Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. Please know that I love each one of you and it is friends and family like you that make life so meaningful. Each of you have a special place in my heart. Sincerely, Marian

It was predicable that they would lay in the nice cleared damp earth with two little hostas. I should have put something there to protect them. That wasn't the worst thing they did. When I weed and get close to the ground, they are come to lick me in the face. I was talking to the cat who was also helping and Beau somehow tripped me and I fell. He was following close and I didn't know he was there. I fell on my hip so there was lots of padding but it still hurts.

I'm so sorry for your husband and for you. This will be a big adjustment, won't it. Thoughts and prayers for you.

A person who loves to twist the knife is likely a person who would cultivate a friendship for informational & manipulative purposes (to find out what you're up to so he can sabotage it, etc). so...your brother-in-law may be in for a rude surprise someday. That won't help you now, though; when someone is being "courted", groomed, cultivated, it's very flattering, & they just can't believe that the other person has ulterior motives; they're more likely to accuse you of pettiness, control issues, and/or jealousy. I'd say *don't* be "open-minded about this; anything that can expose you to ridicule or risk is not something about which you can afford to be tolerant. Unfriend bil on fb & adjust your privacy settings, remind your sister to keep mum about you to her husband, protect yourself, & leave your ex in the dust of the past. I wish you the best.