My son died on monday

12 years ago

I just am so terribly lost and feel so numb. This is my second child that I have lost in 7 years. Barry was 52 and my daughter was 43 in 2004 when she died. I just am lost.

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maybee_gw
12 years ago
Our son died last year when he was 52 also...it's been a year, and it doesn't seem to get better with time....I feel what you are going through...I'm so sorry :o(
dedtired
12 years ago
Gloria, I am so sad to read this. I cannot even imagine your pain and heartbreak. I hope you have loved ones around to comfort you.

To all of you who have lost a child, I am so, so sorry for the hole in your heart. Of all my worries, the worst is that something would happen to one of my children.
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gadgets
12 years ago
Gloria, there are no words to take away the great pain you have to be feeling. I pray that He steps in and helps you through all of this. And may He wrap you in His love always.

Shirley
susie53_gw
12 years ago
I am so sorry to hear this... My thoughts and prayers are with you.. Susie
petaloid
12 years ago
It takes time to get through the shock, pain and grief, but I know your son would always want the best for you, happiness, peace of mind...

There's a light at the end of this tunnel, even though it seems so far away today.

You will get through this somehow.
Granlan_TX
12 years ago
My heart goes out to you, Gloria.

Sadly, too many of us know the heartache of losing a child or children. ;(
ronf_gw
12 years ago
I'm at a loss for words, Gloria.
You are in my prayers.

Ron
glenda_al
12 years ago
My condolences!
maire_cate
12 years ago
I am so sorry that you are suffering. Please know that you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
pammyfay
12 years ago
Such sorrow, my heart aches for you.
Know that between this forum and the grieving forum also on Garden Web, there are people who will gladly hold your hand as you try to breathe again.
gazania_gw
12 years ago
Gloria, I am so sorry that you have lost your son...and daughter. I have lost a daughter, so I know how much pain you are in. You will be in my thoughts today and in the difficult days you have ahead of you.
donna_loomis
12 years ago
Oh, Gloria, my heart goes out to you. At a time when we are expected to be thankful, you have been struck with this horrible loss. I wish I could ease your pain. Please know that I am sending up my prayers for your and your family to get through this.
JennaVaNowSC
12 years ago
Gloria, you are also in my thoughts and prayers. I cannot find the words to express my feelings. Please take good care of yourself during this stressful time.
Kathsgrdn
12 years ago
I'm so sorry.
cynic
12 years ago
How terribly sad. My heart goes out to you. I know there's nothing I can say to relieve your pain and grief but I do hope you can cherish all the memories, photos and other things you shared in your time together.

We're here if you need us, don't hesitate to post anytime.
caroline94535
12 years ago
Dear Gloria,

I am so very sorry for you loss and pain.

I don't have children, but I've witnessed the unbearable devastation a child's loss can have on the mother. My cousin, who died yesterday, lost a young baby to a heart defect. An aunt lost one of her month-old twins to SIDS. Another aunt lost a grown son to alcholism and a daughter to suicide.

Their grief, which is unending, must be what is shared with you.

I am so sorry.

I hope you can do what I am trying to doing. Breathe in; breathe out; do the 'living' things you must, and then simply focus on the love you have for your children and the love they would want you to feel from others.

Again, I am so sorry you are forced to walk this sorrowful path. I hope there is someone close by that can hold your hand, cry with you, listen to you.

I am praying for you.
fran1523
12 years ago
My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry.
mamatoad
12 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know the heartache of losing a child (my daughter at age 39). Please continue to come here and let us know how you are. I pray that you will find comfort in memories of the good times shared with your son and daughter. ((Gloria))
donna37
12 years ago
So sorry for your loss. (((Gloria)))
amyfiddler
12 years ago
Gloria,
Sorry. THat is so sad.

Amy
donna37
12 years ago
So sorry for your loss. (((Gloria)))
joyfulguy
12 years ago
Dear Gloria,

My young 'uns are around 50, and both are hale and hearty, so I have no idea of the hurt and pain that are wringing out your heart just now.

I hope that you have some other loved ones around who can help you navigate your way through this heartache.

Perhaps some of them or some other friends have been through such a painful valley in recent times, who would be pleased to hear your story and help you through it, as well.

If you have a religious connection, many of the leaders there are sensitive, perceptive people who can listen to your hurt, and help you find your way through it, as well. It is important, I think, to connect with someone who is empathetic, who will listen as you share your hurt and not be ready to offer ready-made answers/remedies/solutions early on in the situation.

