No good deed goes unpunished

dandyrandylou

8 years ago

Have you experience with this old adage? My question is why is it so true?

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Suzieque
8 years ago
Hi, dandy. You've got lots of responses to the thread from yesterday. For the most part, it seems that folks (myself included), don't feel that it holds true.

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8 years ago
I say people like being on the receiving end. Give an inch and they come back to take a mile. Also...people you give your time or money to often take the accomplishment as a personal success. When you refuse to continue with say...paying their rent as a good deed....spread it around elsewhere...they become enraged...and think YOUR the problem.

I do "good deeds" voluntarily ie: I pick up trash when I go for walks or runs. I "was" volunteering to post photos, manipulating their size for a cat rescue, until the person I reported to stopped doing anything & got bossy. I resigned.

dandyrandylou...what's been YOUR experience with this?
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GGG -- That's a really good idea! I have a notebook with those plastic, looseleaf sheets for organizing 3x5 or 4x6 photos. They are about the right size for storing plant tags. (Although Monrovia ones have to be cut off at the bottom a little to fit.) If I get a lousy tag with very little detail from wherever, I still put it in there (so I can remember where I bought the plant), but I try to go online and print out whatever details I find there. Then, I fold it and put it behind the tag in the plastic sheet. It's not very pretty, but for most of the plants in my yard, I have some info. I also have a section for fertilizers I've used in the past. It is hard to remember the formula I like for a particular kind of plant (and I can never remember which number of the three is which). Walter Reeves has some kind of Saturday Night Fever dance that he uses to show people how to remember the numbers, but I still can't recall it when I need to! :)
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Well that's the kicker sushi. We have no fault here so each insurance company pays their clients damages. Even if he doesn't report to his insurance company our insurance will and his daughters premiums will go up even if they don;t claim anything. Given the door already had scratches and we were going to get it painted anyway, Clive told him that he would only ask for any costs that were above the original quote. No additional costs then we'd just forget it. That to me is more than reasonable. We did get the new quote and the additional costs over what we had been quoted is $300. That's all we would have asked for. Anyhow, he said what he did. So now Clive will claim the full repairs through insurance and the jerks premiums for his daughter will go up. I wasn't comfortable with charging for the full repair but the insurance company said the entire door needed painting as a result of the accident so existing scratches were irrelevant. The guy really wasn't thinking!
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It's really nice what you've done mom2emall, hopefully it helps BM. Sounds like you already made the decision but your post has been on my mind so I'll still put my 2 bob in :-) You're right, it's better to stay neutral with BM rather then befriending her. There's every change that that would put you in the middle of BM's drama and that's not good for the kids, simple as that. The kids need you and that is your primary concern, so it's better to keep BM at a distance. My experience with people like this is that they take advantage of you, even if they don't do it with bad intentions. It's just the only way they know. They'll lean on you, unload on you, drain you of your energy. This is how they cope with their drama. BM might show up at your place one night after a fight with BF, imagine what that would do with the kids. You just can't afford to take the risk. You're home is their stable and safe place. You've done a nice thing, I hope BM is encouraged to take some action :-)
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Bruising is receeding and still no evidence that a great amount of tissue will be lost. Not eating more than 10% of normal amount but drinking twice as much water. At 12 years old it might be a long time before returning to normal. We are just thankful they saved her. Thank you for asking.
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8 years ago
Yes, it has happen several times. Do something good for someone and you get a kick in the pants. It doesn't happen everytime but more then once is too much.
amylou321
8 years ago
last modified: 8 years ago
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

Why? Because some people suck,and they like to take advantage of those who do not suck.

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