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I lost my first rescue yesterday, my sweet Jenny

My3dogs ME zone 5A

7 years ago

It was very sudden, as my almost 14 year old girl has been entirely normal. I adopted her on 7/16/2004, when she was thought to be about 2. She was 22 pounds of spunk and love to the end.

She started panting and trembling yesterday AM, and i took her to the emergency vet, where she walked in just fine, and I couldn't imagine it was anything serious. They found her lungs filled with fluid and her heart enlarged and beating fast. They said that my little peanut was critical, and they anesthetized her to give her oxygen and try to get the fluid off her lungs. I made the decision to do what was best for my sweet girl, who cuddled next to me in bed every night, and several times a day put her paws on my knee as I worked, so she could reach up and give me little kisses. She even did that yesterday.

Heaven has a new angel! This is Jenny with her favorite (late) brother Joey.

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My3dogs ME zone 5A
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7 years ago

last modified: 7 years ago

Your kind words are bringing tears, but I do know how very lucky I was to have her for almost 12 years. Many, if not all of you have been through this, and know how hard it is, especially when one like Jenny never gave me a bit of trouble her whole life.

A friend in WA state sent me this a short time ago, and I know you'll enjoy it, too.

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IdaClaire
7 years ago
I am so very sorry. She was a beautiful girl, and I know you'll miss that sweet face. (((((Hugs)))))
DLM2000-GW
7 years ago
awww... M3d - your Jenny was so lucky to have had you and you, her. I'm sorry for your loss.
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stratfordroad
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I'm so sorry for your loss, she sounds like such a sweet girl and I know you and the other dogs are going to miss her. I hope she comes to you in your dreams.
writersblock (9b/10a)
7 years ago
Oh, what a precious girl she must have been. I'm so sorry.
My3dogs ME zone 5A
Original Author
7 years ago
Thanks again, my friends,

My other 3 are here in my office with me, and as much as they enjoy being up on a chair or sofa, they haven't gone to sit in 'Jenny's chair' since we got home from the vet yesterday. When I say 'we', I mean Rooney and I, as he has to go everywhere with me, and I was glad he was there when I got the news. He stuck to my side for the few hours we were there, and as I held her for the last time as she passed. He then put his front feet on the table and gently touched her with his nose.

I was a 4 dog mom from May 19, 2015, when I adopted Ginger, until yesterday when I lost Jenny, but now I'm back to a 3 dog mom. One more with her and Joey sharing a sunbeam -
practigal
7 years ago
You gave her some of the best that life has to offer. She celebrated every day.
blfenton
7 years ago
Jenny and Joey are beautiful and what cute names. I am so sorry. You and your furry pals are in my thoughts.
maddielee
7 years ago
It's so hard to lose a friend. I am sorry.
mary_lu_gw
7 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Words escape me.
Fun2BHere
7 years ago
My sympathies to you on the loss of Jenny.
Irish2
7 years ago
The loss of our furry friends is never easy...especially one who was loved as much as your beautiful Jenny. I too wish Rainbow Bridge had visiting hours.
cattyles
7 years ago
Oh no. I'm so so sorry that you lost your sweet Jenny.
amykath
7 years ago
She was beautiful! I am so very sorry. I lost my soul mate Maddie two months ago. It is a very hard thing we have to go through, losing a pet. Much love to you!!
deeinohio
7 years ago
I sm so very sorry. She had a beautiful, sweet face. How lucky you had each other for so long.
cat_mom
7 years ago
I am so, so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.
Catherine Z8-ish PNW
7 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss. Our beautiful friends give us everything and it's heartbreaking when that time comes. Know that you have given your "babies" everything and they were so happy being with you for their times.
sableincal
7 years ago
I am sending condolences for your loss of sweet Jenny., and wishing you a time of comfort with happy memories and those lovely pictures. You are a great dog-mom; it's clear how happy your pups are.
Sueb20
7 years ago
So sorry for your loss. We were also a "3dogs" family until last August when our oldest passed away. It's not easy but I do think the other dogs' presence helped us...can only imagine how much harder it is when there aren't other furry friends at home. I hope your other three fur-babies help you, as well.
User
7 years ago
Now I'm crying! My love, Tucker:

Also a rescue.
User
7 years ago
Oh gosh, I'm just heartbroken over your news. I've always enjoyed all the pictures you've posted through the years, they are both so beautiful, no doubt they knew you loved them so and they loved you just as much.

Mimi, Your Tucker was also a handsome boy, I love that picture!
User
7 years ago
Thank you, lukkiirish. He was one of a kind.
amck2
7 years ago
I feel I've come to know you here as much through your dogs as your decorating. I enjoy all pet pics but your dogs always stood out to me because of their soulful eyes and how relaxed and comfortable they seem to be. It always gives me a peaceful feeling seeing your dogs in your home.

I am so sorry for your loss and can only imagine what a void it leaves in your heart & home. As others mentioned, there is a measure of comfort that Jenny didn't suffer long and was able to be herself to near the end.

Warm healing thoughts are being sent your way from up the road in NH. Give the other 3dogs a hug from me.
User
7 years ago
I am so so sorry to read this. She really was a gem. ((hug)).
Bonnie
7 years ago
Sending hugs over the sudden loss of your dear Jenny. We lost a Springer under similar circumstances, so I do understand your confusion, along with the feelings of loss. You gave her a good life. May that sustain you in the grieving process.
lascatx
7 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss and your 3 dogs of their companion. I have lost 2 cats 3 months apart twice, but I have not lost a dog as an adult. I was even away at college when my parents had to put down "my" dog. I don't know how I will deal with loosing my "lub" but I hope my younger girl will be as sweet as Rooney. Hugs to you and the pups.
raphaellathespanishwaterdog
7 years ago
So terribly sorry for the loss of your darling girl, M3D.......sending hugs to you and your pups xxx
My3dogs ME zone 5A
Original Author
7 years ago
Oh, mimipadv, I hoped you were just showing us what a sweet, beautiful face Tucker has, and then scrolled down and saw that he is up there with Jenny and my other 'kids' who have gone before her. Looking at the many pics I have of her and Joey makes me feel better that they are together again, along with Sam, Willie and Rudder!

