I need to rant!

18 years ago

I am so ticked! DH and I have been saying we need to get our flu shots. Yesterday there was a big front page write up in the local paper about the importance of getting them and that the local health clinic is giving them on Mon,Tues and Wed. So,last night we decided to go this afternoon. Now mind you,it takes a little preparation for me to get ready to go anywhere and about the only place I do go is to the grocery store or Wal-Mart or out to eat occasionally. We get ready,drive into town and when we get there DH realizes he forgot to put my walker in the back of the truck. Not a really big thing since the door to the Health Clinic is just a few steps away from where we parked and I can hang onto him for that short distance. So we get to the door and there's the sign,"Due to nurse's absence,no flu shots given today! We will be giving them again Nov.3rd.,4th. and 5th." Now,with the big write up in the paper,why didn't they make that announcement in the write up? Not a really big deal but still,I got all spiffied up for nothing! LOL So I say to DH,"Well,is there something else we can do or someone we can visit since we are out anyway? He says,"I guess we can go to the Truck Stop and see if they got in any more racing jackets. "OOOOK,whatever! I'm not crazy about the Truck Stop but they do have some interesting stuff occasionally and I like to browse,but guess what? I can't go in because I don't have my walker,so I sit in the truck while DH checks out the racing jackets,and probably the CB radios and Scanners,none of which he can afford to buy right now! LOL We leave there and drive down the road a short way to the local "Tractor Supply". Another place where I enjoy prowling around in on occasion and this is a new one here and I've not been there yet,but remember,no walker. He says,"You wanna go in?" I say,"Yeah,right! You carrying me?" LOL If there had been a wheel chair in there I would have made him push me all over that store,but with my luck he would have gotten distracted looking at something and left me sitting there! LOL So I sit in the truck another 20 minutes and out he comes with a catalog,(just like the 3 I threw in the trash a few days ago LOL).He has this page marked with a gas tank for the back of the truck. Why do we need another gas tank for the truck when we can't even afford to fill up the one that is on it and what's the purpose of an extra gas tank anyway? Just stop at a station when you run out of gas! LOL

On the way home he says,"What's wrong with you?" "Nothing dear,absolutely nothing!" LOL MEN!!

OK,I confess,I will never feel guilty again about staying in Wal-Mart for an hour (or 2) while DH waits in the truck!

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susanjf_gw
18 years ago
maybe for christmas the family could spring for another walker for the car...that way you're not stuck sitting in the car!

were you able to enjoy fall color, at least?
lilliepad
Original Author
18 years ago
I have another one but we have a crew cab pickup and there are usually 3 people in the back so there's really not a place to leave one in the truck.He never forgets to put it in! I use it to get down the ramp then he picks it up and puts it in the back of the truck.Don't know what happened today.I think he just had a lot on his mind,plus he hasn't been feeling well for the last couple of weeks.
Not many fall colors out here in barren W TX!LOL There were a few trees along the interstate and I did notice how many different ones there were and the different colors they were turning so I guess the afternoon wasn't a total loss.LOL
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lilliepad
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18 years ago
Please don't get me wrong,I love my DH and he takes really good care of me.LOL I don't mean to sound ungrateful and I know how lucky I am! I normally don't mind sitting in the car waiting for someone,and I really didn't mind it yesterday.I like to just watch people,but there weren't many going in and out of either place.LOL.Yesterday just started off on the wrong foot and I really would have liked to have gone in both places with him but neither one had a scooter or a wheel chair. Not getting the flu shot upset me more than anything else.LOL
"After you used it to get down the ramp, where did it go?"
I leave it sitting at the end of the ramp and he picks it up and puts it in the back of the truck after he opens the door of the truck for me.He just forgot this time.And it is a folding one.
Cynic-The sign on the door stated that the nurses were at the schools,so I assume they would have known a day or so ahead of time that they weren't going to be there.
"I though there was a female gene that automatically replies Well if you don't know, I'M NOT GOING TO TELL YOU!!!" Nope,I don't have that gene I guess because I have never used that line.
((((Ruthie))))......I do know how fortunate I am and it really wasn't that big of a deal.
Pieonear
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Lilliepad, you had "one of those days." I can see why you'd need to vent a little. Don't feel guilty. Everyone else vents so you can too and don't feel guilty!!

I need to rant!

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