follow up to Introducing People thread

9 years ago

I found this interesting.

What about when someone DOESN'T introduce the person you're with?

This sometimes happens at work. One of my bosses will bring someone around on a tour into my classroom, and tell the person they are with MY name, but not tell me who this person is, or why they are there. It could be a parent, a potential employee or the head of the corporation....I don't know. I'll sometimes ask, and be given the name but not any other info, and I don't want to be so forward as to ask further questions. This just happened tonight. When they left, my coteacher asked me who it was.....I had no idea.

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morz8 - Washington Coast
9 years ago
Awkward when your boss or one of your bosses. In a more social setting, if someone fails to complete an introduction, I can say (possibly taking a step closer) Hi, then repeat my name (even if it's just been said), maybe reach for a hand and if a quizzical look doesn't bring a quick response, add, 'and you are?'....In other words, finish the introduction by introducing yourself.

But - its so clear the person bringing you together has failed to satisfy an introduction, might be tough if its your boss.
rhizo_1 (North AL) zone 7
9 years ago
Oh gosh, I had to reach my husband how to introduce me to people.....he was impossible, at first!

There I was, brand new to the city....to the state...hadn't met a soul. He would put his arm around me and say, " This is my wife." Lolol. Now he says, "Rhizo, this is Todd, the architect I've been working with on the xxx project. Todd, this is my wife 'rhizo'."

He simply had never been taught how to execute this very important social task and it was awkward for him.

Jean, if I were you and had such a socially inept or insecure supervisor, I'd do as Mor suggests. I would reintroduce myself and offer a handshake. The other person will offer his or her name as a reflex.

This post was edited by rhizo_1 on Sat, Nov 8, 14 at 5:24
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Husband knows that if I don't introduce him, it's because I have forgotten the other person's name. He sticks his hand out and introduces himself so they, in turn, introduce themselves. LOL
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jeaninwa, the work situation you described is standard practice in my field. A boss doesn't tell an employee who they are with because they consider themselves to be superior to the employee. They don't want the employee to know who the person is -- it's not a social setting or error in etiquette -- it's a power move.
jeaninwa
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9 years ago
It may be a power thing, but with the one boss, I don't think so, I think she may just not think of it. She's there giving that person a tour, they are the important one, and that's all she's thinking of.
Now, the OTHER boss...yeah, I think she just doesn't feel I need to know, and so she doesn't bother. When I know it's someone from corporate, and that they are there to see how things are working, I WILL ask their names and what department they are from.
Most times when this is happening, I'm super busy with children and can't stop to shake hands and introduce myself, but I will remember to do that when the situation is available. We are doing a lot of new hires lately, so I'm pretty sure it was a potential employee last night. Pretty sure. Not positive.

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