I will gladly give my 3 big hugs from anyone who'd like me to pass one on to them. Brittanys do seem to be very loving dogs, and while Ginger, Rooney and Riley aren't quite as demonstrative as Jenny was, they do a great job of making me feel loved. I know all of you have that same feeling from your pets, and am so glad to see how many of you have furry kids in your families.
User
7 years ago
Such a sweet baby girl.....so sorry for your loss.

She was well loved.... she well loved you and the wonderful, loving and caring home you opened to lucky doggies!

Hugs to you and all of the pups.
User
7 years ago
last modified: 7 years ago
I'm so sorry. She was beautiful. I'm sure you have lots of wonderful memories together. It's always hard.
User
7 years ago
I'm so sorry. She was a beautiful girl and I know she lived a life filled with nothing but love once you found each other.
westsider40
7 years ago
I am so sorry. She is so pretty and sweet.
User
7 years ago
Oh, that's so sudden--I'm sorry. It seems like a merciful way to go because it occurred quickly but it often means your grieving hits hard afterward. Take care. What a wonderful comfort you were to her.
grapefruit1_ar
7 years ago
It is never easy.....it leaves a hole in your heart. I am so sorry.
just_terrilynn
7 years ago
I'm so sorry! I was brought up with Brittneys. I still have pain when I think of Rusty's death all those many years ago. You never really get over it. Over time though you mostly just remember the sweetness. It's almost as though they are with you always and forever but in another realm. Just remember your girl is no longer in pain and in happy place.
maire_cate
7 years ago
What a beautiful face and obviously a gentle, loving soul. I am so sorry. It's never easy to lose a beloved companion but to lose one so quickly, without warning seems to be even harder. We had to make the same decision once - one last minute trip to the vet only to learn that we would be returning home without our dear friend. It was so hard on DH that we didn't get another dog for many months.

Thank you for sharing the message from your friend in WA - my dear DIL will in all likelihood be dealing with this soon and I'm hoping she'd find some comfort in those words.

Maire
pudgeder
7 years ago
There is nothing else for me to add, except my condolences.

She was greatly loved, that's for sure.
Lavender Lass
7 years ago
What a sweet girl. You put her needs first. That's all a mom can do.
martinca_gw sunset zone 24
7 years ago
My heart aches with yours.

Hugs, marti- who has also loved and lost dear fuzzy soul mates.
inthetrees
7 years ago
I'm very sorry for the loss of your beautiful girl. How lucky she was to have had such a wonderful home and life with all of you.

I lost my cat under the same circumstances you described and made the same decision you did. She was old but it was sudden and unexpected. Always so hard :(
mitchdesj
7 years ago
what sad news, she was indeed beautiful.
mitchdesj
7 years ago
what sad news, she was indeed beautiful.
My3dogs ME zone 5A
Original Author
7 years ago
I'm so grateful to ALL of you this morning. The tears start anew, but it is because she was so very special and loving. I always called her my 'bestest girlie' as she didn't partake in the barking, rolling tumbleweed of Riley, Rooney and Ginger that barrels through the house each morning in happy anticipation of their new day! Not that there's anything wrong with that, as happy dogs are my goal.
Irish2
7 years ago
My sister's just had to make that trip to her vet last Thursday for her beloved Holly (15 yrs old)...we were all tears as she crossed to Rainbow Bridge.
Springroz
7 years ago
Hugs to you, 3dogs.
LynnNM
7 years ago
last modified: 7 years ago
My heart feels for you, M3Ds. We, who love our pets, as you love your sweet dogs, hurt right along with you. A rescue dog is one without a home and someone to care for them and love them. Something all dogs (and cats) deserve. Yours were /are so blessed to have you and your warm, loving home. But, we rescue moms and dads know that what we get back from them is even more than what we give them. Such unconditional love! It makes me happy to know that your Jenny, with her beautiful heart, had such a wonderful life with you. Every dog should be so blessed.
blubird
7 years ago
Hugs all around, my3dogs. We just lost our big guy Spencer 2 weeks ago, and though we still have our Kallie, there's definitely another large hole in our heart, again. I Keep crying for all of us who have lost furry friends.
Errant_gw
7 years ago
So very sorry :(
My3dogs ME zone 5A
Original Author
7 years ago
These doggie faces who have passed.....Sob! It's so sweet to hear from you all and to hear stories of your kids. I hope that there is a heaven and that we will see them all again.

My late Dad, who died on Valentine's Day 2007, was a huge dog lover, and we had Brittanys growing up, but just one at a time that he trained and bird hunted with.

Dad was at home under hospice care, sitting in his recliner in their living room. Mum and I were sitting on the sofa. Dad looked up at the ceiling, and said with this look of wonder on his face, 'They have DOGS up there!' Dad was not religious, and the only time he went to church was for a wedding or funeral, so Mum and I were shocked. Hospice had told us that he might say odd things as he neared the end, but when we heard that, we knew he'd be OK. The last picture that I have of Dad is of him laying on a hospital bed in their guest room, with his Brittany, Beau, laying on top of him, cuddling. That's the way a dog lover should spend his last days.
ladypat1
7 years ago
SO sorry you are going thru this. My best dog was a rescue. I think they know, and are grateful. I have always enjoyed your post of house and dogs. Please continue to share with everyone.

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