I have made a life changing decision !!!

16 years ago

After years of soul searching and looking for simplicity in my very complicated life.....Hubby and I have decided to sell our home here in Ontario and move to Newfoundland.

We have so many protest this move as they do not understand our intentions. I work for City Law enforcement, good salary , benefits and pension. Hubby works as a AZ driver.

Our life has over the years consisted of work, work, and more work....we have somehow lost the meaning of life.

In a desperate attempt to find this simplicity and meaning, we have decided to give up a sure thing, and give it a shot. It's the type of lifestyle we've always wanted , slow down the pace, smell the fresh air , enjoy the people and just SIMPLIFY

there comes a time when you have to take a risk and see where your dream takes you.....I am fairly confident that moving to a place without the rush and competition of life here can only bring my stress levels down to a minimum and allow me to get back to basics enjoying the arts and crafts I use to , when I had time, before work and surviving came into the picture.....wish me luck, I have so many hobbies to explore now that I'll have to do them. Can't wait......

Angela

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matti5
16 years ago
Life is not a dress rehersal so you only get one shot at it, and I think it's great what you are doing. Congrats, I'm really happy for you!!!!
carol_in_california
16 years ago
Your dreams will come true....you and your DH have the courage to take charge of your lives and the rest will fall into place.
Good decision.
Keep us updated when you get there and get settled in.
Godspeed.
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luckygardnr
16 years ago
I agree, life is too short to not follow your dreams! Go for it!
Cherryfizz
16 years ago
How exciting for you Angela and I bet your Mom is thrilled!! I am so happy for you, and it is so great that you will be getting away from the hustle and bustle of big city life and be surrounded by the beauty that Newfoundland has to offer.

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Jasdip
16 years ago
Oh wow, that is so cool! What a move, and change in lifestyle.
Can't wait to read your follow-ups!
kayjones
16 years ago
Congratulations on your decision! Remember, one can't make any progress without taking a risk!
maire_cate
16 years ago
That's wonderful and I wish you much happiness and contentment in your new life. It's very easy to allow yourself to get sucked into the pressures of work and daily living - I think it's great that you've been able to stand apart and see the effect and more importantly do something to improve your life. It's thrilling! When will you be moving?
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jel48
16 years ago
I'm happy for you!
phyllis__mn
16 years ago
Wishing you all the best; come back and post now and then. Tell Mom that, too!
suzieque
16 years ago
I am so happy for you and respect your decision totallly. I think that a lot of people (myself included) yearn to do just that but don't have the guts to do it. I'm glad for you that you finally did! Perhaps you've given me a kick in the butt, too. Yea for you and your DH!
alisande
16 years ago
That's so exciting!! I'm sure you won't regret it.

PS: We'll expect to see you in one of Casey's pictures!
heather_on
16 years ago
Angela, I wish you all the best with your decision. There is a time in most of our lives when we want to slow down the pace and get to enjoy life and really smell the roses. Pressures of living in the Greater Toronto Area are hard. Newfoundland is a beautiful area of our country and you have some of your family there. I really think you are making a good decision.
nicole__
16 years ago
This is perfect! What a nice life you have to look forward to!
country_sunshine
16 years ago
How fantastic! It can be a bit intimidating at times, but a move to s much simpler way of living will give you the time to think about that which is really important, and honey it ain't what the "world" has to offer.
My DH and I moved to the wild woods of Tennessee back in 1986 and have not regretted one moment of it.
Newfoundland is beautiful and I know you will totally love it there.

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marilyn_c
16 years ago
wishing you all the best! Go for it!!
donna_oh
16 years ago
Go, enjoy & live your life to the fullest!

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lydia1959
16 years ago
Wishing you the best!!! It sounds like a good move to me.
pammyfay
16 years ago
What an adventure! The freedom of a "do-over"--wouldn't we ALL love that sometimes!
FlamingO in AR
16 years ago
Sounds like a great adventure!Don't be surprised if family ends up following you! That's what happened to us, my parent's moved here after we left it all in FL and then Woody's mom and then his brother and then his sister. Then my brother. All the sibs have gone back to where they came from, but it was interesting when they were here. Now just my parents are still here and it's perfect.

Good luck and I admire your spirit!
mariend
16 years ago
Looking forward to seeing new crafts, pictures and maybe you and Casey will at least have a mini get together. That is one province I have not been to--the other PI.
Enjoy your new home.
kacram
16 years ago
Ditto to ALL the posts above. I admire you
courage.
patti43
16 years ago
You sure are brave, but then the thought of beautiful Newfoundland makes it sound exciting. How soon are you doing this? And be sure to keep us posted. I think I lot of us are green with envy right now!
chisue
16 years ago
Good luck to you both! Happy you are happy, but remember you ARE doing life-changing things and those are stressors.

Will we find you on the "Buying and Selling Homes" forum as that goes forward?
hayjud_mn
16 years ago
That sounds just wonderful.
Throughout life, whenever things became overwhelming, I always wished we could just pull up stakes and start over -- You are actually doing it!
I wish you all the best!
casey_nfld
16 years ago
Where in Nfld are you moving?
linda_in_iowa
16 years ago
Change can be very good.
hale_bopp
16 years ago
Awesome!

Blessings,
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glenda_al
16 years ago
I'm happy for you
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16 years ago
How wonderful!
Granlan_TX
16 years ago
Angela, I wish you and your hubby all the best with this decision. I'm sure you've considered the pros and cons.

I've never been to Canada, but from what Casey has shared with all of us, I would put that beautiful/peaceful place at the top of my list.
susanjf_gw
16 years ago
are you from the newfoundland area? have you lived thru the winters, ect? i so know the stress of being in a major city..we're just 4hours from you in detroit...but i also know uless you've really tried it out first, i'd proceed with caution...

there have been times i'd love to move but then we'd be leaving all our kids and grands and that would break my heart in the long run...

i do wish you the very best, and hope you're successful in selling your home, and establishing your new life...
donna37
16 years ago
Go for it and enjoy your new lifestyle.

We packed up and left Ca. for the Ozark hills of Missouri nearly 30 years ago and have never regreted it. I left an excellent paying job as RN and went to one making less than half of what I made formerly. We moved to a 140 acre farm and DH worked as school bus driver along with running the farm. Farming was something he swore he would never do as he grew up helping his Dad. lol. We had to scrimp and save along the way but we made it.
Keep us updated on your new life.
ruthieg__tx
16 years ago
Congrats...You know I watch a lot of documentary and NatGeo productions and I see all these different cultures that have so little and are so obviously happy. Last night I was watching My country, My kitchen and there was a chef on there from Viet Nam....She took us on a trip to her country and cooked native foods in her family's outdoor kitchen. Poverty Level digs by our standards and yet, you could see the love and pride in the family and the fact that they were all together as a family from age 102 to an infant speaks loudly. Just walking through the mall disgusts me to see all the crap there waiting for people who feel like they have to have it..........and some times when they can't even afford it. I hope you find what you are looking for and it is a wonderful lifestyle for you.....Just
tami_ohio
16 years ago
i wish you many blessings in your new endevours! And welcome back to the table. I have missed seeing you and your mom here.

Tami
naturenut5
16 years ago
I have a friend who is in the process of doing the same thing Angela. She and hubby live in Toronto...he's retired...and they bought a little place about 30 miles out of St. John, a couple years ago. Right now they live there for 6 months of the year and come back to Ont for winter, but are planning on moving permanently in a few years...or sooner. They love it!
Congrats on your decision and the best of luck to you!

I have made a life changing decision !!!

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