I need all the help I can get, but please be gentle because this is tearing me up inside.
Since I'm long winded, this will be long. :)
I had no grandmothers, sisters, or daughters. My DIL is very very quiet and not animated in the least, but still a sweet person.
My DS and family are living here until their house is ready which should be in a couple of months.
When we found out the 2nd grandchild would be a girl, we were so excited! DIL and I talked about how we'd buy American Girl Doll's, etc.
E will be 4 in 3 weeks.
I was super excited because I've never been around a little girl. I have all boys. My DH only has brothers. I was thrusted into a land of tetesterone! lol
E is very close to her mom. She doesn't leave her mom's side unless E is playing with her brother who will be 6. E also isn't chatty, just like her mom isnt chatty. My son says my DIL is shy, but after living with us for a year and a half, I don't accept the shy thing anymore.
When I babysit E, she is glued to my side. When her mom is around, I don't exist.
Yesterday is a good example of how I've been treated since they moved in. It was the first day of school. E goes to a wonderful pre-school and loves it.
When they came home with Mom...she's a teacher so they get to come home with her...I got all excited, waiting by the front door, and I first asked my GS how school was. He said, "It was a lot better than I thought!" Cute coming from a 5 year old. BTW, he and I are tight as can be. He's just like my son, loves to chat, and talk about everything under the sun. Just like me too.
I asked E how her day was. She kept on walking and didn't say a word to me. Didn't even look at me. Her mom was right behind her and she also didn't say a word. Just smiled and kept on walking. I put up with this every day. Both of them are only talkative to my son.
I've tried and tried to engage E in play, but she likes to play alone or with her brother. Or with my iPad.
The irony is hysterical, but it also makes me sad to know I'll never have a close bond with my granddaugher since I missed out on having a grandmother.
I know things can change as E gets older, but I don't think it will. BTW, E's other grandmother is a 2nd grade teacher and she has the wonderful ability to get on little one's level. I can with my GS, but I can't with my GD because I feel intmidated by E! lol
Do you know how sad it makes me feel when we're at ballgames and I see my friend's little granddaughters sitting on their laps?
E and I do have our little moments. Like when I'm putting makeup on I always do her lips, and squirt a bit of perfume on her.
Any suggestions on what I can do, or should I just accept that this is her personality which is just like her mother?
Another question. At what age does a little girl get into dolls? E loves her toy horses and won't play with her dolls. I told my DIL I won't be buying the large A.G. Doll until E starts to like them. Although I did buy her the A.G. Bitty Baby doll, and she doesn't play with it either.
E's mother has never played dolls with her and I wonder if that's part of the problem. She buys E dolls at times, but doesn't take the time out to play with her. I've tried but she plays for about 5 minutes with them.
Since I've never had a daughter, do moms play dolls with their little girls? I know her mom wants E to play with dolls (it may be too early from what little I've read on this), but it seems E would mimic mommy playing with them. E is very girly and also a tomboy. Perfect combo! I strongly feel her mom should take the time out and play dolls with her. She's always on her iPhone and being iRude. heh heh.
All suggestions are welcome. sniff sniff.
terezosa / terriks
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