We finally heard back from her, over on the Kitchen Table forum: Here is a link that might be useful: Bulldinkie's message

Happy Birthday, Bulldinkie! My ex-H had a kidney/pancreas transplant 7 years ago and I remember well that waiting. You've been on my prayer list for a long time. This forum's mojo for people going through tough times is reknown. Slowly put your hands on your monitor and sit quietly...feel the support coming through? Yep, that's the forum's power. We're with you. /tricia

SIGH....I guess you didn't understand my point. Let me try and explain it better. When kidneys don't work well, poison builds up in your system and these poisons affect your brain. Irritability can become an issue. Dealing with such an illness can also be really hard in many ways including lots of stress, anxiety, anger and depression. Sometimes anger can be displaced. I remember a lecture on emotions and kidney function I had as a student nurse around 45 years ago and the speaker left a real impression on me back then. I am not enabling, I am understanding a bit of what might be physiologically happening. I don't need a lecture on how to deal with terminal/chronically ill people. I have been on both sides of this knowing first hand what it is like, and I believe in telling people the truth. There are just kinder ways to do this. Sending someone a private email, instead of embarrassing someone in a public forum would have been the best way.

Yes, I am waiting anxiously to hear too! Please let us know! Hugs, Trin