A very sad, sad story

10 years ago

I have a close friend whose son and DIL came home for Xmas, this is the first time they had been together since 2000. My friend never liked her DIL for various reasons, but this year they were all going to put everything behind they and reconcile.

On Dec. 9th the DIL father passed away but they decided to make the trip to be home for Xmas with the family. This DIL was also 6 months pregnant with their first child so lots to be happy for. They arrived at my friends house on Dec. 23rd, they live on the east coast, had a party that night with friends. The next morning the DIL did not feel well had a fever, that night around 10pm her husband took her to the hospital and they discovered that the baby had died. By the next morning (Christmas Day) at 4am the DIL was also dead, a blood clot went to her lungs.

I just cannot wrap my head around this, it is so tragic on so many levels.

Just had to tell someone.

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mare_wbpa
10 years ago
So awful!!
chisue
10 years ago
How tragic. Only 'upside' is that the family DID make the effort to reconcile in time. Sometimes the only certain time is now.
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marylmi
10 years ago
How terrible! What a tragic year for that family!
Pieonear
10 years ago
So sad.
susie53_gw
10 years ago
Oh, how sad for a family just coming back together. I will. be praying for them..
fran1523
10 years ago
What an awful thing to happen to anyone. It just reenforces the fact that life is too short and too fragile to hold grudges or not be at peace with everyone in your family. My prayers for all of you.
joyfulguy
10 years ago
One death is hurtful to the survivors and it adds to the complications when there are mixed feelings including troubles, for it leads to complications in the emotional reactions of the surviving person where there was distance ... but that does not appear to have been the situation with the father.

How fortunate that they had decided to resolve some of the issues related to your friend's family and were in the process when this double tragic event took place.

I hope that some of the issues had been dealt with satisfactorily before the situation was put on permanent hold.

I hope that your friend is able to deal with the death and mourning in a fairly normal way, without extra complications arising from earlier antipathy.

There's a message here for us all, I think - when there's been trouble in a family or among friends, it's best to make a substantial effort to get the situation resolved earlier, rather than later ... for later the door of opportunity may be closed for the rest of this life.

May God's grace be with your friend and family as they work their way through this difficult period.

ole joyful
dedtired
10 years ago
Life is so cruel sometimes. My heart just breaks for them. Imagine what the mother of your friend's DIL must be going through, losing her husband, daughter and grandchild all within a couple weeks. Heartbreaking for all involved and a good lesson to hold your loved ones close.
phyllis__mn
10 years ago
Oh, this is just too sad to contemplate; may it remind us to hold our loved ones closer.
patti43
10 years ago
Add to what Phyllis said--never forget to say, "I love you" to your family and dear friends.
marie_ndcal
10 years ago
Just sending prayers and special thoughts for the families involved. I went thru something similiar many years ago and know the feelings. Just be there for your friend and do what you can to help out.
wantoretire_did
10 years ago
So very very sad.
Terri_PacNW
10 years ago
It's really hard to wrap ones head around this.
Such a heart wrenching situation.
jemdandy
10 years ago
This is a very sad story and it affects the son of your friend most of all. Please remember this was happenstance and was not the fault of anyone. The son will need support from all of you. Now is the time to pull together like a family. And by the way, its ok to cry!
lindaohnowga
10 years ago
Prayer for strength and comfort just said for that poor family. That is just so very sad.
susie53_gw
10 years ago
Prayers for all!!

A very sad, sad story

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