OT:Gardenia for pot with cremation ashes
Lisa Adams
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Comments (32)Oh yes, this bunch will always bring it around to food. Smiles. My father lived down in Florida for a few years with his sister. I remember the day he called me up sooo excited. He found a place down there that would cremate him and ship him for $699. LOL He didn't want any funeral, wanted to be cremated and buried in same space as my mother. We four kids had a bit of a discussion about it after he died, but we kept to his wishes and just we siblings and our partners were there when we put the little box in the ground. He wanted us to dig the hole ourselves at night, to save money, smiles, but our cemetery association was happy to do it for a few dollars. That was our only deviation from his requests. He did die when he was living back up here with us, so we didn't need the shipping but in his honor I did shop around for a nice reasonable crematorium. He'd have been proud. In fact I think he let me know he was pleased. A couple months after he died I was sitting at the computer with my back to the hall doorway. I heard him walk up the hall, say Hey loudly, like he always did in greeting. He sounded happy. It took me a few beats to realize/remember that he was no longer alive. Don, I knew you'd come up with some great music for the occasion. Smiles. When I was younger[thirties] my fondest wish was to have my body made into a skeleton like you have in anatomy class and just get propped in the corner for the kids to play with. As my nieces and nephews came along none of them seemed to care for the idea and it died a sad death. Ah well.. kids these days.. no imagination.. Smiles....See MoreChoosing a plant to grow in forest over pet
Comments (12)Thank you so much for all your suggestions and support! I buried Bagel yesterday. After lots of research, I finally just stopped by a native plants nursery near the forest. Bleeding Heart and Columbine beat out Foamflower for looks, all had lovely foliage. But I ended up settling on Hay-scented Fern. It's much more tactile, and somehow seemed much more Bagel the Ferrety - the others seemed too ornamental/fragile or something for his (or my, really) personality. He has an honorary fern now. Think it should be renamed Bagel Fern. And yes, I did discover upon enquiry at the nursery that really no plant that will survive the winter in the wild can do well in a pot. And that almost no plant will be ready for taking a cutting in less than a couple years after planting. And that few plants take well from seeds. So... I bought two ferns, planted one, and will see if I can keep the other around on balconies, etc., and get a third for my mom's yard where we'll have another memorial. If I can come back in a few years and take a cutting from the wild fern, I'll do that. So anyway, thank you all again. The strange and unexpected things about all this are that 1) I can see having an interest in gardening now; this from a very non-planty person, and 2) it helped me get more over a bit of a plant phobia caused by a really bad poison ivy run-in last summer. Thanks. - Karen...See MoreMemorial service without reception
Comments (16)Thanks --- Linda, I believe it was $5.95, 6.95 or $7.95 pp, depending upon what it was - from cold cut items for sandwiches to roast chicken. The committee from the parish filled in then with salads and desserts. They had certain numbers to base it off of, whether the person was younger or older, well known, etc as obviously you can't know for certain how many people to expect. They had the numbers set in increments of 25. Dedtired, after thinking about your oginal post a little more, it sounds like she passed away too young, which I think makes it all the more difficult on those left behind. I've lost people before, but none as close as my mother and it is a completely different type of grief, so I can only imagine how the husband must feel. Since they lived in Maryland, maybe they had more of a visitation there, and he didn't feel like he knew enough people where she grew up to be comfortable in that type of situation? I know personally that group settings are very difficult for me to function in at this time, and I tend to be social, so maybe it was more than he could handle. One thing I find is true is that everyone handles grief differently, and nobody really knows how they will handle it until it happens to them. But it is hard to come to terms with others not grieving in the same way when you feel you need more closure -- not sure this is making sense but I do understand where you are coming from. Wishing you peace....See MorePet Memorial
Comments (24)I haven't forgotten I just cant figure out a way to describe what I am talking about. I spent hours last night looking for something that resembles the materials needed. I do have a picture on my phone, but its not very good. I will try to see if I can figure out how to put it on the computer. My Bear has bone cancer, so I have been thinking alot about preparing for his passing. Anyway, I was at Kmart last weekend, they had the cutest little "area" set up...When I saw it my heart stopped and tears came to my eyes..I knew that this is what I would do for Bear's final Place. Ok just crying thinking about it.. Hope this makes sense.. Garden "bricks" not the brick shaped but the ones that are wider..This display took 9 and laid them on the bottom row, then moved in placed 8, next level 7, next level 6 and so on..until only 1 brick was on top. On each level there was a room on the end..They had garden birds. You could use fewer bricks to make it smaller..Anyway, in the front they had it lined with landscaping concrete scalloped bricks..Mulch was between the wall and the front. They had little gnomes sitting in it along with a water feature and a bird bath. One of the stones would be wonderful with it.I think I will use flower pots instead of a few of the little garden figures. It was all so cute. I will try to get the picture to post..Hope this made sense. littlebit...See MoreLisa Adams
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