Decision made...I'm moving forward!

15 years ago

I posted this on my diet club and wanted to share my update with my pals over here too.

Good news - I've made a decision to try AA as recommended by my doctor. There is a church that is a 5 minute walk from my house - they host a Tues lunch meeting. I'll be starting that next week. I had a beer yesterday after thinking about joining...why did I do that? Am I afraid to say goodbye to a beer? Good heavens I do need help. I asked myself if I enjoyed it when done - nope. I drank out of spite. WRONG. I took an online quiz at the AA site - out of 12 questions I scored 50% for indicating that alcohol is a problem in my life. So I am going to start with this next week. Can't hurt. I don't drink often but when I do it's never right. Once I get settled into this routine I hope to get back on paying attention to my eating patterns which always suffer with my fall SAD. One thing at a time. Thanks for listening to my journey on this - it's all part of taking better care of myself.

If anyone who is reading this is having a problem with depression, self medicating with alcohol, I want you to know you are not alone. There is nothing to be ashamed of by any standard. It's an illness that is treatable. See your doctor for a checkup and be honest. There is so much help out there now for us - don't suffer alone. If you want to talk about it you can get my email from my member's page. I'm a great listener and I do care.

Hugs to everyone,

Peggy

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OklaMoni
15 years ago
WOW, Peggy, what an honest discovery you made of yourself.

Know, there is someone in Oklahoma wishing you the best of luck.

Moni
angela_nor_calif
15 years ago
Peggy congratulations on taking a huge step. You sound like you are moving in a new direction with your life and that's great! Good luck.
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Happy_Go_Lucky_Gayle
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McPeg, good luck with your decision. AA is a wonderful program. You've already made the first step.

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trishaw
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Peggy,

You have all of my warm sunny thoughts going out to you. You email me if you ever need to just talk! I discovered just last year that I suffer with SAD. Never ever made that connection until I started reading these boards. You go girl and know that all of us here are behind you.

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15 years ago
Good luck Peggy.
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15 years ago
Wow!! You really are taking charge of your life in such a positive way. I'm very proud of you.

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susanjf_gw
15 years ago
it so changed a dear friend's life. she was able to reconnect with her children, met and married a very nice man, and until she passed, was content...
maryanntx
15 years ago
I am proud of you too Peggy. It takes a strong person to analyze their self and then take charge. Good luck in the future.
foggyj
15 years ago
You're very strong to take that first step. The rest will be easier. Hang in there. Great news.
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15 years ago
Thank you everyone for your continued support. It means the world to me.
I value your opinions and experiences, whether I like them or not, you help me think about things from a different angle.
I just hope I can return the same support too.
(((((((((((((((Kitchen Table)))))))))))))))))
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grammahony
15 years ago
Good for you Peggy. You've done the 1st step. My ex went to AA for 3 years before he decided to go back out there and drink. We'd split up over his drinking and being physicaly and verbally abusive, I took him back with the understanding if he ever drank again that was it. He did, and I divorced him. After 17 years.
I enjoyed the Ala-non group, and learned a lot about myself in going to that.
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linda_in_iowa
15 years ago
Congratulations.
glenda_al
15 years ago
Best of luck to you!
junkyardgirl
15 years ago
Peggy, I'm very proud of you! Can't wait to talk to you again. I was raised by alcoholic parents, and I hope I can help you with this decision. I've been to too many AlAnon meetings to count when I was younger.
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15 years ago
You go girl~ !!!
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rosepetal2
15 years ago
it takes a very strong woman to admit that she has a problem, you have done that not only to yourself but to anyone who reads KT............you go girl!!!
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izzie
15 years ago
The best to you and hope it works. Addictions can destroy peoples lifes. I just went through some things w/brother in law. We had to cut all ties. He has destroyed his life and hurt my son, me and everyone else who care. Now he only surronds himself with people who use him and put up with his distructive behavior. If he were to get better we may forgive but I think/know he is intent on killing himself with drinking. He had been going to AA for years so he knows what he is doing.

For your sake and people around you please continue on the path to sobriety.

Decision made...I'm moving forward!

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