My new HP with vista slowed down and would freeze up after I loaded on Zone Alarm...I totally removed all signs of Norton..still slow...I would have to power off just to shut down computer or get to a new program. I was loosing icons..and programs...and then they would mysteriously return...only to disappear again...whole computer became very unstable.. Third call to the Costco Techs(luckily that's where I bought this computer)had me do a system restore with them on the phone holding my hand...this restore took be back to supposed "out of the box" factory condition... But I swear this "out of the box" was somehow different from when I first turned on the machine...I am wondering if this was a returned computer that someone had previously "dinked" with....anyway I very slowly and very methodically added back my bookmarks, favorites and email addresses using Windows email not outlook...and reinstalled router, printer, mouse, and external HD software. I logged each thing I did to this machine and each time checked speed...internet was good and holding...I downloaded and installed AVG freebie ..got rid of Norton trial that came with the HP...absolutely no more Zone Alarm..although it was great with my XP machine...then I loaded on program software like Office, Quicken, Quickbooks, and Turbo Tax. Cross my fingers...everything seems to be running ok..and as fast as my XP computer.

Just a follow up on the "no gifts please" issue, because it is something we all always agonize over, isn't it? It went as we predicted. Our very closest friends got me birthday gifts (in groups of 2 or 3). These are the people with whom we are so close that we give each other gifts for big occasions, party or no party, so we ignore "no gifts, please" if there is a party, because just as we aren't giving a gift because of the invitation, we aren't refraining from giving one because of the invitation, either. Our very, VERY closest friends also got us anniversary gifts (one from a group of three couples, one from one couple) -- same circumstance. Most people either brought a bottle of wine, amaretto, or champagne, a small birthday and/or anniversary gift (about like you would give for a hostess gifts -- candy, a funny little purse mirror, etc.), or nothing. Several (whether or not they could attend the party) made contributions to various charities. Another factor that may have made a difference was the gift my husband gave me -- the best ever. It is an album of stories and memories he asked people to send. Not only do I love it more than anything else he could have thought of, I like the idea that that would help people feel like their contribution to the album WAS a gift -- and they are right! Anyway, the bottom line is that I think that whether or not you put "no gifts, please" on an invitation doesn't make much difference; those who would anyway will anyway, and others might bring something small, but about the size they would probably bring as a hostess gift anyway. The real function is for the hosts to avoid feeling embarrassment about giving themselves a party for a gift-y occasion. So I guess in the future I will stick to no reference at all to gifts, EXCEPT where we are both hosts and also the guests of honor. I still feel, also, that people LIKE giving gifts to their friends. And I'll close with a funny story to that effect from this birthday: one day, about 11:30 am, a couple of weeks before the party, I called my friend G, on her cell phone, to see if she wanted to go to lunch. No answer, so I called A. No answer, so I called N. No answer - !!! "Why don't my friends take my calls," I thought, feeling very unpopular. So I called C, and she and I went to lunch. The next day, G called me, laughing. She said, "Sorry I didn't get back to you until today. I bet you wanted to go to lunch. I was out with A and N, shopping for your birthday present!" They had figured it out and wanted to share the laugh with me. (Good thing I had tried all three of them, eh?) They had fun shopping together, and I love the gift (it's a glass necklace) because it makes me think of them having a good time because of me.

blizlady, that would be Sherry (sheshebop), she makes the spinach "brownies" and I love 'em. How many people do you have to serve appetizers to, Dawn? Little pate choux puffs, tiny cream puffs, can be filled with various fillings including chicken salad, egg, tuna or seafood salad, a thick southwestern chicken kind of filling, whatever you like. I make rye puffs and fill with reuben fillings and they can be done ahead of time easily. Reuben Puffs 1 cup water 1/2 cup butter, cubed 1/2 cup all-purpose flour 1/2 cup rye flour 2 teaspoons dried parsley flakes 1/2 teaspoon garlic powder 1/4 teaspoon salt 4 eggs Caraway seeds CORNED BEEF FILLING: 2 packages (8 ounces each) cream cheese, softened 2 packages (2 ounces each) thinly sliced deli corned beef, chopped 1/2 cup mayonnaise 1/4 cup sour cream 2 tablespoons minced chives 2 tablespoons diced onion 1 teaspoon spicy brown or horseradish mustard 1/8 teaspoon garlic powder In a large saucepan over medium heat, bring water and butter to a boil. Add flours, parsley, garlic powder and salt all at once; stir until a smooth balls forms. Remove from the heat; let stand for 5 minutes. Beat in eggs, one at a time. Beat until smooth. Drop batter by rounded teaspoonfuls 2 in. apart onto