Thanks for the input cap! It is getting too late for the leafy greens but i could always try in the fall. I am just having a really hard time figuring out what kind of shade this area is in. I have done some more research and i think it could qualify as bright shade, with some direct sun in the afternoon. Do you think hostas, lily of the valley and some kind of phlox would work here? I like the idea of doing greens in the containers and hardy perenials in the ground eventually.

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I agree with everyone, including the OP, on all the gaffes here. I would cut them a little slack; the mom-to-be is pregnant and not feeling well, there is a divorce going on, and maybe more we don't know about -- etiquette probably seems relatively unimportant right now to this family. But still, the point here isn't that they didn't do anything wrong; they did. What the OP does about it, though, is another thing. I don't blame her for not wanting to attend -- it sounds like it will be very tense, and of who wouldn't feel like a chump with the information about the greediness? But I wouldn't withhold my presence as punishment for bad manners. It isn't the guests' place to teach the host and guest of honor manners, even if they are wrong (and it wouldn't work anyway). Leaving early in an obvious show of disapproval would be very rude (and mean). Certainly don't suggest cancellation or rescheduling -- of course they have already thought of those options, so it would not really be a suggestion, just a criticism. I assume that the OP is close to these people, either a relative or the one friend attending. I would let that be the guiding factor here, not their behavior. I think it kind of boils down to how you feel about making this family happy, dabunch. Suppose they hadn't violated any etiquette rules -- a friend gave the shower, the mom was to be there, no comment about wanting gifts -- would you be wanting to gladden their hearts and celebrate with them? Then do it anyway. Your presence and good wishes should be offered or withheld not on a merit system of how they are behaving, but on how you want to make them feel. So if you love these people, I would go to this awful party and do it with a smile. We would all want our friends and relatives to do that for us if we made a mistake, I'm sure. Stay away only if you think you cannot be gracious the whole time -- no snarky whispers to other guests, tempting though it would be! Perhaps all the other guests feel as you do and will NOT hold back. It would be a real kindness to the hostess to be a supportive guest -- maybe the only one. Good luck! Take public transportation so that if there is wine, you can use that to get through the party ....

The original post is very scattered. Picking through the chaff, it looks as if the house was left a mess after closing. That does happen. Unfortunately, you lost your opportunity to force them to leave the house in a reasonably clean condition when your mother closed on the house. Your realtor viewed the house for you before closing. It's not unusual for there to be bags of trash left at the property from the moving process. But, they should have been minimal and left on the curb for the trash hauler to pick up. Evidently, this didn't happen. Was the house occupied by the owner or were there renters in the house? Too bad that you had to hire someone to clean up the house and haul out the trash. Present the bill and pictures to your realtor's broker (boss). Tell them to make it right. Inspections and inspectors range from excellent to ridiculously bad. It appears that certain items in the house do not work. Did you have an inspection? If yes, did you get a written copy of the report? Did you read it carefully? Did you follow up on any deficiencies? If the oven doesn't work, unless there is a home warranty insurance policy, you are out of luck. Were you or your mother present for the home inspection? Did either of you talk to the inspector on the phone about the report? This responsibility falls on you, not the seller, to determine if things are in working order. Buying real estate is the last of the great horse trades. It's a buyer beware situation.