Dee, I was going to ask husband if I could take a picture of his behind (clothed of course) because it looks so good for his age, or any age for that matter. However, I know he would never go for that lol. He's feeling old lately with all the work we are doing. Still, I know he would feel really great if he got some nice comments. I don't think most men get enough nice comments about their person. I mean not like us women anyway. In a weeks time we will usually get comments on something whether it be a, hey nice shirt or nice earrings or oh I like your hair. Men don't usually get that. I have made the mistake of complimenting men's appearance in the past, usually something like, that is a nice shirt and color on you. But I guess it looked like I was flirting. I can assure you I was not. Sometimes I'm clueless to the insecurity of some women. I'm not a jealous person so I don't always understand that emotion in others. Auntjen, you are funny...yes indeedy!

Some very good advice given. Some points to consider: 1. I did a little research just now and discovered there IS an actual sleep disorder called "Shift Work Sleep Disorder". I've provided a link to a website explaining this disorder and HIGHLY RECOMMEND reading it. 2. Men need to feel financially secure. If they aren't then it definitely affects them negatively...leading to depression. 3. Sorry, but men could get pissy with you, but still want nooky after. Women...a man pisses us off, he's banned from touching us for the night. Keeping him sexually happy will help lessen his tension most definitely. Hate to say it, but the #1 thing most guys complain about not getting from their wives is oral. They'd even take bad oral over no oral. Seriously! Also, they're typically even more happy if they don't have to do any *work* themselves. I know, it sounds shallow and selfish, but it is what it is. Just remember, men are VERY visual, simple creatures so remember that when you're thinking of ways to show him you're still attracted. Little notes here and there are nice, but if you want to stir him crazy...do naughty things. lol Maybe webcam him at work with an unexpected quick "flash" or send a naughty text message to his cell phone with or w/o a private naughty pic. Remember: Guys are VERY visual and simple creatures. 4. Women are intuitive, men aren't. We read between the lines and can identify someone's wants & needs MUCH better than men can. Again, remember...simple creatures. Hinting around to something you want doesn't work often. Guys would rather their lady just tell them than having to figure it out and possibly get it wrong. I'm not saying they're STUPID. I'm just saying they like things simple and not complicated. 5. Be super careful with arguing around the children. This is NOT good. Children are VERY perceptive. How they play with others and how they communicate with you and your husband is reflective of your relationship. Its important they see the 2 of you as a team, respecting each other, not correcting or critizing the other. Its important the 2 of you work out your differences in disciplining privately and decide how the 2 of you will handle child conflicts. Additionally, its CRUCIAL that if either parent's method of discipline begins changing into an unhealthy/possibly emotional abusive manner that the person steps away from the situation...aka an adult time-out. JohnnyLee is correct in suggesting you determine a code word/phrase so if one of you gets a bit out of hand, you've BOTH agreed that the person excuse themselves from the situation. This is much healthier for everyone involved. I wish you all the best with your situation. Kindly, Me Here is a link that might be useful: Shift Work Sleep Disorder

Dh & I talked about it, and have started working on an overall plan. I made chart listing changes one or both of us want to make, and whether they would help sell. Dh wants to approach it as if this were just a house we wanted to flip, putting the least amount of money & effort for the biggest impact. And that is probably a good idea. If it works out that we don't need to live within a few yards of mil and we keep the house, we can still expand the one bedroom and enlarge our closet without tearing up too much of what we do now. A few of you have mentioned that we've lived with this closet for 15 years and it is just now a problem. But that isn't the case really. The closet has always been something I wanted to change, and at one point it was for dh too. BUT, we have a walk in closet in the family room and dh took it over for his sporting equipment. We have a walk in closet in the garage and dh took it over for his work related stuff. So yeah, now the closet isn't a problem for dh, but even more so for me because now my stuff has been squeezed out of the other two closets. When we were talking today, dh said he has a lot of seasonal clothes he could put in another closet. One guest room closet is packed with our "this doesn't fit right now" clothes, and the other guest room closet is empty, but I told him I have dibs on it for MY sewing stuff. It's only 2x4' but beats nothing. And yes, we need face the fact that neither of us are going to lose weight and get rid of the clothes that don't fit. That will be another small closet open. jak1, that is probably the best idea - a free standing wardrobe. We have an armoire on the wall next to the closet now, but no hanging space. I could probably rework what is in it now, fold a lot of dh's t-shirts and maybe put baskets on top and ease the crowding in our closet.

It's not your fault! If he really want them, he'd have written it on a Post-It note, or handed you the lid/label from the old box. :) At least that's what I do with sieve-headed men. :) The great thing about living in town is that there are all these new sharing economy apps where you can pay a couple of bucks to the app plus a tip to students who need the work to bring you whatever you forgot when you were out. :) Give it another few years, though, and in the country you'll be able to get the fencing staples delivered by drone. :)