How I Learned to Be an Imperfect Gardener
Letting go can lead to a deeper level of gardening and a richer relationship with the landscape. Here's how one nature lover did it
Benjamin Vogt
November 21, 2013
Houzz Contributor. I'm a big advocate for bringing the tallgrass prairie into our urban lives -- only 1% remains, making it more threatened than the Amazon rainforest yet also as effective at sequestering CO2. I own Monarch Gardens LLC, a prairie garden design firm based in Nebraska and working with clients across the Midwest. I also speak nationally on native plants, sustainable design, and landscape ethics while hosting online classes. I'm the author of A New Garden Ethic: Cultivating Defiant Compassion for an Uncertain Future. In the coming years we want to restore a 40+ acre prairie and host an artist residency program.
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I remember the day clearly when gardening changed for me. It was the second year living with my new landscape — the first large garden I had ever created from scratch. I was making the rounds along the path, admiring what still was very much just a nice layer of wood mulch with a few green things sticking up. I paused at one point when a glimmer of yellow caught my eye. Kneeling down low I saw fat caterpillars moving carefully across thin stems, hanging down like monkeys to get the last bit of a leaf. My first inclination was to pick them off or find some spray, because that’s how I was raised.
But if I hadn’t sat there another 20 minutes just watching — even listening to them eat — I would have become a very different kind of gardener. When I went inside and did some research, I discovered I had a colony of monarch larvae on swamp milkweed. Since then I’ve learned that making a garden is a gift of letting go and giving nature a chance to teach me what works and what doesn’t.
But if I hadn’t sat there another 20 minutes just watching — even listening to them eat — I would have become a very different kind of gardener. When I went inside and did some research, I discovered I had a colony of monarch larvae on swamp milkweed. Since then I’ve learned that making a garden is a gift of letting go and giving nature a chance to teach me what works and what doesn’t.
2008: Gardening 101
A garden, by its very nature, changes and evolves. Sometimes we work too hard to keep it how it is — like a static painting with every plant remaining in the same place, with the same size and same blooms every year. That’s impossible. If we can learn to let go and embrace the changes in a garden, we’ve made the first step toward gardening in a way that constantly surprises and grips us on a deeper level.
Here is my garden in July 2008. It’s ugly. I had no idea what I was doing. I trusted plant tags but discovered they were often wrong for various reasons. But I had faith in the vision — the monarchs had showed me that I was on the right path (pun intended) even if I didn’t know what it was yet.
A garden, by its very nature, changes and evolves. Sometimes we work too hard to keep it how it is — like a static painting with every plant remaining in the same place, with the same size and same blooms every year. That’s impossible. If we can learn to let go and embrace the changes in a garden, we’ve made the first step toward gardening in a way that constantly surprises and grips us on a deeper level.
Here is my garden in July 2008. It’s ugly. I had no idea what I was doing. I trusted plant tags but discovered they were often wrong for various reasons. But I had faith in the vision — the monarchs had showed me that I was on the right path (pun intended) even if I didn’t know what it was yet.
Just go for it. Plant with a diversity of species, heights, forms, colors and textures. You can see that my garden had a few woody plants — a dogwood shrub, a river birch. Both died. This happens in the garden, and it doesn’t mean you are a failure.
Embrace mistakes. Get back up and dust yourself off. I got a replacement birch, and it grows about 4 feet every year, harboring house wrens as they make their final leap into a nearby birdhouse. But the larger lesson here is to plant shrubs and trees first; they anchor the landscape and are the bones with which you can add the sinew (pathways) and muscle (flowers and grasses).
Embrace mistakes. Get back up and dust yourself off. I got a replacement birch, and it grows about 4 feet every year, harboring house wrens as they make their final leap into a nearby birdhouse. But the larger lesson here is to plant shrubs and trees first; they anchor the landscape and are the bones with which you can add the sinew (pathways) and muscle (flowers and grasses).
2009: Money Issues
I have a confession to make — in one day I spent $1,000 at a local nursery. I loaded up two to three carts’ worth of plants, buying the biggest pots they had. It was foolhardy, but I wanted a garden ASAP and wasn’t willing to wait on seeds or seedlings. This was a mistake. Those larger plants didn’t grow any faster than seedlings that would sprout on their own over the years.
I once bought what I called a Charlie Brown tree for $5 on fall clearance at a big-box store — it was scraggly and sickly, but I felt so bad for it, dying on the hot pavement. Four years later it’s as tall as the same species of tree I planted at the same time that came in a 20-gallon container. Save money and water and transplant stress. Buy smaller pots. Even grow your own plants from seed.
