My son's barn wedding

13 years ago

It was a wonderful day however the weather did not cooperate so they had to get married inside.

Only one incident. After the reception everyone had left and the brides mother and I were packing up food that was left and the cake. My son packed up the remaining beverages and several of the young people were going to the bar. DH and I went to our hotel, it was too late and we are too old for that stuff. When my son asked his friends were his bride (Alisha) was they said she had gone ahead with other friends to the bar, so he left. When he arrived at the bar, he asked were is Alisha and they said she isn't here. Just then his phone rang, and it was the bartender and she said, "Well you got your food and your booze but you left your bride here". There was Alisha the last person left at the reception." LOL what a way to start a marriage.

The above two pics are of the entrance to the barn.

Lovely groom and bride.

Mom and son!

This is a small barn where the bride and bridesmaids got dressed.

I think she was telling us "NO more pictures, I want to eat."

The reception area.

The cake. They were not very happy with it but it sure did taste great. Made with Champagne.

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Teresa_MN
13 years ago
Sounds and looks like a lovely event.

Choosing the bar over the bride should be saved for year #7 at least! LOL
centralcacyclist
13 years ago
And who looks just like mom! Only handsome instead of beautiful. The setting is lovely, the bride is stunning! I love your navy blue dress.
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sooz
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What lovely pictures--and a cute story too! Thanks for sharing with all of us!
magothyrivergirl
13 years ago
Beautiful!! Gorgeous dress.
It looks perfect!
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13 years ago
What a lovely day you had! Congrats to the newlyweds.
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13 years ago
Congrats to the beautiful couple and I hope they have many years of happiness.
lindac
13 years ago
Beautiful....everything looks lovely!....and your son is sure momma's boy! Couldn't deny him!! LOL!
And Alicia? Wow!! dimples and all!!
Won't they make adorable babies!?
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lpinkmountain
13 years ago
Beautiful bride, handsome groom, very pretty setting, and the cake looks good to me, and if it tasted good, so much the better! What a wonderful day!! Thanks for sharing. Oh, and I love the orange tie! Looks like my kind of wedding!
wizardnm
13 years ago
That's a really nice setting, great looking groom and beautiful bride!

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lsr2002
13 years ago
It all looks perfect and I'm wishing them many happy years together.

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lakemayor
Original Author
13 years ago
Thanks for all the nice compliments. It was a wonderful time and my new daughter-in-law is a gem.

So glad I learned how to post pictures so I could share this special time with my friends.

Karen
doucanoe
13 years ago
Wow, that is a beautiful place to hold a wedding! First thought that came to my mind was "OMG, he looks just like his mom!" Very handsome young man, beautiful bride, and I love, love, love her dress!

So glad you were able to share the photos! Absolutely gorgeous!

Linda
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13 years ago
Beautiful Couple. Love the pic of mom and son.

What a perfect location for a wedding. Like Linda, I love the wedding gown.

Thanks for sharing.

Ann
lakemayor
Original Author
13 years ago
It was a beautiful setting. I only wish I would have taken the picture of the reception area after the tables were decorated. There were wine bottles with two white fresh calalilly's, with a few leaves and moss around the base. There was a narrow orange ribbon around the neck of the bottles. They were beautiful.

I never took a picture after they were decorated. LOL
annie1992
13 years ago
Karen, everything is just beautiful, including the cake. Why did they not like it?

Your son does look just like you and the bride is beautiful. I do like the details on her dress, if I were your son I'd have been sure I took her home, LOL.

Thanks for letting us have a peek at the party!

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lakemayor
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13 years ago
Annie, They wanted the cake to be very simple but the frosting was not smooth and it looked like a top hat. So Alisha's mother and I put some fresh flowers on it. It helped a little.

Thanks again for your help with the pics.

Karen
stuartwanda
13 years ago
I love the setting and everyone's right, your son looks just like you. Thanks for finding the pics. for me, LOL.
Best wishes to the Bride and Groom.
cookebook
13 years ago
I thought my mother and I looked alike, but I believe you and your son take the cake! And speaking of cake - it is beautiful as was everything else. Great job!
sally2_gw
13 years ago
Beautiful son and bride! Looks like a wonderful place to have a wedding. I wish them years of happiness, love and friendship together!

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BeverlyAL
13 years ago
How beautiful everyone and everything looks. I do like the looks of the cake with the flowers on it. Love the bodice of the bride's gown. Someone was right - they will have beautiful children, just as you did.
sheshebop
13 years ago
Karen, where the heck is that barn? What a cute idea! I love, love, love your dress, and the bride's dress is also gorgeous. Your son is indeed handsome. It looks like a perfect wedding to me, and I think your fresh flowers on the cake made it very pretty, but it would have been too plain without them. Good thinking on your part. Wow! You must be letting your hair down now. Two weddings about 6 weeks apart! That would challenge most of us! Brave, strong woman you are! Let's get together for lunch soon.
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compumom
13 years ago
Wonderful shots-- best wishes to the newly weds! Thanks for sharing this happy day!
jojoco
13 years ago
Picture perfect, in every way! Thanks for sharing.

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Solsthumper
13 years ago
Beautiful couple, beautiful mother of the groom and beautifully-romantic setting.

The bride is carrying Calla Lilies, which are the same flowers my daughter has already requested for her wedding...someday.

Congratulations to the happy couple! May they live happily ever after.

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annie1992
13 years ago
karen, you did a good job with those flowers, I agree that the cake would have been too plain without them.

Then again, we'll see how Amanda's comes out, LOL.

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lakemayor
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13 years ago
Sherry, The barn is in Watervliet Michigan. A couple from Chicago bought two old barns and renovated them into wedding barns. They have one called the "Blue Dress Barn" but I don't know the name of this one. You can see them on the internet. Millcreek Barns is the name so I think it's probably millcreekbarns.com if anyone wants to take a peek.

In an earlier post I said that their Boston Terrier was in the wedding. Our oldest grand daughter walked her down the isle. She had an orange flower on her collar. I didn't get a picture nor did the photographer. She couldn't get it focused because Tenna was jumping around so much after she saw my son at the end of the isle. LOL I hope someone got a picture and if so I will post. She is their baby, at least until they have babies!!
bcskye
13 years ago
Congratulations to the very good looking young couple. I agree that the flowers made the cake.

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