second thoughts & doubts
decordummy_gw
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Has anyone had 'second thoughts' about building?
Comments (17)We actually did both things you mentioned: built a house and remodeled an existing home. The decision to build turned out to be a good one, not only because the house turned out very well but also because we now live on a lake, so our home is an incredible sanctuary for us. I will say, however, that our new 2500 sq ft house with some "bells and whistles" (i.e. beautiful wood flooring, multiple showroom bathrooms, granite countertops, stainless steel appliances, and 72 different species of plants in the landscape) is a lot more work than our previous house. My DW scoffs at idea of how various things were supposed to be "low maintenance." It takes the two of us four hours just to superficially clean this beast. Even though the process of building the home went well and brought the two of us closer as a result of the new-found respect we had for each other, it was mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting (even though we had a contractor build it for us). And both of us were in our 40s. It would have been less stressful if I hadn't been the GC, but the additional cost would have been an even bigger stressor. Fortunately, our old house was only twenty minutes away - we didn't have to uproot ourselves from the community, learn a whole new city, re-establish ourselves, etc. I can't imagine what that would have been like. Remodeling, on the other hand, was a very unpleasant experience and caused a lot of arguments between us. You would think with our previous building experience that it would have gone smoothly, but remodeling is a whole different animal. You are constrained by the often dysfunctional floor plan of the original builder and are continually at the effect of shoddy materials, poor planning, or just outright stupidity. You have to put up with things you don't like because the cost of changing them, like a horribly colored fireplace, is prohibitive. And it is harder to control costs because you don't know what lies behind the next piece of crumbling floor board... or unyielding clipboard of the local county bureaucrat. We were mandated to put in sidewalks/gutters, widen the road, and put in $13K of landscaping just to bring the property in line with local statues. This was after a county planning meeting where we were told (prior to buying the property) that code compliance costs would be "minimal". In the end, I think the most important thing is to discover what is the essential, core experience you want to have in your retirement years. Is it new experiences, intimate time with each other and/or family, spiritual growth, or a unique combination of things? Once you find this "touchstone," it should be easier to decide if building a house really fits in with what is most important to you....See MoreDid you have second thoughts about your layout?
Comments (16)When I did my kitchen in my old house (about 8 yrs ago), I went against the KD's advice and laid it out in an unconventional manner. I did not have the triangle! My fridge was around the corner from my sink-oven-range galley, horrors! But I did it because I also used fridge drawers across from my range, where i kept produce, meats, etc. I also thought through the ergonomics of very element of my kitchen. I loved my kitchen. I had only one regret ... i had a small trash under the sink, and a huge one far away. I ended up never using the undersink one ... too much trouble. With our new (old farmhouse) home, I initially was changing finishes primarily and not layout .... but they had a 19' island... in a galley kitchen! My DH finally insisted that was silly (although it actually didnt work as badly as it sounds, when we made a meal there a few times before starting demo). We had final plans with a 19' island. Then DH totally redesigned it (poor man, he has no design training but I have made him watch so much HGTV). I love our new design. But it sure has flaws, some of which i know already and some that I will no doubt learn. But honestly, looks mattered a lot to me too. And it's not like some of the design nuances really render a kitchen inoperable. This isnt the banquet prep for the Four Seasons. I'm sure we all grew up in kitchens where no one once gave a thought to ergonomics! Don't sweat it so much....See MoreI thought I had it figured out but now I am doubting myself.
Comments (7)Thanks everyone for your input! I like the idea of adding in a color or two into each of the rooms to give them some interest. Because I consider decorating my house kind of a hobby of mine, I want that to be reflected in the actual decor. I don't want people to walk in and say of course her rooms are put together, she only used one color. Does that make any sense? Perhaps I care too much what other people MIGHT think when they come into my home. My husband and my little girl feel at home, thats what matters! But just so you get a better idea of what I am talking about, I will post some pictures after I am feeling better. I have the flu right now and the house doesn't look quite photo-ready!!...See MoreSecond thoughts: pine beams
Comments (8)Thanks for the input! I've had a couple of discussions with The Woodworker, and it wasn't too hard to convince him to start looking for a good deal on Ipe instead. After reading a few dozen postings, I'm going to email George @ eastteak; please feel free to make suggestons if there's anyone else I should contact as well. One thing, though: John -- could you clarify, please? "X 100 using caulk"? Thanks to all for making our advice and expertise available through this forum! What an invaluable asset it is, and such a HUGE relief! The only way we can afford to build at all is if we do a lot of it ourselves, and since I barely know the right end of a hammer to hold, I've lot a lot of ground to make up. ------------ Trilby (what I lack in competance I make up in enthusiasm -- and research!!)...See Moredecordummy_gw
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