I have a confession to make — in one day I spent $1,000 at a local nursery. I loaded up two to three carts’ worth of plants, buying the biggest pots they had. It was foolhardy, but I wanted a garden ASAP and wasn’t willing to wait on seeds or seedlings. This was a mistake. Those larger plants didn’t grow any faster than seedlings that would sprout on their own over the years.
I once bought what I called a Charlie Brown tree for $5 on fall clearance at a big-box store — it was scraggly and sickly, but I felt so bad for it, dying on the hot pavement. Four years later it’s as tall as the same species of tree I planted at the same time that came in a 20-gallon container. Save money and water and transplant stress. Buy smaller pots. Even grow your own plants from seed.
2010: Missing Elements
It was the third full year that my garden took off. Here is an image from summer 2010 — rich with texture and various bloom colors and sizes. But when I looked at this vista I only saw what was missing — different foliage colors and shrubs. I had to go back in and add a few viburnums, serviceberries, an elderberry and a ninebark.
It was frustrating, because I realized I was gardening backward — I was so focused on flowers that I forgot what gives the flowers more meaning and punch, more definition, more seasonal interest. I forgot that what makes a garden surprising and memorable is diversity — and that diversity also translates into a far more interesting and wildlife-friendly fall and winter garden.
It was the third full year that my garden took off. Here is an image from summer 2010 — rich with texture and various bloom colors and sizes. But when I looked at this vista I only saw what was missing — different foliage colors and shrubs. I had to go back in and add a few viburnums, serviceberries, an elderberry and a ninebark.
It was frustrating, because I realized I was gardening backward — I was so focused on flowers that I forgot what gives the flowers more meaning and punch, more definition, more seasonal interest. I forgot that what makes a garden surprising and memorable is diversity — and that diversity also translates into a far more interesting and wildlife-friendly fall and winter garden.
2011: Plant Trust and Research
I got into more trouble in 2011. Like any avid gardener, I packed in my plants tightly. The benefit is that I had few weeds, as the plants shaded them out; and the soil temperature was more regulated, so I needed less irrigation. But I also always ignored the research I did on mature plant sizes — so plants that should have thrived died out instead.
This image is what happens when you ignore horticultural info, although I must say I enjoy being touched by my plants: having mountain mint’s sweet fragrance stuck to my arms the whole day, or startling a butterfly from a flowering perch. This physical closeness to the garden has made me psychologically closer to it. I see more; I hear more; I taste more. I learn way more as I make insect discoveries and keep tabs on what plant is working where, what’s declining, what’s self-sowing, because it’s all so close to me. Exhilarating!
I got into more trouble in 2011. Like any avid gardener, I packed in my plants tightly. The benefit is that I had few weeds, as the plants shaded them out; and the soil temperature was more regulated, so I needed less irrigation. But I also always ignored the research I did on mature plant sizes — so plants that should have thrived died out instead.
This image is what happens when you ignore horticultural info, although I must say I enjoy being touched by my plants: having mountain mint’s sweet fragrance stuck to my arms the whole day, or startling a butterfly from a flowering perch. This physical closeness to the garden has made me psychologically closer to it. I see more; I hear more; I taste more. I learn way more as I make insect discoveries and keep tabs on what plant is working where, what’s declining, what’s self-sowing, because it’s all so close to me. Exhilarating!
By 2011 the garden was starting to outgrow my intentions for it — the art was becoming artifice, and plants began showing that they had minds of their own. At first I edited — trimmed, divided, transplanted — but it became far too much work for too little impact. I sat back one day on the deck listening to the birds, trying to trace the zigzag path of bees from flower to flower, when I finally conceded to the nature of nature.
Since 2011 I’ve let the garden seed where it wants, except for the pathways. When a dependable plant doesn’t come back in spring, I no longer mourn its loss but celebrate what comes up in its place as a delightful discovery. Plants move, find where they best want to be, and I know that what I’ve started is more like a child growing up than a sculpture on a shelf. It’s alive!
Since 2011 I’ve let the garden seed where it wants, except for the pathways. When a dependable plant doesn’t come back in spring, I no longer mourn its loss but celebrate what comes up in its place as a delightful discovery. Plants move, find where they best want to be, and I know that what I’ve started is more like a child growing up than a sculpture on a shelf. It’s alive!
Sometimes I think I’ve just been lucky with gardening. My mother never had much success in her landscape with me around, and so I knew nothing when I started.
