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What Did You or Do You Call Your Parents?

9 years ago
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My sister and I always called our parents, Mother and Daddy. I found out in later years when I married, my husband's parents were also called that. How about you? We are called Mom and Dad. He is called Grandpa and I am Grandma Sue.

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  • 9 years ago

    Called mine Mom and Dad. In laws Mother and Dad.

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  • 9 years ago

    Momma and daddy . Grampa and gram-ma for my grandparents .

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  • 9 years ago
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    Mother was out of my life from just prior to sixth birthday, but think it was Mum.

    Dad was always Dad.

    Dad's mother lived with us after Grampa's death, and she was Gram-a, and Grampa, who died around when I was six. Mum's Dad died before I knew him, and her mother was always "Gram-a", too.

    He and Mum were close, and when Dad went to visit her following recent admission to psych. hosp, he wondered whether to tell her of Grampa's death. Right after she saw him and had a look at his face, she said, "Grampa died, didn't he?", Dad reported to us in later years.

    Son calls me "Dad", as does daughter usually when face to face, but on greeting then, and especially when greeting on the phone, it's "Daddy".

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  • 9 years ago

    My parents died when I was 21 (well, my birthday was between their deaths, which were a month apart). But, when they were alive they were always Mama and Daddy. Still are.

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  • 9 years ago

    I call them mom and dad. I've always called my in-laws by their first names.

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  • 9 years ago

    I call my parents Mom and Dad and my kids call me Mom and Dad. My younger son tried to call me by my first name when he was in about Gr.2 but I said no. I told him that everybody and their dog can call me by my first name including strangers but that only two people in the whole wide world could call me Mom and that was him and his brother. And I thought that was pretty special. He hasn't called me anything but that since then.

    I call my MIL, Mrs. last name and have never been invited to do anything else. Tells you a lot about our relationship. I wasn't first choice in a bride for her son - oh well.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and Dad. My best friend has never called her parents by any traditional parental name. She called her mom - Gina and her dad -Teeps or Mister. I only tell this because it amused me. Our kids call us Mom and Dad except the youngest calls me Mama and they all call me Janet when I don't answer them after calling Mom two or three times. Yes, I tend to phase them out when I am busy.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and pop.

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  • 9 years ago

    Both have now passed but it was always Mom and Dad (or Daddy).

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  • 9 years ago

    I call them mom and dad, always have. Our kids call us MommyDaddy and usually just like that, all run together as one name! Always makes us laugh.

    If we aren't together then they will address us individually but at home, it's always MommyDaddy. :)

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  • 9 years ago

    I called my parents Mom and Dad. My kids did the same with me. Some grands called me Grandma Shirley, some just Grandma, and another set Grammy. Great grands: Some Great Grandmama, others Great Grandma Shirley.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mine were Mother and daddy, my kids call us mom and dad..(mommy when they were little) and we're grandma and grandpa which is what I called mine.

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  • 9 years ago

    Interesting thread...DS who lives with us calls us Mm..ah like French and PaPA. DD uses Mom, Dad. I called my parents Mom& Dad, DHs father was Pop to all. Our Grands call us Nanny and Boomp....oh yes, our Children call us that too, when Grands are around. And, I am Nanny to everyone in our family and their friends, depending on the occasion. I tend to forget the "Nanny thing" now that all the

    Grands are grown up and not around and the GreatGrands live so far away. One day, probably, I will change my user name; I started using that name when my grands left the country to serve in the military in Okinawa in 1998 and I got my own computer so I could be in touch. Remember when one could not phone around the world without breaking the bank?

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  • 9 years ago

    I called my parents Mom & Dad. The out-laws were first name only or if possible nothing at all. To them I was "that Irish". My kids call us Mom & Dad & grandkids call us Nana & Papa.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and Dad, but when we were little we called out mother "mummy". Something to do with the Canadian background, I think. Grandparents on my mom's side were Granppy and Grammy. Grandparents on my dad's side passed away before we were old enough to know them.

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  • 9 years ago

    I'm having a hard time remembering what I called my father as a child, but my mother was Mommy/Mom. My mother threw my father out when I was about two. Their divorce was final when I was six. I did see him from time to time, but... he just wasn't "a reliable man".

    DH -- who IS a reliable man! -- is Dad to our DS, and I am Mom. Same with our DIL. Our DS is Daddy/Dad to our DGD (5), but is Papa to our DGS (11). DGS's early caregiver was the lady next door, who used "Papa", and it stuck.

    DH and I are Grandma and Grandpa. DIL's parents are Jaja and Busia; they are third generation Polish-American.

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  • 9 years ago

    My sister and I called our parents Mom and Dad.

