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Comments (6)Glenda, Sounds similar to ours. Doesn't seem like it will ever end. But if they don't change the forecast again as it gets closer we will have possible 30's for lows Wed and Thur nights and then highs in the 90's starting around the 18th. Our plants had better hit the ground running. And we are getting real dry again. The wind on the tight ground is starting to hurt. Some has already suffered some permanent damage. Hoping we can get some this week. We will be getting the wind again this week. This spring has went like they did 2-4 years previous. Last year warmed up by the end of April and we had short period for things to grow and mature before the heat hit. Did the pea seed germinate and come up or not? The only reason I ask is I have trouble with the black birds and now the ornery squirrel nipping off and removing some of my early plants. Most of the time they don't eat them. Just watch them hit the ground and go on to another one. I had almost 100% on my pea seed. They haven't grown very fast. Afraid the heat will shut them down before I have a chance to get any. And I planted fairly early. May try to sneak them in earlier and cover with a row cover next year. Will have to make decisions about whether to start planting tomatoes today or not. Think some will start going it with buckets around them. Then will cover up on the cool nights. Hoping everyone gets the moisture they need. Jay...See MoreMy musings about weddings and marriage
Comments (29)Even though my marriage was over after just under 10 years, I still think we did the wedding just right. We were married at Niagara Falls with just our families. Yes, it was a destination wedding but we weren't requiring anyone to come. We were eloping and if our family wanted to be there they were welcome to be there. We knew it wasn't a financial hardship on anyone except maybe my cheap FIL but my MIL was thrilled because it was the only real 'vacation' she ever had. I don't think she's ever even been to the beach and she is over 60 (and she lives within just a few hours of the beach!) The weather was beautiful and everyone had a good time. We were married outside on the American side of the falls and my parents paid for dinner in a private room at the Red Coach Inn. The kids did the touristy stuff, the adults got to gamble at the casino. My sister was able to bring her dog who is part of our family. It was just a great, fun and relaxing weekend. My cousin had a HUGE fancy wedding and her marriage lasted less than a year. I have never seen so many gifts at a bridal shower. I just feel sad that she wasted that on her first husband since she has a great marriage with her second husband and they didn't do a big thing since, well, it just didn't seem right after the first wedding. Actually I have at least three cousins who had VERY short marriages after big weddings. Our generation just hasn't been very lucky in that respect, no matter how big the wedding was....See MoreWannabe Vegetable Gardener Musings
Comments (60)Just thought I'd update the thread a little... The tomatoes have been pretty much a bust so far this year...the wet, hot summer has been conducive to ripening tomatoes rotting on the vines. The tomatoes coming on the indeterminate vines now that are higher up show a bit more promise being as they look more healthy. I've tried to keep the lower parts of the vines clear. Okra is producing. Zipper cream cowpeas are producing well...the bright spot in the garden, so far!!! Small bell peppers continue to supply us with what we can eat. The cucumbers suffered from Downy Mildew and then the pickle worms arrived...did not get much of a harvest from them, though everything was planted late so didn't have much time between starting production and the time that DM and the pickle worms arrived. Squash struggled and now pickle worms...again, late planting didn't help them. Watermelons are just now setting fruit. Cantaloupe actually look pretty good for the few hills that I planted...looks like we've got about a dozen melons growing. It's a learning experience, that is for sure!!! Where we started...and where we're at today......See MoreWedding musings part two - guest list
Comments (20)"Second roadblock is that my dad's increasing mental illness is making it impossible for us to stay in the house I inherited from my mother. Since dad bought it and owned it, he is harassing us constantly even though he no longer lives there." With the stipulation that it's none of my business ;), the above statement is one of the major issues you mention repeatedly in your discussions of what is stressing you. I"m wondering how the situation occurred; were your parents divorced? In most marital inheritance situations the surviving spouse inherits the home so not sure why you inherited a mother's house while father is still alive. Regardless one step you can take is to get out of there and cut the financial dependence toxic string. Your father literally is in control of the roof over your head so severing that control seems to be a very important and necessary first step. And then Pinkmountain, I strongly suggest you find a good therapist. Reading this topic and the other one you started recently, there seems to be an incredible stew of negativity in your life and you seem to find reasons that you have to continue to season, stir and nourish yourself on that stew. You can't disassociate yourself from your father, you can't plan a simple wedding that won't stress you out more, etc etc. I'm not writing this to slam you although it may feel that way. But in life, when we get into a damaging loop of emotional and decision making that is guaranteed to keep us miserable and/or make us more so.....I think it's time to get some help. If nothing else you can ask about anticipatory caregiving stress which is clearly a huge issue for you--it's worrying about a future that, frankly, you cannot control and which may not even happen. You are spending huge amounts of time resenting your father for what you THINK is going to happen to him--and you have absolutely no say in his decisions that will lead him along his life path, whatever it may be. You do however have complete control of how you will and can deal with his decisions, and therapy can help you figure out how you get clarity on not only those boundaries but on how you can live within them at peace with yourself. Personally I liken it to taking the car in if it's not running right or going to the doctor to get medicine that will cure my body if I'm ill. Emotional and personal misery can be helped, and there may even be a physical component. Meds and therapy can be an incredibly helpful combination, or therapy alone. Regardless we all know the definition of insanity: doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. Continuing to agonize while staying stuck in a financial, family or life decision cycle that is negative is never going to get you into a better place. Good luck, I truly hope you find a way to get peace and joy back in your life....See Morerunninginplace
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