Starting a few years ago I've had several bouts of BPPV, and as others have said, it's the WORST. I am blessed to be very healthy, and being so dizzy that I cannot function is totally out of my normal experience. I was told to try Brandt Daroff exercises at home before doing any physical therapy. Happy to say that these have worked really well for me, and since you do them at home you can start immediately plus you're already close to bed and a resting spot if (when) you get the spins and nausea as you start the exercises. I do them on my couch which works well. My GP recommended a repetition of 15-20 cycles each session and 2 sessions daily. Since I started doing the Brandt Daroff my episodes have been controllable within a day or so. This compares to my being unable to even go to work for several days at a time with the nausea and dizziness. Yuck, just talking about it gives me the willies. For those who haven't had vertigo, thank your lucky stars. For those who have had vertigo due to BPPV aka ear crystals, give Brandt Daroff a try, it might do the trick for you too. Have linked to a video below that demonstrates. Feel better soon! Here is a link that might be useful: Brandt Daroff Exercise Demo

Turkeytrott: There was a sentence in what I wrote that has been bothering me. It did not come out right and I want to re-word it, to express my thinking here. I wrote: "From what you have written, it sounds to be as if he is so bored, and unhappy, and yet he is still with you". I worded it wrong. What I am trying to say is that you are in a long term marriage. In a long term marriage, people can become bored by familiarity. The lack of newness. It does not necessarily mean that the people themselves are boring. It simply means while people may find comfort in the familiar, they can also become bored. It sounds to me as though you actually have a good marriage, as he says he is content, the snuggling, the kisses, but it sounds as though he is so restless, and yearning for new/different but could be staying because he knows what he has is good, and he doesn't trust himself enough, and fears that he may be totally blowing it and lose you in the process. I think of that song that sings about love... "You don't know what you've got till it's gone" and perhaps that is the fear that keeps him from really chasing after this elusive life he thinks is out there...somewhere. I think of the women that I have read about that have been unhappy in their marriage. Some had an affair and left their husband for the other man. We hear that once her ex-husband found a new love, and either married her or moved in with her, and her children started attaching to this new "mom figure" that she had serious regrets. Or her new marriage was not what she thought it would be and she realized the enormous mistake she had made. Perhaps you can talk to your husband and tell him you understand his restlessness. His boredom. His thoughts dancing with the possibilities of something/someone new. What can you two do that could shake some newness into this fragile time in your marriage as children go off to college and he sees the excitement in their eyes of youth, before reality like mortgages and responsibility weigh people down. And he yearns to feel like that again. Start with a great makeover. It will help you feel good about yourself, and he will see you in a new way. If you need to lose weight, do it. Whiten your teeth if they need it. It can take off years, and make your smile light up a room. Change your clothes style, and address your bedroom style, (bedding/drapes/paint color) to make it fresh and appealing. It will make you feel good every time you walk in your room, even if he leaves. I wish you and your children the best. Re-read my last post, and see if anything within helps in any way. Do not sit idle. If you can't get him interested, or if he has already left, start making the changes for yourself! Take a deep breath, and there are books on the market about women who have discovered gifts in the midst of the sorrow. I am sending a hug and encouragement your way. I wish you blessings in the midst of it all.

I really feel for you having to go back after such a long time away. When I was off for only 3 weeks with pneumonia, and went back still only at about 50-60% well, I felt overwhelmed. But within a couple of days, it was like I'd never left. Good luck. Shirley

I've kept quiet about what's going on. Hubby had 5 more sessions of radiation directed on his L-2 vertebrae. It's fractured because his bones are weakened.......his cancer has spread to his bones. It seems that prostate cancer often comes back in another form of cancer.......in the organs or the bones. Organs are more difficult to treat, because obviously the cancer can jump around. Hopefully the bones are easier to treat. We've met with the chemo doc a few weeks ago and we have a follow-up app't with him next week now that the radiation is over. Hubby is to start (not sure when) oral chemotherapy, and injections.........neither of which are covered by our provincial health care. The hospital is going to see if we can get coverage; they're going to apply to see if the government will cover all or some of it (it's in the thousands of dollars/month). This is a huge sore point with me. I'd love my tax dollars to fund life-saving cancer treatments of all kinds; but the government feels it's more important that if I wanted to change from "Jane to John" that is fully covered, IVF is completely covered, and abortion pills are provided free of charge to anyone who wants them. ETA: people 65+ are covered by our provincial healthcare. We're under 65