    In-laws presented something new - We had never thought about that prospect before. At family gatherings, it was bit awkward for newly weds to know how to address their in-laws. For a time, I addressed my wife's parents as Mother (last name) and Father (last name). I used this nomenclature in public places, however, in private settings their preference soon moved to first names. I private settings, I would revert to Mother/Father (first or last name) when I wished to express more endearment.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mama and Daddy. Only had one set of grandparents....my dad's parents and they were Grandma and Grandpa....but I had very little interaction with them...even though we lived next door to them. They died when I was 10 and with a little money left over from selling their house and dividing the money between their 3 kids, I got my first horse....so that is what I usually think of when I think of them. I remember going over there one time to play with my cousins and when it came time for lunch, Grandma told me to go home. So I did, and when I came back, she had put my stick horse in her trash barrel and was burning it. When I went to pull it out, she actually came at me swinging her cane! One of my cousins said, "Get her, Granny." That always stayed with me. Mean old witch. But, when she died, I got a real horse....so that was better than a stick horse.

    My mother and father were Grandma and Granddad to their grandchildren.

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  • 9 years ago

    Call my mother Mum or Mommy, and my father I call Daddy. My heavenly Father, I call Abba Daddy. Maternal Grandmother & Grandfather are Grammy & Gramps. Paternal are Grandmother, and Grandpa John. (at their request )

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  • 9 years ago

    Mama, then, later, Mom and always Frank. The only time I called him Daddy was when I was very young and would be angry. Would stomp my foot and call him Daddy then. I was a spoiled brat, my brother was 22 years older than me, my sister was 24 years older, she was pregnant with her second child the same time my mother was pregnant with me. I was born last! My dad passed away when I was 12, I didn't find out until I was an adult that he wasn't my biological dad.

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  • 9 years ago

    I wish they were still here, so I could call them.

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  • 9 years ago

    Marilyn, that is heartbreaking. Never had a dad. Call my mom, "mom".

    Grandma was Noni. Never really knew my grandfather, either.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and Dad. My father's mother was "Nana," and my mother's mother was "Mamie," the name her friends called her.

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  • 9 years ago

    I called my parents mom and dad, and DS uses these same terms for DH and me. When he was little, he called me mommy and after he was older and calling me mom, he "slipped" once and called me mommy. I was secretly delighted to have a glimpse of that little boy once more.

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    First Mommy and Daddy; later Mother and Daddy. I got dubbed Mom after Mommy; their father is still Daddy. My second husband was Poppa to my children, later to inlaws and even close friends of my children and our grandchildren.

    I'm not comfortable calling my elders by their first name or the young calling me by mine. First husband 's parents were Mimi and PopPop - grandchildren called them that, too. Second husband's parents asked to be called Mere and Pere, and Ooma and Oompa by my children. My parents were Moie and Granny to grandchildren. I honestly don't remember what 1st husband called them! My son in law dubbed me MOLA, an acronym for Mother in Law! Grandchildren call me Gram. Confused?

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and dad. Called DMIL mom also. Our kids call us mom and dad as do their spouses.

    Grands call us grandma and grandpa. They call the in laws grandma and grandpa to although sometimes papa for the grandpa since that grandma is promoting it.

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  • 9 years ago

    My mother was Mom; my father has always been Daddy. My grandsons call me Grandma, and they call my father "Old Grandpa" (their idea to add "Old" since he is their great-grandfather). When my mother was alive, she was "Old Grandma" and I was "Young Grandma".

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  • 9 years ago

    Angela, a few years ago, I "met" one of my cousins....not the one that said, "Get her Granny." that one is dead now. The cousin that I "met" is very nice and we get along very well. We would never have been allowed to associate, growing up. So much animosity in our families. We now can laugh about how they were. I can't help but find it odd, how much she loved Grandma. She was treated entirely different.

    Terilyn, I that is exactly my situation. I was the youngest by 16 yrs and had a niece and nephew older than me. I wasn't spoiled though. My parents were very strict.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mama and Daddy.
    Grandparents: Grandmother (she insisted) - no grandfather; Grangran & PawPaw.
    Great-grandparents: Memaw & Grampie; Mamoo & Pop

    In-laws: first names, if I *have* to talk to them.

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  • 9 years ago

    I always called my parents Mom and Dad (or sometimes Daddy). Dearly loved my mother-in-law and called her my "Udder Mudder". She loved my Mudder name for her. Our adopted by love daughter calls us Mom (or Maw) and Pops.

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  • 9 years ago

    Dad and (her name) for our stepmother when they were living. She never wanted us to call her Mom, out of respect for our deceased mother. Sometimes my father was Pop, especially near the end of his life, I don't know why. My grandparents were Grandma and Grandpa.

    I call the in-laws Mom and Dad or by their first names. DH's grandparents were all sorts of variations of Nana and Pop. The nieces and nephews call my in-laws Nana and PopPop. Even the one who is 28 still uses these names. He was the first grandchild, so whatever he called them became their official names.

