LOL Roselee, Yep it does look good. I got me some good ol' donkey poo today. I'm very happy it was a special gift from a friend. I think I ate some of it too....the poo/hay mix was dry and it was windy outside the two don't mix. It blew into my face yuck. At least I don't have to worry about it being harmfull :)

Well they are releasing him from the hospital today with really no answers, they believe it's related to his diabetes but that's about it. My sister is not happy with the non-diagnosis and I'm not surprised - our own imagination left unchecked can conjure up awful things :( but she was thankful for the positive thoughts and prayers that have found him feeling well enough to go home. That's a start. Anything neurological is so frightening, it makes you feel helpless. I'm just going to keep him in our "daily"'s that this was a one shot. Thank you all, geez I'm ready for the weekend how about everyone else? too much stress these days - for everyone...health, economy, homeland security. I bet I'm not the only one ready for a little time-off huh??

I'm certain that what you say is true, kelly ---and I'm certainly not discounting it or how you're feeling--- but for the major part of recordable history men have been the ones who were expected to "bring home the bacon". Women worked and brought home considerably less money than their men counterparts but were still expected to take care of the majority of household duties - the child care, cleaning, shopping, laundry, etc. What I was trying to get across is that it doesn't really matter who makes the most dough as long as the other duties are shared accordingly because then the stress level is considerably lower. Each partner feels validated and satisfied knowing that their partner is sharing in all the aspects of their union - outside of the financial part. Then the other parts aren't magnified to such a degree. When any person in a relationship becomes not only the primary financial supporter and carries the weight of all the other responsibilities, that's when the problems begin. Marriage is a partnership and it's never going to be 50/50. We have to learn to flex depending on the particular situation. When money becomes the focal point is when it breeds contempt and discord. There have been times in our marriage when my DH has made the lion's share and other times when I've been in that position. When partners don't share in the responsibilities and one of them shoulders the largest part all the time is when trouble can arise.

She loves him and tries so hard to help him. That's the problem, and that also why AlAnon is not for her. They will only tell her to leave him. This is your sister's problem, and only she can save herself. All you can do is refuse to participate. If he is staying with you, and leaves the house drunk, and gets into the car....call the cops and give them his location and license number. But, be prepared to lose your sister in the process. She'll make his bail and pay for a lawyer to get him off. To lock him in a room and refuse him alcohol?? It takes 72 hours to de-tox a chronic alcoholic. And be prepared to clean out a filthy, destroyed room, unless it has an attached bathroom that he may or may not use. Unless you're prepared for the EMT's to pretend to not notice the mess when they answer your 911 call after he passes out or goes into cardiac arrest. De-toxing a chronic alcoholic is a shock to the body. The DTs, and other effects of alocohol withdraw are not pretty, and done without medical supervision is risky.