sorry to be uninformed, but...
what is DV?

I bet you can find out what the charges or issues are;
it probably is public record.

sending best thoughts to those kids.

I am sorry I don't know more of your story already nike....but why does she have custody and what is she getting out of keeping them...does you dh support her? ie alimony or child support? (if there are older posts you could direct me too that would be fine if you don't want to answer)
i would want to wring her neck too.

Domestic violence?

I am so sorry about this entire situation. Your DH must be restraining himself from going over and beating the c**p out of this guy.

If you and DH provide any computers etc to the kids, may I suggest you first record seriel numbers etc. Tell Dh to tell X these are HIS computers and are only to be avaialbe to kids and if they go missing he WILL file a police report.

Can DH ask for temporary custody?

Its sounds here like you have enough proof to show unstable environment and take those kids outta there!
How old are they again????

I would have DH call Social Services and tell them that his kids are in a violent situation at their mother's house. He should mention the court case the mother has against the BF for domestic violence. I'd have the case number handy in case they ask for proof.

I was in a similar situation, except I was the child stuck living with my mother. The court was all pro-mother and anti-father, so no matter what my mom and step-dad did, they wouldn't grant my dad full custody.

In case you're wondering, I ended up living with my dad. Apparently, the only thing that will make a selfish mother give up custody is threatening to have her DH arrested for doing drugs. Step-dad was supposed to be having periodic drug tests and wasn't. So, dad's lawyer demanded he take a drug test. Mom knew he would fail, so she dropped me on dad's doorstep. Nice mom, eh?

DV is domestic violence and if there is a case pending, it's usually public record. Your DH needs to get a copy of the court filing and if possible, a copy of the police report to see if his kids were in any way involved or present when it happened. Then he needs to seek a protection order or change of custody to get the kids in a safe place. Good luck!

Ps my comment about the computers, xboxes, etc isnt so much I care about the computers, but unfortunately in order to build a police file.

How sad for the kids! To have their things pawned and be sworn to secrecy. And to be exposed to violence. Grrr! Makes me so mad that some women will let men treat them that way. And they keep going back for more and exposing the kids to it. Pathetic!!

I would definately get social services involved while this is all still fresh. They may not do much this time....but at least their eyes will be open to it now. And if this is a pattern between bm and her man then social services will eventually step in on the kids behalf.

Well we don't know what happen in court but DH's uncle works in court not where she was. He told DH that she can't drop a DOV anymore. They had to have both appeared. The Felony Theif charge didn't go away on its own either but again we have no idea. All we know is the night before court they were all going out for Ice Cream like a big happy family!

Social Service would be wonderful if it would help. The thing is when we called the police that night. Soc Ser said that they wouldn't open a case unless the police found reason to do so. I don't know maybe I should try again. We live in another county. If I do it I will look like a jeolous SM. DH will not do it because he is afraid of how it will effect the kids and how they might hold it against him and or me. Or that she will not allow him to see the kids. I think he needs to put her in her place because she is doing wrong by the kids.

To top it all off, Last night SS told DH that he and his sister aren't planning on coming this weekend unless we have something good planned to do. Next weekend we was planning on taking them an extra weekend to go on a fishing trip. He don't think he wants to do that either. (I think they are afraid to come that they might spill BM beans) They don't know we know all but the details already.

still call child services. document everything.