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What Do Your Children's Spouse Call You?

15 years ago

Do your children 's spouses call you Mom, Dad, or by your names? Ours for the most part call us by our names and that is very fine with me.

Sometimes they might call us Mom or Dad.

Sue

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bengardening
15 years ago
my son-in-law and daughter-in-law call me Mom.
maryanntx
15 years ago
My daughter-in-law calls me MaryAnn.
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ronm80
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workoutlady
15 years ago
I'm not a mother in law but I call my in-laws by their first name. I know that they'd like to call them mom and dad but I have a problem with that and so I'll never call them that. My parents called their in-laws by their names also - probably why I can't call my in-laws mom & dad.
roseluver
15 years ago
My son's spouse calls me Mammaw and the daughter's husband calls me Charlene, which irritates me; he calls my husband Mr. Howard. What's wrong with this picture?
whidbeykathy
15 years ago
By my name and it suits me just fine. I'm not their Mom!
lindaohnowga
15 years ago
Our daughter's hubby calls us by our names, but he will at rare times call me Mom. He has his own mother. I sign cards to him as Mom2 since I am his "second" mother.
gmom74
15 years ago
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jkayd_il5
15 years ago
They call my husband and me by our names. That's fine with us. Of course we don't know what they call us out of earshot. LOLOL No, we get along fine with them. We love them as daughters. I call my mil by her first name but if she is talking about her late mil she calls her Mrs.______.
nodakgal
15 years ago
We only have one son-in-law. He calls us by name. When I do Christmas gifts I sign from Mom and Dad Smith. I was so used to writing Mom and Dad on the tags when I wrapped a pile, went to do the tags and accidently wrote of course Mom and Dad.
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I don't care what he calls us, he can call us whatever he is comfortable using.
pattico_gw
15 years ago
One calls me grandma (as do his kids) and the other one calls me Pat.
patti43
15 years ago
Both SIL's call me Patti--sometimes MiM--which is what the GK's call me.
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15 years ago
They all call us by their first names.
susie53_gw
15 years ago
All of ours call us by our first name... We love them dearly. Our oldest daughter has the most wonderful MIL and she loves her so. I know if I were not here she would step up and be a wonderful Mom to her. I told her from the very beginning that if there ever was a time that Annette wanted to call her Mom I would love that, too. I also told my daughter the same thing. She does call her mom and I can say it is a wonderful thing.

My daughter-in-law always tells me how much she loves me and how she has always felt like a wonderful part of out family from the beginning. She is my daughter, too. She always introduces me as her wonderful MIL. Her mom died 2 months after her first daughter was born. She saw her for the last time on Mother's day... Wonderful DIL...

Life is good!!!

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nancylee_ky
15 years ago
mine call me by my first name which is fine with me..
librarylady
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Our new DIL calls us Momin and Dadin. She didn't want to call us by our first names but didn't want us to take the name she had always called her parents. I thought it was pretty creative.
vicki_lv
15 years ago
I call my MIL by her first name...which is what her son calls her too.

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carol_in_california
15 years ago
DDIL calls us Mom and Dad or Grandma and Grandpa and DD's SO calls us by our first names.
wildchild
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DSIL started calling me Mom or Ma even before the engagement. He was that sure of what he wanted. LOL

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pekemom
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They call us by our first names, they were comfortable with that, and it's okay with us.
nanny98
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Oldest DD eloped then escaped to us in Scotland after first grandson came along. I sure felt too young to be a grandma...so Nanny was born and has stuck. Although now that they are older Ellie slips in there often. Nanny
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15 years ago
They use our first names.
cheryl_ok
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son in law and daughter in law both call me Cheryl
kathi_mdgd
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1 dil calls us mom & dad,the other calls us Kathi & eddie.
Kathi
minnie_tx
15 years ago
DIL calls me by my name unless it is a card from them both then it is to MOM
caroline94535
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After Wes and I married, I jokingly asked my new MIL if I was to call her "Mom" now. (I could never call anyone but my mama "Mom.")

She looked at me and said "H3ll no; you will never call me 'Mom'."

Ooops. Step away from the crazy lady! LOL

I call her by her first name, as does DH (her son) most of the time. For some reason he's called her by her first name since he was a child. Odd, but it seems to work for them.
heatherinohio
15 years ago
I call my Mother-In-Law, Mil or Mil-ness. She calls me Dil or Dil-kins. And I call my Father-In-Law, Fil.
soxxxx
15 years ago
One calls me grandma the other calls me the witch.
hallngarden
15 years ago
our first names, which suits us perfect, we love our kids spouses so much they could call us anything they wanted and get by, We are so blest with their spouses families, they love our kids and we are always together.
sandy_in_ia
15 years ago
Generally our first names...unless I call Kalie's cell and her DH answers then it is...Hi ICE Mom! lol (In Case of Emegency Mom is what her phone has my number as.

Since they have found out that they are expecting, now it is Nana and Papa. =)
clubm
15 years ago
My daughter-in-law calls me by my name Marilyn.
bulldinkie
15 years ago
They call me grandma and hubby is pa,one grandaughter calls hubby pee pa
ann_in_florida
15 years ago
One calls me Mom, the other calls me by my first name when she has to talk to me. Of course, there's no telling what she calles me when I'm not around!

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