Funeral Etiquette
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Comments (12)The quip attributed to Michael Shoup (a southern gentleman) about dead folk growing roses brings to mind other southerners' irreverent remarks about the departed that I've found entertaining. When I moved well south of the Mason-Dixon, I was surprised (and kind of fascinated, to tell the truth) to learn that in some quarters of southern society there persists an adherence to certain rigid, rather baroque rules of etiquette -- including funeral etiquette. Among genteel southerners, the expectation is that one always comports oneself, and carries out ALL one's social duties, with decorum. That expectation extends to the rites, rituals and, of course, attention to southern hospitality that must properly accompany one's final exit. As an aid to pre-planning the inevitable, two southern women (Gayden Metcalfe & Charlotte Hays) have written a kind of funeral primer to assist in departing with grace, and with one's dignity and reputation intact for eternity. The title of their very instructive book is BEING DEAD IS NO EXCUSE. It is, of course, written in a very humorous vein. But those ladies are kidding on the level, and don't you forget it . . ....See MoreModern day "etiquette"
Comments (90)I was just reading through this thread and it really struck a cord with me. I had never heard of such a thing as sending a preprinted thank you card for a wedding or shower, and couldn't imagine that anyone I knew would actually use them. But when my dear stepdaughter was married last year that is exactly what we received - a preprinted card with yet another photo of the bride and groom. I was speechless; DH and I funded the entire wedding and also gave a cash gift on wedding day for the honeymoon. To be fair, I suspect this must be at least partially a generational thing. My SD is a perfectly lovely girl under normal circumstances, but was so caught up in the whole "it's my day" thing that I was very relieved when the whole wedding process was over. And the thank you notes were not the only thing that I found appalling. In her defense, her birth mother is completely lacking in parenting skills and while DH is a great role model, he has never been one to give advice to the kids unless they sought it. Annie, that afghan is so lovely and thoughtful. I would have been totally offended as well. This post was edited by peacamp on Mon, Sep 15, 14 at 9:16...See MoreNeed fast etiquette help regarding Catholic funeral and rosary
Comments (29)Just going to weigh in. Happened to find all this today. "Going to Communion" in the Roman Catholic Church is "receiving the Eucharist". The Eucharist is the Body and Blood of our Lord Jesus Christ. It is His entire body and soul, blood and divinity, having been changed from bread and wine into Christ Himself. (see Scripture: This IS MY BODY, do THIS in memory of me) When a Catholic goes to Communion, the priest/minister says "the Body of Christ" or "the Blood of Christ" and the person responds "Amen". Amen means "Yes" or "I believe". So unless a person can say yes to that, and knows what it means, it doesn't make any sense to receive the Eucharist. I for one do not want to assent to any beliefs that I don't actually believe. That would be lying, and all Christians assent to the 10 Commandments where that is forbidden. This is not about exclusion, it's about where one's soul and mind are on the journey of faith....See MoreEtiquette - sympathy cards for inlaws?
Comments (17)Curious. The responses more so. Where do you all live? You saw her often..so you are a pretty tight family. I would think the family would be rallying and a card/flowers seems rather impersonal to me. I have always thought those sort of things come from people outside the inner circle to the family grieving. It has never been my experience that the inner circle would gift each other with sympathy cards/flowers. Not saying it is wrong--this is just very curious to think about....See Moregoldgirl
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