The advantage of cape honeysuckle is it takes clipping well too, so if you want to shape it, it won't hurt. The foliage is quite pretty. There's the standard red orange variety and there are also orange and pale yellow variants. Like the roses you will need to tie it to your porch post. Clytostoma is a lovely choice but it blooms once a year. If you like the tropical asymmetrical flower look, Distictis Buccinatoria is a good choice. The flowers open scarlet with yellow throats. I have that on on my fence and I have it trained into one of the 'doors' of my gate. The flexible branches don't mind the opening and shutting of the gate. It flowers as long as the weather is warm, but it does take a few years before it really performs.

Okay, long post. First, Im sending a great big hug to you. Second I definitely agree that for the safety and sanity of your family get him out of your life. You donÂt need his drama and neither do your little ones. They may not realize what is going on but they know when somethingÂs wrong. I think it would be a good idea to have Rhiannon talk to someone. ItÂs better to have someone impartial for her to talk to. My sister has been getting counseling for her and my 5 year-old niece after her relationship ended. Her husband was an alcoholic abuser; he wasnÂt abusive when he wasnÂt drinking and his abuse was mostly psychological, but she found out through the counseling that my niece was more aware of what was going than she thought. She was also very matter of fact when she would talk to the counselorÂjust "this is what happens whenÂ". My storyÂwhen I was 13 my uncle tried to rape me while I was staying at my grandmotherÂs. I didnÂt tell anyone and tried to block it from my mind. All I could do was make sure he was never around my younger sisters. I closed myself off from everyone and pretended everything was "normal", but was terrified of any close relationship. Luckily he didnÂt come around much for family get-togethers and if he did I stayed where my grandma or my mother were. Years went by and one day out of the blue, my grandma asked if something had happened with him. All I could do was nod and start crying. I had thought for all those years that everyone would be mad at me and I would be shunned. Instead she hugged me close and told me "heÂs my son and I love him, but I could kill him", which made me feel so much better. She was my most favorite person in the world. I wasnÂt alone with this anymore. I could breathe again. I got married, had two kids, got divorced, and life went on. I had told my husband before we got married, but still didnÂt talk about it unless I had to. I have two wonderful friends who helped me get through my divorce who I had told about what had happened. When my oldest was in middle school, one of her close friends told her she was being molested and my daughter told her stepmother who then reported it. My daughter was asked to give a statement about what she had been told and I decided that as much as I hated talking about what had happened to me, this was more important. I had my friends with me but still couldnÂt talk about it without getting teary. 20+ years after it happened, my sister made a reference to him and I admitted it to my mother. Every time I talked about it, no matter how hard it was, it felt a little better inside. I still have trust issues and probably always will, but thatÂs getting better too and I was able to write this without tears. It also helps me that he eventually died of stomach cancerÂkarma to my mind, but I digress. Your heart and gut say stay away from himÂstart with that. Cozy quiet holidays at home sound like perfect memories for little ones to me. Jen

That looks great. The orinal plan calls for the whole beam to be boxed similar to the top portion of your column and painted to match the underhangs. I would consider doing something similar to your picture with our matching brick on the bottom but I am unsure of how that would look on my home. I am also concerned with too many mixed materials in one spot since the left most column is just to the right of the stone bump out. From straight on it may look weird? Thanks.

In most cases a hydraulic car jack is strong enough, but you have to be very carefull working around it.