do you think some people are just born pessimists/cynics/or ...
pammyfay
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Comments (30)We do not post publicly how the Stout vote breaks down by region since that is not a requirement to win the Award. You can find the HM and AM results posted by region, since votes must come from 4 regions for the HM and 8 regions for the AM. But with the Stout,it is simply the cultivar that gets the most votes. The number of judges varies by region. There are more judges in the regions with the most AHS members. Region 2 has our largest number of members, and also the largest number of judges. Region 4 is the second largest region and it has the second largest number of judges. Some regions with low numbers of AHS members ( Regions 7, 8,9) also have fewer judges.I don't think that having the largest regions represented by the largest number of judges would skew the vote. It would just give an accurate representation of what our membership reflects. Most, but not all, judges vote each year!...See MoreWhy do people think they use what they want in stores?
Comments (21)I'm highly sensitive to stench and everything these days seems to have to stink or people won't buy it. It's next to impossible to buy a plain paraffin candle anymore. Nope, has to be pumpkin scented, apple cinnamon or skunk backside scented, which is what they all smell like anyway. I do take a whiff of a lot of things to see if I can handle the stench, but never sample the stuff. I would suggest that someone's lips are probably far more sanitary than their hands, considering where the hands have likely been, what they're touching and the like. At least someone's lips get a bit of washing! Cosmetics probably have a larger profit margin than fountain pop and it just amazes me that the manufacturers won't spend a few cents to shrink wrap or blister pack all of that stuff. I remember in the days when aspirin, Tylenol, etc didn't have the "safety seals" on them until the big Tylenol scare. I recall seeing people in stores open up one container of aspirin and take another and top it off, put the caps on both, buy the one they topped off and leave the other for some sucker to get shorted. People with kids are amazing. We're supposed to pay for their extra-curricular activities, aka babysitting. And we're supposed to pay for their toys and treats in a store. I recall at one store where they had one of the photo booths taking kiddie pictures there was a screamer and the mother just went to the shelf, grabbed a family sized bag of M&Ms, tore it open and let the brat chomp away. Looking around the area it was disgusting to see all the opened packages of toys, food, beverages and the like sitting there. Sadly, the stores won't prosecute these kinds of thefts. They should. I can understand the stores having the 100% satisfaction guarantee schtick. If you don't like the color of the lipstick or the flavor of the pie, bring it back. But that doesn't cost anywhere near what the theft is in the store. And I imagine the cosmetic companies won't seal them up until someone sues them big time for getting pink eye from contaminated cosmetics, just like what prompted the OTC drug companies to finally seal up the packages. Frankly, I wish they'd put seals on shampoos, body washes, detergents and stuff too. Stores finally tightened up the policies on TVs, computers and the like to keep people from buying a large screen TV to watch the Super Bowl and return it the following day or buy a computer and printer to do a report and return it. kittywhiskers, I don't blame you for being upset. It's frustrating to see people steal and then the company won't do anything about it. A friend who worked at Lowe's talked about how people would buy nail guns on the Friday before a long weekend and return it on Tuesday claiming they didn't even open it, it was never used. One look and you can see they roofed their house or something with it and returned it. He even said if they caught someone walking out of the store with something they were instructed to let them go because even though they're stealing something, they'll still come back and buy more and they didn't want to lose the customer! A friend's son started working for Menards and they get back pallet loads of lumber that was not purchased there, that you could see was used, driven over and the like but because the contractor buys a lot from them, they give them full credit. It's maddening. Here's my little story. I was at a store about a year ago and this one person was going through the deodorants and taking the top off one after another, then the little inside cap, to sniff the contents. OK, that in itself isn't so bad, I've done that myself, BUT, she then took another and another and another, putting the caps from the other onto the next one. Now here's the kicker, she wasn't checking different scents! She was checking the same kind. I moved closer and made it obvious I was watching her but she just kept on. Looking for a "high" lady??? nicole__, I've got a similar story. Had a customer come into the station wanting a refund on a tank of gas because she didn't get the gas mileage she thought she should have gotten. The gas MUST have been defective or she didn't get all the gas she paid for was her argument. Had another who wanted to negotiate the price on the gas because she had never put that much gas in the tank before so it couldn't hold that much. She offered me 2/3 the amount she pumped. Then tried the threat of calling my boss (to which I said "here's the number!") and calling the state (to which I said the info is on the pump - right on the compliance test result sticker!). I maintain that when people hit about 18 years of age they should go into the service for 2-3 years. Teach them some responsibility. Then they should be required to work retail for about 2 years. That should beat the customer is always right attitude out of them!...See MoreDH says I'm negative and pessimistic, and it's bringing him down
Comments (22)Since this was brought to the top, I thought I would provide an update: counseling works (see other thread). Regarding my negative and pessimistic behavior, our marriage counselor did not believe I am negative (and I don't either). He felt I was just the kind of person who approaches things in a way that can be CONSTRUED as negative, especially if the person takes things personally. For example, someone might share an idea and I generally respond by coming up with reasons why it won't work. It doesn't mean I don't like the idea at all, I just want to troubleshoot the idea a little. His advice for dealing with my DH was that I train myself to say a positive before I give my reasons why something won't work. My understanding was that I would do this to benefit the person sharing an idea with me, so they won't immediately think I'm sh*tting all over their idea etc. Now, he ALSO told DH that his job is to reiterate to me what he thinks I said, to clarify whether or not he's understanding me. So if I say "it may not solve all the problems because of blah, blah, blah" and what he hears is that I think it's a bad idea (when that's not what I'm saying) then he is supposed to respond "Are you telling me that you think this is a bad idea?" instead of just getting mad. So we BOTH have to take steps to improve our communication, and we are, so it's been a lot better. I wish I could give specific advice to you, cheerful1. My communication problems with DH were a result of BOTH OF US having issues. I'm too blunt and direct for someone like my DH, and he has too much of a tendency to assume rather than seek clarification, which resulted in him assuming the worst and then being too angry with me to want to discuss it. So I'm learning to soften the comments a little, and try (as much as possible) to phrase them in a way that doesn't blame him. I wish I had a specific example but I don't. Counseling really helped clear it up for us. In fact, DH very recently told me that when I would say things to him in a blunt and direct manner, he interpreted it to mean that I did not love him. For some reason, he thought if I loved him then I would sugar-coat stuff. ??? News to me but it explains a lot. Why didn't he say this to me years ago? I don't know, I didn't ask. I told him I appreciated him sharing that with me. jamielovescoffee_az: you are absolutely correct that it seems to be all in the approach and not necessarily the message. By the way, DH later told me...MONTHS later...that the coffee he insisted on buying WAS gross, and that I was right after all. Now, though, I think that whole argument was PETTY and I'm working on just letting some things go. Why should I be so concerned over what kind of coffee he gets for himself at his work?...See MoreDebbie Downers,.. why do some people see
Comments (24)My late MIL was like that, all the time, ALL THE TIME. I honestly think part of it is mental illness. She actually complained to me about being left with money, when her husband died. That she would have been better off if she'd been destitute. HUH? I came to the realization that complaining made her "happy". Her sick version of happy, anyway. Poor thing ripped thru about 2 million dollars in just under 15 years, I guess she was trying to get to that destitute level on her own. I have to distance myself from downer-types as they will try to drag you down with them and I refuse to go. And not only was she negative, she was needy, too. She needed to be entertained all the time and needed to go someplace every day. She wasn't happy just "being"....See Morepammyfay
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