Nixw Funeral
About a week ago we helped close friends of ours bury their oldest son. He had one brother and three sisters and was a carpenter most of his life and did fantastic wood working and house building. He was 61 years old, died after a short battle with cancer and proclaimed to be an Atheist. He had requested that he be buried in a "pine box" so upon his death, his father and brother(who are also carpenters) built him a perfectly plain "pine casket". He was wrapped in a lovely quilt that his mother had made for him a few years ago. They dressed him in his blue jeans and brown T-shirt which was his usual costume.
The minster honored his request that there would be "no Bible thumping." He read just a short sketch of his life, there was no music, and friends and family left special momento's in his "Pine Box" with him. His 3 daughters and three Granddaughters were pall bearers and they all wore bight colored Hawaiian shirts, as he had loved those himself. Every person in attendance loved the cermony and I thought ("Why Not")? He also requested no memorials of flowers or money, and friends honored his request. As his parents said "this was Larry's life, his requests and his funeral". "This is what he wanted". Differnt relatives and friends told stories of their relationship to Larry. Oh, they also put a six pack of beer and some of his tools in the casket. Why am I telling this story.....because I'm so tired of people spending so much money on funerals. Who are we trying to impress? The person is gone, they are not impressed that we put them in a $4,000 casket and bought a $300 blanket of flowers to put on it. And most minsters rant on and on about this person, who is now in Heaven, etc.(Do they know that for sure?). Flowers and other memorials in abundance. M ore money spent. Yes, I know, the funeral is for the remaining family and friends. Why don't we use that money to help folks who are alive and need some financial aid ? One of my nephews was buried wearing a smudged white T-shirt, his old, nearly worn out blue jeans and some dirt rubbed on his hands and his father said "now that's my boy ! He was never clean except on Sundays". They also tucked his pack of cigarettes in his shirt pocket. I hope I haven't opened a "whole can of worms" but I think we need to review our "impressive, costly" funerals . Just for the record, I have one Uncle, one brother-in-law, and three brothers who are all Minsters. Yes, we have some disagreements ! But I love 'em all.
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