    Is it a regional thing? It seems most of the (former) northerners, like me, DH, and old friends, called their grandparents Grandma and Grandpa. The southern folks around us (like my MIL) seem to use more familiar names, like Nana or Noni or Poppy.

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  • 9 years ago

    My parents were the usual "Mom" and "Dad" to us kids. Our daughters however call us "Maw" and "Paw" and spell it just as I have written. It began when the older daughter at age 5 bought and filled out the gift card for her "Paw". That is how paw was spelled to her whether it was her dogs feet or her Father. It just naturally followed that M A W was the right way too. Everything is still addressed to MAW and PAW

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom & Dad here.


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  • 9 years ago

    I called my parents Mama and Papa when I was young. Then, Mother,and Father. I call my MIL Mum. My husband and I are Grandpa and Grandma and MIL is GG to our grandchildren.


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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and Dad (mommy and daddy when I was little, though). My step siblings only ever called my dad by his first name. Grandma and grandpa for both sets of grandparents. When my sister had children, my mother didn't want to be called grandma or grandmother -- she allowed them to call her GG.

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  • 9 years ago

    I called my parents Mommy and Daddy. When my brother and I talk about them, they are mommy and daddy. When I talk about them with others, I say my mother, my father. I am Grandma pronounced- Gramma. First grandson named DH Bobo and the name stuck. I call in-laws Mom and Dad because MIL asked(told) me to. My SIL and I refer to them by their first names.

    I called my grandfathers - Grandfather. My father called his father Pop.

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    I call my in-laws by their first names. I don't think I could have complied if they asked me to call them mom and dad.

    I love them dearly, but don't like the idea of coming into the relationship as an adult and being asked to refer to them as if they were my parents, moreover, as if I were a child. I look upon them with very similar affection, however ;-)

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  • 9 years ago

    SIL and I were not happy to call in-laws mom and dad, but we complied. MIL was nervy to ask/tell us that, especially because she is not a particularly warm person. My parents did not mind. We were young, and it was not unusual at the time.

    My sons-in-law call DH and me by our first names, and my daughters address their in-laws by their first names. The sons-in-law refer to us as Grandma and Bobo to the grands.

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  • 9 years ago

    Sometimes it's best the comply and keep the peace ;-)

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  • 9 years ago

    I call them mom and dad. Her parents, she called Poopsie and Pussycat. They were close! I have no idea what he called his dad, but he when he talks about her, he says "your grandmother" or calls her by name, I assume so as to not confuse which grandmother about whom he is speaking, since they both lived close by and I saw them both loads. I think all my family are my family. Once I married, his sister became my sister, whether by marriage or not. I have adopted siblings. They're not my "adopted" brothers/sister, it's just my sister and brothers. I am happy to have family!

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  • 9 years ago

    I called mine Mamma and Daddy. My paternal grandmother was Grandma (my grandfather died just before I was born). My maternal grandparents became Bambi and Papa (I was their first grandchild). The name Bambi became so popular & everyone thought it was so cute, her friends even started calling her that.

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  • 9 years ago

    My oldest brother called our father, Pap. I think he got that from Huckleberry Finn. I had a friend whose children and grandchildren called her Honey because that is what her husband called her.

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  • 9 years ago

    My parents were Mother and Daddy. Ken and I are Mom and Dad, Grandma and Grandpa to the grands.

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  • 9 years ago

    My MIL wanted me to call her "mom", but I felt like I already had a mom and she wasn't it. So, I just explained that I didn't feel comfortable calling her mom and that I would call her by her first name. She then wanted me to call her "mom - first name", but I didn't want to do that either. I ended up calling her by her first name whenever I addressed her and she eventually stopped with the mom stuff.

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    A lot of people feel like that, Dawn. My dad is long passed, but still, calling another man dad just wasn't going to happen with me. My mom was alive when I married, so that name was out too.

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  • 9 years ago

    I'm with you Dawn, I cant imagine calling anyone else mom or dad. I wouldn't want my kids calling anyone else mom.

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and Dad.

    I call my inlaws Mr. and Mrs. (last name). Everyone in the family does that. It is too formal for my liking but I won't be the one to change it!

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  • 9 years ago

    Mom and dad, but when mom is not paying attention she gets maaaaaw! She doesn't care for it. I tell her she needs to listen when I call her mom, she doesn't so I keep with the name . They are grandma, and papa to their grands. My BIL's father was already called papa so this is what my dad went with too. My grandparents were grandma, and grandpa. Friends grandparents were Ooma, Nan, Gram. My parents used their in-laws first names, BIL at the start used mom and dad but it sounded so awkward that he gave up and uses their first names now. I think my mom would be hurt if her kids called anyone else mom. After all she put in the work she earned the title mom.

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