But I love reading and researching. Before I dig in a plant, I consult a dozen sources on what conditions each plant prefers, and place them accordingly. I think that’s the key — don’t trust plant tags. Do research online and, if you can, always buy native plants accustomed to your soil and climate that are from your locale. This can save you a world of hurt.
But I love reading and researching. Before I dig in a plant, I consult a dozen sources on what conditions each plant prefers, and place them accordingly. I think that’s the key — don’t trust plant tags. Do research online and, if you can, always buy native plants accustomed to your soil and climate that are from your locale. This can save you a world of hurt.
2012: The Big Switch to Natives
This is a picture from late July 2012. We were in the middle of a massive drought where we saw less than 1 inch of rain over nearly three months from June to September. I had not yet watered the garden — I usually do so no more than once each year, but confess I did three times in late summer and then in late fall to help things overwinter.
In the wake of the drought (and the dearth of wildlife that came with it), I began taking out nonnative plants and replacing them with natives — both for the greater wildlife draw and the lower maintenance when the plants are properly sited (also mitigating the need for chemical sprays and fertilizers). How does my drought-stricken garden look to you?
This is a picture from late July 2012. We were in the middle of a massive drought where we saw less than 1 inch of rain over nearly three months from June to September. I had not yet watered the garden — I usually do so no more than once each year, but confess I did three times in late summer and then in late fall to help things overwinter.
In the wake of the drought (and the dearth of wildlife that came with it), I began taking out nonnative plants and replacing them with natives — both for the greater wildlife draw and the lower maintenance when the plants are properly sited (also mitigating the need for chemical sprays and fertilizers). How does my drought-stricken garden look to you?
Accept nature’s editing. Every year the garden is different. One plant thrives, another waffles. Genista moth larvae decimate a Baptisia, and Liatris lean the wrong way. The birch begins shading out some asters, and the Joe Pye Weed mysteriously dies back. It’s OK. I’ve let go so I can garden on a different level and learn from the evolution of what I’ve given birth to. I’ve even let some things start growing in the lawn that borders the garden just to see what happens — I’d never have done that five years ago.
When you plan a garden, consider the foundation plants, like shrubs and trees. Place them in areas that provide you with privacy but also will surprise a visitor at every turn — like in the middle of a border or at a turn in a path. Attempt to use as many adaptable native plants as you can, and research the exact condition they’ll need to thrive with some benign neglect.
After that keep yourself from editing too much — see what the garden has to teach you, what each plant and bird and insect has to share about how nature works. Be patient. Let go. Learn to garden on a deeper level.
More:
Why Native Plants Make Gardening So Much Better
Try Slow Gardening for Some Unexpected Benefits
After that keep yourself from editing too much — see what the garden has to teach you, what each plant and bird and insect has to share about how nature works. Be patient. Let go. Learn to garden on a deeper level.
More:
Why Native Plants Make Gardening So Much Better
Try Slow Gardening for Some Unexpected Benefits
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I still morn the losses a bit ... :-) ...
to "merge" with one garden's spirit and becoming it's protector ... ... and vice-versa ... the garden enhances the gardener's growth ... and blossoming ... ecopshere ...
one of my favourite activities is "plant gathering" from wild areas around here (Bromont, Québec), ... I goofed a couple of time (was not able to keep the precious specimens alive in the garden ...) but had many successes ...
yes there are days I think this garden is ... "bof" as we say in French ... just like any creation, from bread to cake to house to relationships, to art ... there are days we seem uneasy about them ...and then the next morning comes and ... miracle! everything is just so ....! ... ineffable ...
thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience so precisely yet so poetically and philosophically,... a true gift!
to "merge" with one garden's spirit and becoming it's protector ... ... and vice-versa ... the garden enhances the gardener's growth ... and blossoming ... ecopshere ...
one of my favourite activities is "plant gathering" from wild areas around here (Bromont, Québec), ... I goofed a couple of time (was not able to keep the precious specimens alive in the garden ...) but had many successes ...
yes there are days I think this garden is ... "bof" as we say in French ... just like any creation, from bread to cake to house to relationships, to art ... there are days we seem uneasy about them ...and then the next morning comes and ... miracle! everything is just so ....! ... ineffable ...
thank you! for sharing your thoughts and experience so precisely yet so poetically and philosophically... mystic! a true gift!
this is one of the best articles on gardening I have ever read! So, so , true. Relax! Think bought mother nature, and have fun planting and creating! Then sit back and see the beauty around you!