We have a few addicts in our family. You probably know these things, but in case you don't... The first things drugs do is destroy a person's conscience. Right and wrong mean nothing to an addict--they only care about finding the money for their next fix. Addicts lie. MOST of the time. NO ONE can 'fix' an addict or their relationship with one. As long as you're trying to help him (paying for life's essentials, letting him get away with abusing you, etc), YOU are keeping him an addict. Most addicts really don't change. The few who do usually do so only after they've totally hit rock bottom. Helping him as you are, is keeping him from deciding to get the real help he needs. Look, as the others have said, YOU cannot fix this problem. All you really can do is save yourself. Get out. Take some time to heal, and find a real man, who truly loves you, and won't abuse you physically, verbally and financially. And just in case those words don't help you make up your mind--are you prepared to go to jail for this man? If the police find drugs in the car while YOU'RE driving it, YOU could be charged with the crime. And do you really believe this guy would step up and claim ownership of them to get you out of trouble? I doubt it. Whatever else you decide to do, please start squirrelling money away for the legal fees you no doubt will be paying sometime in the future, because one or the other of you will probably need to be bailed out and defended at some point

Sorry about your phone! I don't understand why anyone would want to get a cell phone on a contract basis when there are good,reliable, less expensive ones without a contract.I just got rid of an AT&T that seemed to multiply in cost every month,in spite of what my so called "plan" was.I got a Virgin Mobile(no,I'm not affiliated with the company in any way).No contract,unlimited nationwide anytime calling for $49.99 a month plus tax.It ends up around $60.00 a month and for $10.00 more you can get unlimited texting.The service is great and I think pretty much nationwide. DD has Boost which is about the same price.You can order the phone of your choice online or go to RadioShack,some Wal-Mart and K mart stores.Online has more choices than most of the stores that sell them.I have had so many bad experiences with contract phones I will never get another one!

I see I cross posted with a couple of other people doing mock ups. Jodi's right, the shadows make it look like a patchwork quilt and like I said, the lack of variation in the tile makes it difficult. Also, lighting is a factor. I try to flip the tile and work it in to give it more of a random pattern sometimes. I assumed these are 12x12 sheets of tile and scaled them all the same. Still not to scale in your kitchen, but figuring the normal space between countertop and cabinets is 18", I have two tile sheets (24") in that space. So they are smaller than they would really be. Didn't think about that while I was actually doing the mock-ups! DUH! LOL! Anyway, I'll let others take over for a while if they want to. Robin

starfish, for what it is worth, I would highly recommend having them custom built vs the "cabinet without door" look. If I can find pics of my old mudroom I'll post them and I think you'll see what I mean. My old mudroom had pantry cabinets without doors and I feel like this looks so much better. It also cost less to have the local guy custom make them and match the stain to my kitchen vs having the cabinet company do it. It was a leap of faith that the local cabinet guys could match the stain, and their first attempt was ghastly. Luckily they knew it themselves right away and they fixed it. The guys are adjusting the drawer slides and such right now so measurements will come later today. For right now I grabbed two quick dimensions while they were outside. The total width of the room is 7'6" wall to wall. The walking space between the lockers and my desk is 4'2". When I'm seated at my desk there is still plenty of room to move behind me. I typically stand at my computer so I installed the desk high at about 38", just higher than kitchen counter height. I bought a barstool like those in my kitchen for the mudroom as well for when I do want to sit, or when the kids are using the computer. More later. Thanks for the compliments! I love this space. Anita