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i think my hibiscuses are upset with me
Comments (6)Dori's advice is always right on, but let me say something additional about fertilizing hibiscus. If the plant is in a part of the growth cycle when it SHOULD be growing well and leaves are green & it's aborting or not setting buds, it's likely a light or fertilizer issue. The light issue is obvious - you need more of it if the plant is not in full sun. If you expect a fertilizer to help optimize bloom production on this plant, you NEED to insure it's low in phosphorous (the middle number) or you can look for a high % of bud loss or minimal budset. Do not use anything labeled bloom-booster or similar on hibiscus. There is also no need to pay the long dollar for anything labeled "hibiscus food/fertilizer". Miracle Gro all purpose soluble fertilizer in the 24-8-16 or 12-4-8 blend works wonderfully on these plants, and its performance can be enhanced by adding 1 tbsp of potash per gallon of soil at potting/repot time or including a K supplement like ProTeKt 0-0-3 in your fertilizer regimen. Ca and Mg are also very important to the plant, so you need to be sure they are included in the soil (dolomitic [garden] lime) when you purchase it, or add it yourself - the same applies when you make your own soils. If you want to rejuvenate the plant, wait until after Memorial Day & treat it just like the pics you see in the thread I'll link to below. I do my brother's and our (business) accountants this way every spring & they couldn't bear to watch the first time I did it. I've also treated those I've wintered over in like fashion & they always do well. Al Here is a link that might be useful: More info...See MoreDoes my mother have the right to be upset with me?
Comments (12)As not all reasons for moving have been given, it's difficult to give an answer. I can understand moving for better schools but an hour and a half away? No better schools closer. It appears more like the issue is your mother not doing what you think she should do. You stated she has helped you when needed and it wasn't any kind of hassle. That says something. What do you want her to do? Are there programs at the school you want her to show interest in? Have you told her that? Do the children want her more involved? If a program or activity, have you given her the dates and times and advised of any changes? For the other grandparents to show lots of interest when they are around them is natural in showing love and affection. You try to be extra attentive to what they say and do and do things with them as your time is limited and you put as much as possible into that time. I'm not convinced the other grandparents are more attentive, it's just making the most of the time they have. I don't know what you said to your mother. It may have been hurtful. It just sounds like the move is more for convenience than need. I'd take a step back, take a hard look at everything and then decide if a move is the best thing for everyone. I NEVER would have lived close to my inlaws as I don't feel I should have to tell them everywhere I'm going or what I'm doing and schedule around them. I would not have lived close to my parents as my mother and I are too much alike - stubborn and opinionated!! :O) Maybe all that was needed was for her to be invited. I used to do much more for my grandchildren but age does catch up with you for all those bumps and bangs you got through the years. Sweetie, I just don't bend like I used to and with the neuropathy now, if I get on my knees, Lord help me find something to pull myself up. Mommas don't usually tell their children of their problems. Maybe she's going through something you have no clue about. Why not think about your reasons for moving, sit down with you momma and have a good talk and go from there. It is truly sad but we all look back on our life and say "What If". Do what you need to do but not by breaking someone's heart. Perhaps she seems distant as she's trying to prepare herself for when you, her little girl, is gone. :O( I wish you the best. Lynn...See MoreFamily Secrets- Upsetting to me.
Comments (19)I've seen a lot of families healed when 'secrets' are cleared up. Where truth is not, fear and evil are free to work. I co-led a search and support group for adult adoptees and birthfamilies for 15 years. I saw many fearful adoptive parents (belatedly) stop fearing that they would be replaced if their children ever met or knew their birthfamilies. I saw adoptees stop feeling they had to protect their adoptive parents from those fears, lest they lose those parents too. I saw birthparents able to stop fearing what might have happened to their babies. jannie -- The shame is that your father's birthmother (and her sibs who 'knew') were afraid to express love for him. The natural affection he would have felt for his sisters was something they had to fear because of this perversion of truth. The attraction your father felt towards his genetic sisters is natural. It's something our support group taught our searchers to understand. When Mom brings New Baby home, the family bonds -- in appropriate roles. If Baby is estranged from his family, natural familial attraction is confused -- and can be mis-interpreted as sexual attraction by adult family members (inappropriate roles). None of our searchers believed this emotion could overwhelm *them* -- until they had searched and found. Not every person experienced it, but many did -- both those searching and those found. Because they knew this emotion could occur, most remembered to let things settle so that the desired relationships could take shape. A few were carried away, temporarily complicating or completely ruining lasting bonds. There are no *good* family secrets that last beyond the opening of Christmas presents. It's sad that secrets do so much harm within a family, especially as they are so often created to deflect the temporary disapproval of strangers -- who will gossip anyway, and who couldn't care less in the long run....See MoreAnyone else upset or just me????
Comments (44)Twas the month before Christmas When all through our land, Not a Christian was praying Nor taking a stand. Why the Politically Correct Police had taken away, The reason for Christmas - no one could say. The children were told by their schools not to sing, About Shepherds and Wise Men and Angels and things. It might hurt people's feelings, the teachers would say December 25th is just a " Holiday ". Yet the shoppers were ready with cash, checks and credit Pushing folks down to the floor just to get it! CDs from Madonna, an X BOX, an I-pod Something was changing, something quite odd! Retailers promoted Ramadan and Kwanzaa In hopes to sell books by Franken & Fonda. As Targets were hanging their trees upside down At Lowe's the word Christmas - was no where to be found. At K-Mart and Staples and Penny's and Sears You won't hear the word Christmas; it won't touch your ears. Inclusive, sensitive, Di-ver-si-ty Are words that were used to intimidate me. Now Daschle, Now Darden, Now Sharpton, Wolf Blitzen On Boxer, on Rather, on Kerry, on Clinton ! At the top of the Senate, there arose such a clatter To eliminate Jesus, in all public matter. And we spoke not a word, as they took away our faith Forbidden to speak of salvation and grace. The true Gift of Christmas was exchanged and discarded The reason for the season, stopped before it started. So as you celebrate "Winter Break" under your "Dream Tree" Sipping your Starbucks, listen to me. Choose your words carefully, choose what you say Shout MERRY CHRISTMAS, not Happy Holiday !...See MoreMarcy
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