My MIL has passed away

16 years ago

It was quite sudden. We went and spent the day with her on Friday, and she was fine. On Sunday she went to the hospital, and by Tuesday she was gone. Very fast. Her kidneys shut down, and she was in a lot of pain. Her body was full of infection, from what they do not know. Because of the lack of kidney function, they coudn't do a die test. She was in lots of pain, so we kept her on morphine to make her comfy. Luckily, everybody, even the daughters in Montana, made it before she passed. We all watched her take her last breath.

It will definitely seem strange to go visit and not have her sitting in her chair. Sigh. You always know that it will eventually happen, but you are still shocked when it does.

Roger is staying with his father, who is lost and devastated. They were married 66 years.

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pkramer60
16 years ago
Sherry, a big hug to Roger, his dad and to you. Sixty six years!
riverrat1
16 years ago
Oh Sherry! Sixty six years is a lifetime...I'm so sorry. Please know that I'm thinking of you and your family.
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centralcacyclist
16 years ago
Oh my goodness! I'm so very sorry. Hugs and hugs to all.
lindac
16 years ago
Oh, Sherry....I am so sorry....this is hard stuff...
It's not easy when it's sort of expected, but doubly hard when it happens so fast.
Sending hugs, prayers and a shoulder to cry on.
Linda C
craftyrn
16 years ago
My sympathy to you & yours , Sherry-- hugs & prayers too !
trixietx
16 years ago
I am so sorry! You, Roger and your FIL are in my thoughts and prayers. I know what you are going through.
jessyf
16 years ago
Awwww Sherry and Roger. Couldja post a picture of her?
wizardnm
16 years ago
My best to all and a special hug for you and Roger.

I'm so sorry!

Nancy
doucanoe
16 years ago
Oh Sherry and Roger....

I am so sorry to hear this terrible news.

Huge hugs to you and Roger and his dad. I can't imagine losing my partner of 66 years.

Linda
gbsim1
16 years ago
Sherry,
Hugs and calming wishes to you and Roger.
So sorry and hard to lose a mom no matter how old you are... and a partner of 66 years.... I'm sure your FIL is rudderless. Glad you can be there for both of them.

Grace
annie1971
16 years ago
I'm very sad for you and the grief you and your family feel now. Please know that the pain and sadness that you feel now will eventually be replaced with fond memories. I wish you all the best.
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annie1992
16 years ago
Oh dear, Sherry, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'll send all the strong thoughts I can muster up. Give Roger a big hug from me, and keep another one for yourself.

If I can help, I'm not far away.

Annie
compumom
16 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear this. I know it must be so difficult on everyone left behind, but thankfully you got to say your goodbyes. Long term care or quick w/o warning, it's all bad. It all comes down to how hard it is to lose your parents.
Sending you and Roger hugs of sympathy.
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canarybird01
16 years ago
So sorry for you, Roger and his father Sherry.

My condolences and hugs to you all.

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bri29
16 years ago
My deepest condolences and hugs to you, Roger and the rest of your family. I can't find the words. Just lots of hugs.

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sally2_gw
16 years ago
You have my thoughts, prayers and deepest sympathies. My heart goes out to Roger, and especially his Dad. I'll be thinking of you all.

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proudmamato4
16 years ago
My deepest sympathies to all of you.
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dedtired
16 years ago
So sorry to hear this Sherry. I feel so bad for your FIL. Sixty-six years was a very long time. He must feel as if he is missing half of himself. We are never ready to say goodbye to our parents.
lowspark
16 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear this news. My condolences to you and your family.
obxgina
16 years ago
I am so sorry Sherry! Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Gina
bunnyman
16 years ago
Best wishes to you and your family.
Gina_W
16 years ago
My condolences to you and Roger and your family.
shaun
16 years ago
Oh my goodness...... also sending my condolences to you and Roger. I'm so sorry.
Bizzo
16 years ago
My prayers are for the whole family, but especially for Roger's dad. ((((hugs))))
User
16 years ago
Oh Sherry, I am so sorry for Roger, his Dad and you. 66 years, that is going to be a huge loss to your FIL, it's going to be rough I'm sure.

Both Clive and I send you and Roger our prayers and best thoughts.

Sharon
claire_de_luna
16 years ago
Sherry, I am sorry to hear about your loss. Thinking of you...
jude31
16 years ago
Prayers to you, Roger and his Dad. I am so sorry.

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chancesmom
16 years ago
Sincere sympathy to you all - 66 years is a lifetime. That poor man.

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booberry85
16 years ago
So sorry to hear this Sherry ((hugs))
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16 years ago
So sorry to hear this ((((Sherry)))).
sheshebop
Original Author
16 years ago
Boo! Where have you been? We've missed you!
Well, the memorial sevice was today. Roger's dad is still having nightmares, so Rog is still staying with his dad.
It was a nice service.
One funny thing happened. When we planned the service, his father said he didn't want to do a luncheon afterward (Service was at 11:00). I tried to convince the family that people would be coming from a distance to pay respects, and the least we could do was feed them. I even tried to convince them to come to my house and I would feed everybody if he didn't want to do something. They aregued that it was his wish not to do a meal. I felt that they should have tried to make him understand that it was a good thing to do, that he did not know any better, but they all said they wanted to follow his wishes.
Well, last night at about 7:30 pm Roger called and said that his Dad decided he wanted a luncheon at his house. So he (Rog's Dad)went out and bought 2 lbs of shaved ham and 6 dozen buns and 3 dozen glazed doughnuts. Then, at the service, he invited everybody that came to his house for lunch. I almost cra**ed my pants. I sent my daughter to the store to buy a bunch of salads, another sister ran to the store to get more shaved ham. He truly had no idea. Heck the 2 lbs of shaved ham would not have fed his own kids (6 plus spouses and their children) let alone everybody at the funeral home.
LOL. He was clueless. And there ended up being about 60 people in his tiny house with nowhere to sit and eat.
Oh, and only one doughnut was eaten, LOL.
Where was Lindac when I needed her?
lindac
16 years ago
Right here, Darlin.....wishing I could have been there.....
He was confused....and how would he know how many people 2 pounds of shaved ham would serve?
I am glad the "stuff" is over....now to get "over it"...
Hugs...
brenda55
16 years ago
Sherry, so sorry to hear about your loss. My deepest sympathies to you, Roger and his Dad and their family.

Brenda
booberry85
16 years ago
Sherry, I've been lurking, just not posting much. I can empathize with your situation. Some friends of ours just lost their Mom. One widow, 2 bachelors & 1 daughter and none of them cook. I'm sure 2 lbs of ham sounds like a lot when you don't cook. I'm glad you were able to scramble & get things together. I'm so sorry once again for your loss
cloudy_christine
16 years ago
Sherry, I'm sorry for your family's loss.
mustangs81
16 years ago
Sherry, I am so sorry to hear this sudden loss. I can't imagine what your FIL will do without her. Knowing a little about what you and Roger did for them, is this going to create even more dependence on you both?

My sympathies,
(((Cathy)))
eileenlaunonen
16 years ago
My condolences to you and your family
annie1992
16 years ago
Ah, Sherry, I'm smiling at 2 pounds of shaved ham and 6 dozen buns. I'd have stopped at the donuts and coffee.

Still, I know you, so I have no doubt that it all got pulled together and done. I'm also certain that you and Roger will be doing more for FIL. Don't forget to take care of yourself...

Annie

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