Any roses you feel Guilty about?
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Do you guys feel guilty when you plant to many seeds....
Comments (14)I feel guilty, because it always goes the same way. I have a bunch of plants, they end up squished together under the lights, their branches get all tangled together and rip off, and the plants don't get an optimal amount of light. Later in the season, I get overwhelmed about watering all those plants, and they don't produce as well as they would have if I watered. Then I tell myself "why did you do this again?? You would be much happier if you had a few healthy plants!". I know that too many germinating is the beginning of a vicious cycle, so yes, I feel guilty in advance when too many sprout!...See MoreDo you ever feel guilty!
Comments (3)Silverkelt, I had the same thoughts today. I was thinning out Champagne Arches/Nancy Parker today (actually two of them - one on each side of the arch) and tying the best canes back onto the arch. Then I gave the last waving laterals a bit of a haircut. Today's action was prompted by a comment my DS made last weekend when we were walking in the garden. I stopped and looked back at that arch and tried to see it through his eyes - yup, it WAS just a mess. I know it would have been best to wait and enjoy those several hundred extra blooms, but I would never have been able to see what I needed to see in order to prune it properly. While Michael is technically correct, it is so much easier to deal with these large roses before they are fully leafed out. Actually, I wish I had had the time to do it before it broke dormancy, but I didn't lose too many tender leaf buds so I'm just relieved to have the job done! I am consoling myself about the lost first blooms by thinking how much easier it will be to prune again lightly after the first flush which should stimulate it to set some more buds later in the season. And NOT seeing those canes waving 3 and 4 ft. above the arch is very satisfying. I can't wait to hear what my son says when he visits on Sunday!...See More*Ahem* I feel a little guilty about this
Comments (48)I'm in much the same boat. As you know, I'm a frugal character, but that's not the issue with me - it's "wasting" Precious Petroleum. Plus adding to pollutants. And global warming. As I've said, part of my reason for fixing my 19-year-old car last year instead of scrapping it, at higher cost than I'd paid for it, was the amount of energy used, plus additions to global warming and pollution that are required to build a new car, and the proportion of another old car that I'd be using instead of fixing mine, that I believed would have quite a number of miles left in it. My Dad, a farmer, had trouble breathing in this part of the country over 60 years ago, so pulled up roots and moved to the west, where he had about exactly 40 good years of life, healthy. And liked his new life. I plan a trip through MI, WI, MN, ND to Sask for a family reunion (mother's side) at my brother's in early July. I'd hoped at one time to travel to British Columbia in June, visitng old colleagues and friends, but that's not going to happen. I'd thought once to maybe drive daughter back to AZ from the reunion (she booked her flight Phoenix - Minneapolis - Regina/return last week): would take too long away from work to drive. (Gosh, it's nice to be retired ... and enjoying continuing good health's a bonus). I'm to attend a reunion of former Korea missionaries in NC at the end of July, then visit niece's family in NW GA. It was at that gathering 3 years ago that, after a discussion of U.S. foreign policy, I approached one of the presenters, saying that it has seemed to me increasingly since 9-11, that had the U.S. treated Israel and the Palestinians much more even-handedly during the last 55 years plus ... ...that those planes would have never hit those towers. Looking at me searchingly, he asked whether our talk was off the record. When I asssured him that it was, he replied, "I agree with yu ... 100%", with some emphasis. To add to my dilemma ... my daughter has invited me to her "new" home in AZ to celebrate my 80th birthday next Jan. By plane? - hard on fuel, but I'll probably do that, for I don't have others to visit while in that area. To drive? - (my little car, standard tranny, that costs down hills and to yellow lights, though some say it's illegal)? I plan to do it ... but with some compunctions. We're stealing our grandkids' heritage (of which I have none). I could go to brother's on the bus ... but want to run around visiting friends. I may ride with others to NC - but then have trouble getting to my niece's. I could ride the bus to AZ next Jan ... and may well do that ... but daughter (different generation) takes for granted that it's to be by plane. Actually, I bussed to Edmonton (over 2,000 mi.) when that niece was married in '85 ... then rode with Dad back to Ont, when he came on his annual pilgrimage to visit friends and relatives. Actually ... I don't have much of a dilemma, for I'm going to make those trips, if I continue in good health. But I'll feel some guilty while doing it: one of the dilemmas of life. God trusted this precious world into our hands, to use its resources carefully , wisely and for the benefit of all: does S/He love some more than others? Not according to the Bible that I read. Not only that - my version of common sense says the same thing. Good wishes to all of you for a lovely spring weekend. ole joyful P.S. Sure am thankful that I got my driver's licence retreaded! o j...See MoreSD14 wants to live with us....her mom making her feel guilty
Comments (32)tos~ How she and her best friends have maintained their friendship, despite the miles, is a source of amazement to all of us. They have a very special relationship and they are all so close. I was just speaking to one of the other mothers last pm, and we both continue to marvel at the strength of their bond. They make it a point to spend lots of time together whenever they can (when she's here for visits). My stepson is best friends with the 2 older brothers in the families, and we adults are friendly as well...have occasional cookouts, pool parties, etc. Although, I think the kids friendship has fostered the adult/family gatherings.... As far as her friends in NC...the majority of her non-school time is spent in dance class, so she is friendly with the girls she dances with. But she says that she really doesn't have any super-close school friends that she "hangs out with", etc. She rarely has sleepovers or talks of anything she does with other kids there. Mostly she is at the dance studio...she's a very accomplished dancer. Lack of good friends there was actually one of the things she discussed when she brought up the idea of coming here for high school. So tos, it's your turn....are you a step-parent? Are you a NCP? What would you have told your daughter in the "hypothetical" situation I posted?...seriously WWYD? Like you, I have no intention of EVER divorcing, but I can "imagine" what I'd do if I were faced with a similar situation....so, please, tell us what you'd say. For the record, my DH fought the move in court. Michigan is a no-fault divorce state, and spousal infidelity has NO bearing on custody, whatsoever. Michigan is VERY pro-mom, despite the fact the courts say they have no "gender bias". Essentially, the only time a mother does not win custody is if she can be deemed "unfit", due to drugs or extreme circumstances. Even homeless mothers win custody here...since we have many women/children shelters, etc. It's really disturbing that the courts do not really have the best interest of the child as their main focus. At the time of his ex-wife's affair, the children were ages 1 & 4. Since they were babies (toddler) he felt that the kids should stay in their home, and with his work schedule at the time, it just made more sense for her to stay in the house. He got an apartment closeby with the understanding that it would be temporary while they "worked on it". Obviously, the outcome was different than the plan. Trust me, if he could have changed the outcome of the custody situation, he would have. Initially, they had joint custody, 50/50 split. When she decided to move, she filed for sole physical, joint legal. He fought it and lost. The judge thought that her soon-to-be new husbands job promotion was more important than children having close, easy access to both parents. That was the sole deciding factor...her husbands increased income. So they can use spouse income to decided custody, but they won't use it to calculate child support...go figure...great court system....See MoreKippy
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