I will be glad when the new year is here

13 years ago

Have had a weird Christmas.

Wednesday, one of the horses at the farm needed put down and it was an awful time. He was a big ole boy with a heart of gold.

Yesterday, I was reading the newspaper and realized a friend might lose her house. It has been "sheriffed" by Wells Fargo who declared it abandoned even they have never left it. So in 3 weeks she, hubby, 3 teenagers, 2 dogs, 2 horses and several cats might be on the street. She went to work and is renting part of the house out and they can make payments again (they had bigtime financial/legal probs and her assets were frozen by a family member). Wells Fargo doesn't want to let her make the payments on a house she has lived in and made payments on for 20 years.

Crazy...

I'm hoping they can get it all worked out.

Didn't get much sleep for Christmas eve so hoping to crash tonight. Yawnnnn

Kathy

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dotmom
13 years ago
Kathy, I'm so sorry for all of the bad news coming your way, lately. Sorry for having to lose your Big guy with the heart of gold, that has to so very hard. It should be criminal, the way the companies are so ready to get your name on the dotted line to sell a person a property, then when bad times hit, are not willing to work with a person to help them get over a hump. I do hope 2011 is a better year for you. Dottie
Granlan_TX
13 years ago
So sad about your beloved horse. :(

Just not right about what's happening to your friend and her family. Grrrr!

(((((Kathy)))))...wishing you a better and blessed New Year.
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13 years ago
Thanks guys! I thought this post had gone south...
I want to reach out to my friend, but will wait a few days. I am sure she is dealing with lawyers trying to stop the sale.
Hugs, Kathy
juellie1962
13 years ago
Awww, so sorry for all your bad news. I feel for your friend; was close to losing our house years ago and the uncertainty of it all really sucks. Luckily, we pulled through it; I hope she does too!!!
susanjf_gw
13 years ago
i'm so very sorry about your horse..

lets just hope the housing choke-up on people lessens next year...instead of bailing out the fat cats they should have bailed out mortgages..

my cyber pal's dd was in the same fix only she had to let the house go...now it's sitting vacant cause noone had the 68 grand they were asking for...so now they're having to pay to keep it heated. ect...(nw snow country) oh...the dumbest thing??? they gave her $5000 grand for cleaning the place and leaving it sparkling...it that insane??? why not give her that as credit on the property?
moonie_57 (8 NC)
13 years ago
That is so sad about your horse and I'm very sorry for your friends. I just can't imagine the uncertainty of going through such an ordeal.

I, too, am ready for the new year and hoping for less stressful times. DH got laid off 11/4 and we are still unsure whether or not the company will have to pay unemployment. They may be exempt, as they are exempt to paying overtime. Still waiting to hear after 8 weeks. Then, our GS had to go back to living with his mom. That ripped our hearts out. On the up side, he was with us for about 2 hours on Christmas day. We wanted him to spend the night but she wouldn't let him. Right now she would still have a hard time getting him to leave if he stayed very long.

Hope you've been sleeping better!
lynn_d
13 years ago
Doesn't it seem that sometimes the bad news is so overwhelming the good that you are afraid to answer a phone? It just hurts so much to care..... I hope that things turn around for you soon, Kathy, your friend as well, I can just imagine how much she hurts and needs a friend right now.
kathy_
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13 years ago
Thanks all. My friend hasn't found how to stop the sale yet. I am doing better about losing my horse buddy.
Moonie, I was shocked about your grandson. Keep trying. That boy will remember you tried your best.
Well the new year is almost here. Hope it is a good one for all of us.
Hugs, Kathy
kathy_
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13 years ago
Well my friend called her congressman and got in on some kind of new program that made Wells Fargo let her reapply to finance her house. The sale has been stopped!! I am so happy for her..
joyfulguy
13 years ago
Kathy,

Sorry about the horse: that hurts.

Pleased to hear that your friend has a possibility of staying put: partial good news, at least, for the year end.

ole joyful
terilyn
13 years ago
So sorry about your horse, it is never easy to lose someone but this time of year really makes it hard. Hope things work out for your friends.
dotmom
13 years ago
Kathy, I hope the pain lessens soon from the loss of your big guy=friend, and you can soon smile at your memories of him.
That is good news about your friend. I sure hope things work out for them.

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