You've been around here for a while and no doubt have learned of how concerned, empathetic and helpful many of the members here can be ... and as you have learned for yourself as you see so many who have responded to this post with concern and affection.

May you find a measure of peace in your heart, in the days ahead, as you condsider the light and joy which your young ones brought to your life, through the years. And if there were unresolved issues between you as their lives in this dimension of being came to a close, I hope that you can find it in your heart to let them float away like a little paper boat on the river of life.

((((((Gloria and family, plus loved ones))))))

ole joyful
dollydolots
12 years ago
My Sincere Condolences

Dolly
sleeperblues
12 years ago
So sorry, Gloria.
sable_ca
12 years ago
Oh Gloria, my deepest condolences to you for this, the most unbearable of losses. I will pray for you and keep you in my thoughts.
cheekybones
12 years ago
Deepest sympathy.
lydia1959
12 years ago
So very sorry Gloria. I don't think there is anything worse than losing a child.
nanatricia
12 years ago
I am so very sorry.
minnie_tx
12 years ago
Gloria, there aren't too many words of comfort tht we can give you at this time. It seems to be too soon for you to know that he is still going on and in a new adventure and will never forget you. All that love you gave him ishelping him right now to make the tranistion to this new experience.
I lost my youngest in 2000 (at 39) far away in Hawaii. I remember his last phone call the Friday before and "I love you Mom" Also his giganic bear hug.

Your son is always with you in your heart and you will pull thru.
jemdandy
12 years ago
Our prayers go with you.
wildchild
12 years ago
I am so sorry.
bigbaby
12 years ago
(((((Gloria))))) I'm so sorry. Words seem inadequate. I am thinking of you and praying for you Gloria.
samkaren
12 years ago
Gloriam

Please accept my condolences....(((HUGS))) to you and your family.

SamKaren
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Jodi_SoCal
12 years ago
Gloria, I am so sorry. I hope you find peace and can some day remember the good times with a smile on your face.
User
12 years ago
I am so very, very sorry for your loss.
matti5
12 years ago
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hugs to you!
marry
12 years ago
(((Gloria)))I'm so sorry.
patti43
12 years ago
I'm so sorry, Gloria. Losing someone you love so much is especially hard this time of year. We lost DH's son in October 2007 and the holidays will never be the same again. Big hugs to you and you have been in my prayers. One day at a time, hon.
mrsmarv
12 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss.

(((Nora)))
ruthieg__tx
12 years ago
I'm sorry Gloria....((((((((((((((((Gloria)))))))))))))
jackie_ok
12 years ago
I am so sorry. My sympathy to you and your family.
kathi_mdgd
12 years ago
((((((((((((Gloria)))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry for your loss.Please accept my sincere condolences to you and your family.
Kathi
User
12 years ago
It must have been hard for you to write the tile to this post. Hard to read it as well. I am so sad for you and your family

Of course you are lost and feelings are all over the place.
Your story is tragic. My advice is for you to take all offers of kindness that you can stand. You are loved.
nanaofmany08
12 years ago
GLORIA I KNOW YOUR HEARTACHE & PAIN MY SON IS AN FALLEN AMERICAN HERO KIA 6-29-09 IN IRAQ SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS BUT YOUR SON IS WITH US ALWAYS HUGS LINDA
jackie643
12 years ago
Oh I'm so very sorry Gloria, We lost our 47 year old son
Aug 7th. I know what your going through.
joann23456
12 years ago
That's just terrible, Gloria. I'm so sorry.
sjerin
12 years ago
Please add my prayers of sympathy, Gloria. I cannot imagine and hope, hope you have a good support system. If not, please seek someone out!
cbtexas
12 years ago
Gloria I am so sorry for your loss. It couldn't have come at a worst time around the holidays. Not that there ever is a good time to lose a loved one. Hopefully you are surrounded by other loved ones that can help you get through this. I will add you to my prayers and please check back with us and let us know how you are doing. I am truly sorry.

CB
moonie_57 (8 NC)
12 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Hope that you have plenty of family and friends for support. It must have been a tough week for you.

((((gloria))))
mare_wbpa
12 years ago
I'm so, so sorry Gloria. I can't begin to imagine the pain you're in. I'll keep you in my prayers.

My son died on monday

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