Happy Birthday, Bulldinkie! My ex-H had a kidney/pancreas transplant 7 years ago and I remember well that waiting. You've been on my prayer list for a long time. This forum's mojo for people going through tough times is reknown. Slowly put your hands on your monitor and sit quietly...feel the support coming through? Yep, that's the forum's power. We're with you. /tricia

SIGH....I guess you didn't understand my point. Let me try and explain it better. When kidneys don't work well, poison builds up in your system and these poisons affect your brain. Irritability can become an issue. Dealing with such an illness can also be really hard in many ways including lots of stress, anxiety, anger and depression. Sometimes anger can be displaced. I remember a lecture on emotions and kidney function I had as a student nurse around 45 years ago and the speaker left a real impression on me back then. I am not enabling, I am understanding a bit of what might be physiologically happening. I don't need a lecture on how to deal with terminal/chronically ill people. I have been on both sides of this knowing first hand what it is like, and I believe in telling people the truth. There are just kinder ways to do this. Sending someone a private email, instead of embarrassing someone in a public forum would have been the best way.

Not knowing browser, OS, firewall, other programs running, any error message or the like it's only shots in the dark. Direct connection, wireless, dialup? Have you rebooted? Made any changes to computer & settings, including Windows Updates, other program updates, etc? If using an adblocker have you turned it off? Tried a different browser? I use Opera so I remain pretty much exempt from the myriad of issues I see posted here. Cleared cache & temp files? Have you tried accessing from another computer? There's some starting points. Good luck.

The move had its issues, and I had to leave many plants I wanted to take behind, but the overall result is good. I just finished planting 124 daylilies on Nov. 1, and I'm still weeding and mulching. I hope to have that done by Wed. night when we're supposed to get our first freeze of 32 degrees. I'm lucky to have gotten such mild weather all the way into November. Indianapolis sometimes gets a hard freeze at the end of September. I planted the first dozen evergreens next to my house on the back side, which faces south. I'm hoping they will have enough shelter there to flourish. Most of the lilies are planted in four long rows in the middle of my backyard where the soil is black and rich. I think the previous owner must have had a large vegetable garden out there at one time. A couple of small groups are planted on either side of my deck steps. I wanted to plant some in front of the house in a flower bed that already existed. Unfortunately, my pine tree and weeping cherry shade it so much, it only gets about 3 hours of sun. I guess I need to plant azaleas, hostas and impatiens there next year. The neighbors say they've never seen deer on the street in 23 years, but there are a few wooded areas nearby, so I decided to put all the daylilies in the fenced backyard. I took photos of the first ones I planted back in September, but they're on my phone. Maybe I can add them to the post later. I love the house and my new neighborhood. I'm back at the church where I was a member as a teenager and doing lots of things with new and old friends there. It's wonderful to live so near my sister, cousins, college and high school friends. My social life is full, and I'm not at all lonely anymore. All of that is well worth giving up some daylilies. Debra