I'm so sorry.

It never is easy to lose your mother, & you're very young to go through it.

There's a quote at the top of this page that says something about grief taking time & attempting to soothe it too soon only irritates.
& loss isn't like a cake mix; you can't put it into the right temperature & take it out when the timer pings & call it done.
It takes different times, &, truly, it never is really over.

You don't get over it;
you accept it.

which is good;
you don't *want* to "get over" your mother.
Your grief reflects your love.

About those "it'll be okay/it'll get better" condolences:
I think sometimes people/I/we say brainless or idiotic things because we aren't comfortable saying nothing or saying "I'm sorry" & then shutting our mouths;
we need to put a label or limit on things, to put them in a box & shut the lid.

As summerblue suggested, human contact is helpful, as are
a knowledge that you are needed, that somebody is depending on you, waiting for you (you could deliver meals on wheels or record an elder's stories for his/her biography, etc),
aerobic exercise that pumps oxygenated blood to the brain & therefore to your mood, &
keeping busy; if you have a spare moment, don't use it to reflect on anything right now; use it to get something done, & set yourself a busy-but-not-overwhelming schedule.

I wish you the very best.

Hello Rachel. I too lost my mother suddenly in October. I don't know if you are still looking at this forum. I wanted to email you directly to see if you wanted to have a one-on-one discussion with me to share and grieve together, but you have not supplied your email. If you would like to contact me, you can click my name (newhostalady) and that will connect you to my email address.

After three months, I feel that others think that I am "over it" so to speak. To tell you the truth, I think the real grieving has just begun.

I'd like to share experiences with others who have lost their mothers. I lost my Mum in april to cancer. It was a hard long battle. I wondered how one deals with it feeling still so unreal.. I'm happy to share through email.

I lost my mom August 23 2014. Grief is like a living hell. She wouldn't go to the doctor or take medicine. I feel guilty about not being more forceful....making her go seek help. I also could not watch her die. I left at 4:30.....she passed at 10:48pm. I still wake up in disbelief....I feel like I'll never be happy again. No one can replace my mom, I feel like I'm all alone in this world now. She had my back no matter what, now she's gone. I'll never hear her voice again....Im so sad.

I'm so sorry, tony.

Please don't blame yourself for not being "forceful".

Independent people do not take kindly to forcefulness;

in fact, it seems to make them dig their heels in harder *& to not share news with the forceful person*, keeping their concerns to themselves.

You're right;

no one can replace your mother, but you're the next link in her chain of life, so respect & honor that, & take care of yourself.

It'll help to walk, jog, swim, dance, etc, so that you get some oxygenated blood to your brain & you'll find that thinking clearly becomes easier.

I wish you the best.

Thank you Sylvia...your kind words mean a lot.