etiquette question: What to do when contractors are here?
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Here's a dumb mulch question-do you move it aside when planting?
Comments (9)I laid out my garden in long rows, separated by about three feet. In that space between the rows is where I put all mulch and compost that eventually breaks down and becomes part of the soil makeup. In order for wood chips to break down to compost, from my reading, it requires an absorption of surrounding nitrogen. So, if you have it surrounding the plants too closely, it will be using the available nitrogen the plant needs for early growth. I found this to be the case a few years ago, so I always keep anything resembling mulch a few inches away from my plants. But once the plants have established themselves, the roots are reaching down under those spaces between the rows to absorb their nutrients. At least that's how I explain this whole mystery to myself....See MoreGardening etiquette (What would you do?)
Comments (8)Thanks for the advice everyone! When I got home from work last night, she was outside and came over to chat for a few minutes and let me and DH know that she was moving this weekend and that the new tenants are moving in a week or two. She renewed her offer for me to take whatever, especially since she had showed the house to the lady who is moving in and was telling her about different plants and said that the lady didn't seem to show any interest whatsoever since she has little kids. My neighbor said that she liked the fact that they were going to a good home and was even more generous than she has already been and said that when she comes back to visit in a few months (her adult kids live nearby) that she would bring me some more divisions of her dad's irises (apparently he has quite a collection). I am just blown away by her generosity. Maybe by the time she comes back to visit, she will be able to take some divisions of my plants (and some of her plants) back with her :) I really hate that she can't take her plants with her to her parents' house, especially since so many of them came from her patients' gardens (she's a hospice nurse). I hope that she will have time to tell me about each of them when I go to get divisions later this week. I brought her some large boxes and we offered to help her load up, but I will make sure to bring her some cookies or something when I go over. Thanks for all the advice everyone! :)...See MoreNot Sure What to Think (Etiquette Question)
Comments (66)The Pretty Lady & Two monks Once upon a time a old monk and a young monk were traveling together. They came to the bank of a river and found the bridge was damaged. They had to wade across the river.There they found a pretty lady stuck at the damaged bridge who couldn't cross the river on her own. The young monk offered to carry the pretty lady across the river on his back. The lady accepted. The old monk was shocked by the move of the young monk. "How can my disciple brother carry a lady when we are supposed to avoid all intimacy with females?" thought the old monk. But he kept quiet. The young monk carried the lady across the river and the old monk followed unhappily. When they had crossed the river, the young monk let the lady down and they parted ways with her. All along the way for several miles, the old monk was very unhappy with the act of the young monk. He was making up all kinds of accusations about the young monk in his head. This got him madder and madder. But he still kept quiet. And the young monk had no inclination to explain his situation. Finally, at a rest point many hours later, the old monk could not stand it any further, he burst out angrily at the younger monk. "How can you claim yourself a devout monk, when you seize the first opportunity to touch a female, especially when she is very pretty? All your teachings to me make you a big hypocrite." The young monk looked surprised and said, "I had put down the pretty lady at the river bank many hours ago, how come you are still carrying her along?" This very old Chinese zen story reflects the thinking of many people today. We encounter many unpleasant things in our life, they irritate and make us angry. Sometimes, they even cause us lot of hurt or make us bitter. But like the old monk, we are not willing to let them go. We keep on carrying the baggage of the "unpleasant memory" with us. We let it keep on coming back to hurt us, make us angry, make us bitter and cause us a lot of agony. Why?...See Moredog walking etiquette question
Comments (13)Respecting our own space and the space of another is not unfriendly, IMHO. Some people combine a treasured moment to be alone with walking their dog. Some are keeping a fast pace with their dog for a kind of exercise standard and don't want to break their pace by stopping. Some folks are just wanting their dog to have exercise and get home soon. Of course, some people have found that walking their dog has been a nice way to meet their neighbors. At the stage I am at with my doggie, I see meeting another person and dog on the way as a kind of challenge and brightens or clouds my/our day. We are still learning how to behave with others. Bless his heart. Also, a dog's body language will let me know if I want to turn around or cross a street (actually, I don't have another street to cross to). The person walking their dog will also show some body language. Sometimes I'll turn around just because I don't want to set off neighboring dogs to barking -- especially if the walk is very early morning or very late evening. Since I have to walk on a street (no sidewalk), I will walk my dog to the side of the road and wait for a car to pass before I proceed walking. I think that drivers on our semi-remote street appreciate this. At night I use a flashlight so we can be seen....See MoreIdaClaire
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