My thoughts are with Jeaninwa (loss of her mother)

17 years ago

I just read about the loss of your mother on the are you alone today thread. I am so sorry.

What a terrible way to spend Thanksgiving Day. I hope you have friends and family around for support.

I am thinking of you at this difficult time.

(((((jeaninwa)))))

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chattypatty49
17 years ago
I just read this. I am so sorry. Thanksgiving was 1 week after my mom passed. I too hope you have friends and family around for support. My family was with me, and I was lucky enough to be rubbing her hair and talking to her when she passed.

Take care of yourself and remember the good times with your mom. (((((Jean))))
Patty
jeaninwa
17 years ago
Thank you both so very much. My mom is finally whole again! She is in the arms of her Father and her parents and her sisters.

Here is something I wrote on Wednesday after I came home from being with her in the hospital:

My mom is dying.
When is the only question. I hope she goes quickly, if you can call the last 5 years or so quickly.
She is totally unresponsive. They say she may be able to hear us, but there's no way of knowing.
There is no drastic measures to be taken, no resussitation. She is on oxygen and that's about it.
She's had a heart attack, she most certainly has pneumonia, she has highly elevated white blood cells, and fluid around her heart. Her heart rate would fluctuate anywhere between 109 and 153. It's working extremely hard and is extremely large. She has congestive heart failure had has for a while now.
There are no miracles to be prayed for. Only peace.
My sister just called...my mom's kidneys and liver are shutting down. They will give her morphine to help her breath easier.
I suggested that when she takes her last breath, that we should all shout "Halleluia!" and celebrate for her, she will finally be home, in the loving arms of her mother, father and two of her sisters and her heavenly father she had such faith in.
It's horrible the selfish thoughts that splash through your brain at the moment you realize you're mom is dying. I say splash, because they are scattored thoughts, droplets here and there, nothing formed completely and nothing concrete, but splashing and sloshing all over. Half formed and quickly thought, to be wiped away with a backhanded swipe like a windshield wiper on a rainy day. Part of me wants to stop and examine those thoughts to try and figure out where they originate and why I would even think them. Another part wants to deny them completely. Another part forgives me for thinking them.
I'm not crying anymore.
Not for my mom.
I wish her a speedy journey.
I wish her peace.
I wish her painless days and nights.
I wish her freedom from the prison that was her unusable body for so many years.
I wish her joy and happiness that I know await her, because she believed it.
Most of all, I wish her grace.
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intherain
17 years ago
Jean, my prayers are with you.
lattefairy
17 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Linda Wayman
17 years ago
Jean, I'm very sorry for the loss you must be feeling. What you wrote is so sweet and caring. You were a wonderful daughter. I wish you peace.
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cherbo
17 years ago
You have my sympathies.

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loagiehoagie
17 years ago
jeaninwa, what you wrote was just beautiful! I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face. What a great and unselfish way of looking at your mom's passing. My mom passed over three years this coming January and I still break down almost every day. We were so close and so much alike. I don't want to hijack your thread with my story, so I will just close saying thanks for posting that heartfelt letter to your mom.

Duane
okwriter
17 years ago
Jean,

My heart is breaking for you. It's been just over a month since my sisters, my dad and I stood at MY mom's bedside and watched her die in a situation that is eerily similar to what you describe with YOUR mom.

Knowing that our loved ones are celebrating with those who've gone before doesn't make us miss them any less, does it? I'm so sorry for your loss...

I will keep you in my prayers.

Rita
lydia1959
17 years ago
(((((((Jean))))))))
debnfla8b
17 years ago
I'm so very sorry for your loss.

What you wrote brought tears to my eyes...it touched me very deeply. I think that is exactly what I would want to say about my Mother also.

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ronf_gw
17 years ago
My deepest sympathy to you, jean.
You'll be in my prayers.

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grammahony
17 years ago
My sympathy to you too Jean. I know your glad in one way, yet sad in another. Your writing was beautiful.
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koda04
17 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss
May she rest in peace
Kathsgrdn
17 years ago
I'm very sorry about your mom.
donna37
17 years ago
(((Jean))) Your Mom is at peace now and no more pain.
junkyardgirl
17 years ago
Having just lost my mother, I can totally feel for her. Thanksgiving is hard for me anyway, with no family around. I purposely went on a fast this year right before so I didn't have to participate. T'day without my mom would be unbearable.
kathi_mdgd
17 years ago
Jean

My sincere condolences to you.What you wrote is beautiful,your mom would be proud of you.
Kathi
glenda_al
17 years ago
Sorry for your loss!

My thoughts are with Jeaninwa (loss of her mother)

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