, at any rate, you are off the hook, my YOUNG friend! I got the corner on old covered, bein' as how I'm older'n DIRT! Oh. One more thing. THERE IS TOO A SANTA CLAUS!!! If you don't believe it, come to my house some Christmas! *goes off singing* "....if you just believe...if you just BE-LIEEEEEEEEEEEVE!" Marcia (who believes with a captial "B"!)...See MoreHelp with abused friend........
Comments (34)Since there doesn't appear to be an abuse pattern, I wouldn't think your friend is yet suffering from the low self esteem or even the 'I must have started it' syndrome that many abused woman feel. That's a chronic problem and almost becomes inbreed in chronically abused woman. What it sounds like your friend is dealing with is more of a "crime of passion" type of abuse which can sometimes be even more dangerous than a chronic abuser. The violent outbursts can often act up for the first time during divorces proceedings too. Obviously, she probably did something wrong by carrying on with another man (and some could say she has even been emotionally abusing her husband by having this 'affair'), so she probably does feel some real guilt. Obviously nothing she could have done would ever give him the right to physically hurt her. But her guilt is real and NOT the same thing as a typical chronic abused woman who really doesn't do 'anything' wrong, but blames herself anyway. Your friend just has misplaced REAL guilt that needs to be directed and understood better. In other words, she needs to understand that two wrongs don't make a right.... Not think that her wrong caused his (which it probably did) so that his is jusitified. It doesn't make it justified no matter how wrong what she did was. And this isn't about your friend's case.. but I would like to point out one thing that I don't think some here may realize, but there are abuse cases where women themselves do start the physical abuse. I know a girl who got very violent when she got drunk and would go at boyfriend's with knives and such. The guys were always the one's that got in trouble. I do understand that women should never be hit for any reason, but please understand that women are not always the only victim in abuse cases. They are capable of starting physical fights too; I think that may be what some mean when they say you may not know the whole story, or that there are always two sides. Of course there's no reason to ever hit anyone... but have you ever had to get away from someone trying to kill you? Abuse can go both ways -- and sometimes there really is another side....See Moreravencajun Zone 8b TX
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