greased baking sheets or make puffs with a pastry bag. Sprinkle with caraway. Bake at 400° for 18-20 minutes or until golden. Remove to wire racks. Immediately cut a slit in each puff to allow steam to escape; cool. In a large bowl, combine the first eight filling ingredients. Split puffs; add filling. Refrigerate. Yield: 4-1/2 dozen. I make these cheese thumbprints filled with hot pepper jelly, they are pretty popular. I make my own habanero jelly to fill them with, but anything you like could be used, including salsa. I got the recipe from Carol (Readinglady) and she's never given me a bad recipe! Savory Cheddar And Jalapeno Jelly Cookies 8 oz (about 2 1/2 cups) finely grated (use smallest holes on grater box) extra-sharp cheddar cheese 6 tbs (3/4 stick) unsalted butter, at room temperature 1 cup all purpose flour 1/3 cup jalapeno jelly, apple butter, or chopped chutney Place cheese ad butter in a food processor and pulse a few times to combine. Add flour and process until mixture forms a soft dough. Gather up dough and divide into two flat disks. Wrap in wax paper and freeze until chilled, about 45 minutes. Position two racks in center and top third of oven. Line baking sheets with parchment paper or silicone pads. Place the jelly in a small plastic bag and force it into one corner. Snip off the corner of the bag to make a small hole. Set bag aside. Using 1 tsp of dough for each, roll the dough into small balls. Place the balls 1-inch apart on the prepared baking sheets. Bake for 5 minutes. Remove from oven. Using the end of a wooden spoon or a 1/2-inch wide dowel, poke an indentation in each cookie. Pipe the jelly from bag into the indentation. Return to the oven and bake, switching the position of the sheets from top to bottom, halfway through baking, until the tops are lightly browned, about 10 minutes (the cookies will continue to crisp as they cool). Transfer to a wire cake racks and cool completely. Can be prepared 2 days in advance in stored in air tight containers at room temperature. OK, first I use a spoon, not a bag, for the jelly, I made a big mess with that ziplock bag thing. Second I bake them one pan at a time, I don't do the remove/switch thing, it's easier for me to do one pan at a time. Third, this dough is very similar to another one posted here by Weed, so you could wrap it around an olive or pecan, etc., and make a whole difrferent kind of appetizer. I doubt I'd take the time to wrap the dough, I'd probably plunk an olive in the middle of the "cookie" and call it good, LOL. If you don't do something like the puffed sandwiches, Ann T's Gougiere would be lovely, I think. An antipasta plate could be nice and could be entirely assembled ahead of time and I've had Caprese-on-a-stick, which was basically a cherry tomato, a chunk of marinated mozzarella, an olive and a leaf of basil, all skewered for serving. Meatballs would stay hot in a crockpot or small Nesco roaster without any last minute prep at all, as would chicken wings, although those could be messy unless they are boneless. Do you need something sweet, or just savory stuff? Annie

Hey Eileen! Hi all ! Wow, this stuff looks great...I've been cutting and pasting since the top of the thread. I've copied some of my new rcipes, and some old favorites... pick and chose at your pleasure. They're all tried and true and are delicious... Don't know if you're planning to hire help, but I find that for a party of this size it makes a huge difference if I have someone serving and someone pacing the dishes and doing last minute prep and plating - and clean up! It's very affordable too - usually around $25 per hour per person. I usually have them for 4 hours, and give them an hour's gratuity. Ok, here goes... Ceasar Dip (this is best when made a day or two in advance)- Cooks Illustrated Amount Measure Ingredient -- Preparation Method -------- ------------ -------------------------------- 1 cup mayonnaise 1/2 cup sour cream 1/2 cup parmesan cheese 1 Tablespoon lemon juice 1 Tablespoon minced parsley 2 medium garlic cloves -- minced 1 teaspoon anchovy paste Fresh ground pepper Combine all ingredients in medium bowl until smooth and creamy. Transfer dip to serving bowl and cover with plastic wrap. Refrigerate until flavors blend (at least 1 hour) Serve cold with crudite ARTICHOKE-PROSCIUTTO GRATIN Adapted from: "Bon Appétit October 2002" I just served this on Thanksgiving with toasted baguette and carrot dippers (cut carrots on severed diagonal) and endive. They loved it. Amount Measure Ingredient -- Preparation Method -------- ------------ -------------------------------- 1 cans artichoke hearts -- (14 ounce) drained, chopped 4 ounces thinly sliced prosciutto -- chopped 4 ounces Mild Blue Cheese 10 ounces Goat Cheese 1/2 cup whipping cream 1/2 cup Chopped walnuts -- toasted 1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese 1 teaspoon chopped fresh sage Toss together chopped artichoke hearts and prosciutto. Mix in Blue and Goat cheeses. Pour cream over. Sprinkle pecans, Parmesan, and sage. Bake at 350 until gratin is bubbling and sauce thickens, about 30 minutes. Antipasto This year we had a platter of the following on Thanksgiving: Grilled artichoke hearts (our favorite Italian store has them - they're still on the stem and delicious) Fresh salted mozzarella - sliced thick Fresh tomato slices Fresh basil Dried sweet salami Hot and sweet stuffed cherry peppers Mixed olives Roasted peppers Asiago cheese Served alongside a basket of bread sticks and toasted baguette ------ LionsHead Meatballs I love, love, love these...and serve them in a beautiful chaffing dish or crock...they're a nice alternative to Swedish meatballs. You can prepare the meatballs ahead (don't cook them) and freeze them on a cookie sheet. When frozen, place them in a zip lock bag until ready to use. When ready to use, DO NOT DEFROST, just saute them in a oiled pan and continue with prep as written. 