Sorry, and yes I know what you mean...I have fine, straight, oily, thinning blond hair starting to turn grey...no body, perms don't help much and they would be cut off since I go in every 4-6 weeks...right now I'm okay, go to a one woman barber shop who also cuts women's and children's hair, ..just wets and cuts, nothing else but she does a good job...I shampoo every evening, put on gel and 5 curlers on top..next morning brush out and use hairspray...I'm 68 and have had plenty of those cuts that would work for someone else, just not me.

Used to cut it myself but I didn't do a very good job.....

I got mine cut today too. But it is my wonderful hair dresser and she did a great job. I wanted to go a bit shorter since we go on vacation soon to the beach so it will be much easier.

I have had a bad cut too, I feel your pain! It does grow back.

Sorry about your haircut. I know how you feel! We were about to start our vacation driving from Mich. To Arizona to see relatives so I took a picture in of the cut I wanted ....what a mistake, it was nothing like the picture and I sat in my car and cried......I do it myself now and I like it! :)

Had a few bad cuts myself. 2 cuts ago, I thought the gal was trying to scalp me! I go to a walk in salon and usually get the same person everytime. I wait for her.
It's taken 4 months for it to get almost back to normal!!

Sorry to hear about your bad do too.

I think we all have been there at one time or another. I never seem able to explain exactly what I want, but for the most part I'm not totally unhappy. I have learned now that I can withstand almost any haircut as long as they don't scalp my bangs. Sometimes I even make them section off the front of my hair to make sure it's not cut. I always say I can see that part and cut it when necessary. If you don't use mousse, buy some and apply it to your hair after washing it, it will give your hair more volume. I have fine hair and was using hair spray, but the mousse makes a world of difference. The good news, we all know that it eventually grow back….quicker than you think.

That is the reason I have been using the same person for 35 years. She does a good job and I am afraid to try anyone else. Also because I have been a customer for so long, she is great about scheduling. If needed, she will get me in the same day either staying late or coming in early.

Thanks everyone for the commiserating. I know it will grow back, just hate the wait. When I asked DH what he thought of it, he was very diplomatic and said it looked OK. In other words I could go out in public without wearing a paper bag over my head. My 30 year old son just said,"It's short, really short." LOL

I so sympathize with you!

I found my stylist after years of frustration. No more chain salons for me....ever! I've had some awful haircuts, including one that I refused to pay for, lol. Ouch, I wanted to wear a bag over my head after that one.

My stylist owns her own business, just a tiny place, but has a very successful operation. She is very well educated, attends specialty training workshops whenever she can, and is so knowledgeable about how to help me get the most out of my hair.

My hair has never looked better, not only because of her great styling, but because of the professional products that she's introduced me to.

I make my next appointment with her before I leave her salon; there isn't much wiggle room in her schedule anymore.

DF found a great stylist just by asking people who they went to. She even asked stramgers with hair similar to her own, who felt very complimented when she said, "Your hair looks great, who do you go to?"

I can never find a good stylist, the first 2-3 cuts are good then down hill it goes. I usually do it myself and I am to blame. Now I am having the same trouble with my pet groomers! Doesn't anyone know how to cut hair or fur anymore?

I have found that coloring my hair adds a lot of body to it. I am lucky and get pretty consistent cuts from the lady who does my hair. I've even had people ask me who cuts my hair on days when I have done absolutely nothing to it and the wind is blowing 20 miles an hour! One of those people told me she was actually a hairstylist and thought that I had gotten a great cut. That was on that windy day, and I was pumping gas at the time!

I have the same problem. I have gotten good and bad cuts from chain shops and privately owned. I thought I had found an okay one, until a couple days ago. While waiting for my stylist a friend of my DD was leaving and I knew I wanted my perm to look just like hers, so that is what I told my stylist. Very short and curly on top and tapered in the back. Did mine turn out like that? NO!! It is not shorter; the back is "hacked" part way down and then tapered just a bit. As of now the front doesn't look any different from when I went in. This is the third time I've been to this shop and have the same girl. I've never been completely happy with the results, but it is convenient. She tells me every time that I have "good" hair. That it is fine, but thick, meaning I have a lot of it. I go there because it is only a short distance away. I'm sorry but I won't be going back. The search begins, again. (Flamey, I envy you!)
Sue

It's hard to find a good stylist at a chain - if they are good, they won't stick around, they'll go someplace where they can earn a decent salary. You might luck out and get someone good who just finished training and couldn't get a job anywhere else, but the minute they can move to a quality salon, they'll be gone. That's why chains are inexpensive; the stylists are not well paid.

I have never found a good hair stylist. I have had problem hair all my life. When I was young it was too coarse, wavy and thick, couldn't even get a comb through it. What I would give for hair like that now. Since menopause it has got thinner in size and number and more limp with no body whatsoever every year. I have tried every shampoo and conditioner for thin hair that is out there. And every foam and gel. Coloring did help for awhile. But that is one reason I decided to get it cut short. Coloring has really damaged it and I am in a phase of letting the gray grow out for awhile. Maybe I will go natural from now on.

One of the best things I ever did for my hair was to stop coloring it.

I've had bad ones also. I went in one time, to the same woman who had been cutting my hair for a decade. Our kids were going to elem/HS together. I poured through the magazines and picked out exactly what I wanted in the front, back, sides. Asked her if it would work with my hair, she said sure. It was supposed to be shoulder length. She gave me a straight up Dorothy Hamill. I could have smacked her. I even said "Jenny, this doesn't look ANYTHING like what I showed you". She said, "oh but it looks so cute on you". Yeah, o.k. Last time she cut my hair.

Now I color and cut my own. I spring for a good, done by a hairstylist haircut every once in awhile.

Hope yours grows out quickly.

I too can relate. When we moved to Michigan it took me 9 years and a long list of bad haircuts to find someone that is a keeper and even now sometimes it's a hit and miss. The last girl I was going to would NEVER cut it the way I wanted it no matter how many pictures I brought. It would be a good cut, but still not what I was looking for. The last straw was when I showed her a picture of a medium length hair cut with layers and went from longish hair that was below my shoulders to a wedged bob that was cut up to my jaw line on the sides and above my neck in the back. It was horrible and I was so angry I never went back. I felt awkward and embarrassed for months. I hope it grows out quick for you.

I know just what you mean. My husband always hates me getting a haircut because he doesn't know if I will come home happy, mad or crying. I need to get a cut this week because I have a school reunion the following week and if it's too short it will have a week to grow out. I dread it.

When I was younger, I'd brush and comb it really strongly, hoping to make it longer. I'd even pull on it. Kids are so funny! I am sorry about your hair though; it's frustrating.