May I have some good thoughts, please?

17 years ago

My step-father has had recurring cancerous tumours on his bladder over the past couple years. He's had 4 day-surgeries so far to remove them. Once he had chemo intravenously and he had to turn over every 15 minutes so it would swish all over his bladder.

He recently had surgery, and had a follow-up last week. His surgeon told him that his bladder has to be removed, and that the treatment involving him turning, didn't work.

Needless to say Wally and Mom are devastated....he'll have to wear an external bag.

What is amazing about this urologist who Wally has great respect for, is HE suggested he go for another opinion. Thursday they're going to another city not too far from us, on a referral from his doctor. He wants to see if this other urologist feels the same as he where the bladder should be removed.

Wally is 72 and looks and feels 62. In April he'll have 50 years at the dealership where he's assistant service manager.

Thanks guys!

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nodakgal
17 years ago
Sending lots of good thoughts!
Keep us posted please.
luckygardnr
17 years ago
Good thoughts coming his way. Hope he gets the best diagnosis! Hugs to all.
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alisande
17 years ago
Healing thoughts on their way. Let us know how it goes.
grammahony
17 years ago
Good thoughts from me too.
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okwriter
17 years ago
Prayers from Oklahoma ~
dotmom
17 years ago
Jasdip, my prayers and good thoughts coming your and your step fathers way. I'm impressed that his Dr suggested he get another opinion. Some Dr's are so egotistical, they are insulted if it is mentioned. I hope everything goes well with his surgery. Dottie
grittymitts
17 years ago
Bundles & heaps of good thoughts from me.
Please, please URGE, INSIST or do whatever whatever to get your FIL that 2nd opinion & if that Dr. agrees with 1st, have the surgery ASAP!! Thousands of people folks live normal lives, go to work each day, etc., with bladder & colonic bags w/o others ever knowing.

I lost my only Sister to the same cancer a year or so ago.
She decided against seeing another Dr. Intolerant of chemo infusion in bladder it was halted on 4th try. She did see 2nd Dr., too late, it had attached itself the bladder wall...BAD news. By then she was down to 80 pounds & three urology oncologists didn't think she could travle 300 miles to specialist for surgery, and if she did, they didn't think she would survive it.

She opted for no further treatment & with promise to be kept pain free with hospice care, she went home. In her last three weeks, she was either pain free & comatose, or pain was so great she begged to die.

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missindia2020
17 years ago
Jasdip - that is the mark of a good doctor - one who suggests a person go for a second opinion. I'll keep him and your whole family in my prayers. Let us know what happens.

A
Jasdip
Original Author
17 years ago
Thanks so much for your prayers and kind wishes. I mentioned to Mom about my post and your replies and she is so touched that you are all wishing Wally well.

I agree with you who say the doctor is a true professional to offer a referral. He called Mom personally to see if an app't was set up with the the new doctor.

I will certainly let you know what happens on Thursday, and hopefully the surgery can be scheduled soon. I realize that no one will know he has this apparatus, but it's still a shock and adjustment for sure. But it won't stop us from being on the golf course! Soldiering on!
patti43
17 years ago
Prayers and good thoughts no matter what the outcome. It must be so worrisome for your family. (((To all)))
kacram
17 years ago
You got it, jasdip!

I DO love your name! lol
williamsburgjane
17 years ago
Sending special thoughts to your Dad and your mom & you!
debnfla8b
17 years ago
Lots of prayers going up for Wally! Yea...if he has that external bag not many people will know except the ones he choses to tell. Wally will be back on that golf course in no time...bag or not bag!!! I have a couple friends with a colonestomy bag, no one but a chosen few know they have it. You could never tell.

Deb
gneegirl
17 years ago
You have my good thoughts and prayers. As others have said, nowadays, it can be difficult to detect the bag. Life-altering yes, but life-saving. Here's to many better and happy years for him.
lydia1959
17 years ago
Sending good thoughts.
clubm
17 years ago
Sending good thoughts to your step dad and mom.
lindyluwho
17 years ago
Sending good thoughts for Wally.

Linda
wildchild
17 years ago
Sending good healing thoughts for Wally.
Toni S
17 years ago
Good wishes for Wally.
joyfulguy
17 years ago
More good wishes for Wally - and family - and prayers, as well, for exact diagnosis, excellent treatment and healing with the best result possible.

ole joyful
country_bumpkin_al
17 years ago
I missed this yesterday, but I'm here now to add my Prayers!!!
Jasdip
Original Author
17 years ago
Thank SO much everyone! You have no idea how this thread makes me feel. Several of them brings tears to my eyes when I read them.
I just know with all this support and prayers he'll be fine.
This truly is a great Table to be sitting at. No wonder more people want to come and sit at it. :-D