1 cup "lite"* coconut milk 2 1/2 tablespoons reduced-sodium soy sauce 1 tablespoon curry powder 1 pound lean ground pork or beef 1/2 cup chopped scallions 1/4 cup minced leek -- white and pale green part only 1 small head Chinese cabbage - diced 2 tablespoons cornstarch 1 tablespoon all-purpose flour 1 tablespoon toasted sesame oil 1 tablespoon finely chopped fresh ginger -- optional (I leave it out) 2 teaspoons seeded and minced fresh chile pepper -- optional 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/4 teaspoon ground white pepper 2 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil *If you can't find 'lite', use regular, diluting with 1/2 water. 1. Combine coconut milk, soy sauce and curry powder in a large saucepan. Set aside. 2. Place pork (or beef), scallions, leek, cabbage, cornstarch, flour, sesame oil, ginger, chile, salt and pepper in a large mixing bowl. 3. Knead by hand until thoroughly combined and the mixture becomes sticky. 4. Shape into small (golf-ball size) meatballs 5. Heat olive oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium heat, swirling to coat the sides. Add the meatballs and cook, turning occasionally, until browned on all sides, 8 to 10 minutes. 6. Transfer to a plate lined with paper towels. 7. Bring the coconut-milk mixture to a boil over medium-high heat. Add the meatballs; cover, reduce heat to low and cook for 30 - 45 meatballs (this long cooking tenderizes them) Adapted from: "Eating Well Magazine eatingwell.com" ------ As an alternative to the Lionshead, and in keeping with the Italian theme, you can make mini Italian meatballs and serve them in a crock alongside small dinner rolls, so folks can make their own mini meatball heros. ----- I serve these with varying sauces, but they're great with just a squeeze of lemon Sue's Crab Cakes with Mustard Mayo Sauce Yield: 24ish Lots of crab and just enough bread to hold it all together. I have made these ahead of time and just reheated before serving. 2 lbs. Backfin or lump crab meat (Costco has 1 lb cans) 2 C. Fresh breadcrumbs 4 large eggs 1 C. Heavy cream 1 T. Dijon mustard 4 t. lemon juice 4 t. Tarragon - dried 4 t. onion - grated salt/pepper 1 C. Panko plus 3 cups for coating (Janpanese 'breadcrumbs') 6 T. Unsalted butter Mustard Mayonnaise Sauce (for crab cakes) In bowl, combine crab meat, breadcrumbs, an 1 C. panko. In small bowl, whisk eggs well and add cream, whisking. Add cream mixture, mustard, lemon juice, tarragon, onion, and salt/pepper to crab mixture and combine well. In a large skillet heat 1 T. of butter over moderate heat until foam subsides. Take mounded tablespoon full of crab mixture in hand, and pat panko onto the crab cake to coat (don't try to dip it in the panko as the cake will fall apart). Drop cake into pan and sauté for 2 - 3 minutes - until deep golden. Carefully turn over and cook 2 - 3 minutes more. The cakes may be cooked a few hours ahead. Place on a cookie sheet and cover. When ready to serve, reheat in 350° oven for 10 - 15 minutes. Mustard Mayonnaise Sauce (for crab cakes) 1/4 C. Mayonnaise 2 1/2 t. Stone ground mustard 1/4 t. fresh lemon juice 2 t. capers (optional) In a small bowl, whisk together ingredients. Cover and refrigerate up to 3 days ahead. ---------- Shrimp Salad (Chunks of shrimp with garlic, celery, lemon, and olive oil)- can be made a day in advance. We serve this on Christmas Eve as a nice light appetizer. Mom made this for years, and it never goes out of style. It;s a nice departure from Shrimp Cocktail. 2 lbs Shrimp (we buy the large shrimp sold at the seafood counter in Costo (4 lbs for 38.99 her on LI) - they're sweet like sugar 3 stalks celery (I like to slice it about an 1/8 inch thick - if they're too wide, cut stalk lengthwise before slicing) 2 Garlic cloves - sliced very thin or minced through a press Olive oil Lemon Salt/pepper Cut shrimp into 3 pieces, toss with celery and garlic. Drizzle with Olive oil (not a lot, just enough to coat) and juice of lemon (until mixture is balanced). Season with salt and pepper. Chill for several hours or overnight. ---------- Grilled scallops with Bacon Scallops Bacon Wrap bacon around each scallop, secure with long metal skewer you can line these up on a skewer, just allow some space in between so they cook evenly). ------- Grilled baby lamb chops with mint sauce on the side Prep these ahead of time and finish right before serving. 4 racks of lamb (Costco has nice ones) Rub roasts with a mixture of rosemary, garlic, salt and pepper. Roast at 400 until about 125 degrees. let cool. Cut alongside each bone to make individual chops. Place on flat roasting rack, cover, and set aside. Right before passing (these should be passed so folks get them hot), give them a quick cook under the broiler, turning once...serve immediately. ---------------- Hope this helps... sue