Thank you for the Psychology Today suggestion. I was able to find a sex therapist in my area that is also on my health plan, who is certified and she has 20 years of experience. I am going to call her in the morning before work. It doesn't say that she is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist but does say she treats couples with relationship issues, so I might be able to see her for both issues. On the V issue, I am currently looking for a new doctor. It took me over 10 doctors and 7 years to get a diagnosis. But, my current doctor, who did make the diagnosis, has tried all that she can think of and wants to do surgery. My research shows there are other things still to try, such as estrogen cream, even though I am young. She won't prescribe it due to my age, even though very little is absorbed into the system. I may have to go out of state (it would be worth the travel costs). You had asked how I handle critism. Well, that is my achilles heal for sure. I can handle it pretty well when it comes from a supervisor, but when it comes from my husband or close family member it feels as if I have been stabbed. Of course, it matters how its delivered. If its a "Hey, I was doing xyz until I tried this and it was sooo much easier" I take it different than "why are you doing it that way" "Does it make sense to you to do it like that". or if they suck at it and are giving me advice (like my sister offering to help me clean and organize my house, or telling me something is wrong with my house (like a crack in the drywall) or DH offering bill paying advice when he overdraws his account every other month) And sometimes I think to myself, does it really matter? So what, I am doing something different than you would do. Whatever it is...as long as it isn't endangering someone or something does it really matter? Such as loading the dishwasher or something trivial. I do feel like he puts me down for my family. I know they are crazy and dysfunctional. But, I feel like he thinks he is better than everyone and everything sometimes. For example, even though he would deny it, he projects that he is superior because he doesn't believe in a god. Well most of the world does, and it annoys me that he projects that in front of family (mine and his) and will make comments to me that its all silly. Of course he doesn't come right out and say to them " I'm an athiest". But, he gets that smirk on his face whenever they talk about anything religous or having to do with god. It comes accross to me, that he thinks because his family has clean houses and they do not yell and scream that they have no issues. Really, they have issues, they just pretend they do not exist. For example, his older sister will not go to his aunts for XMAS dinner, and yet no one even mentions it when she is not there. (Its because she is a lesbian and brings her partner and they don't like her - according to my husband). Yet, if I miss a holiday or event with them, DH acts as if its the end of the world. I'm rambling a bit, I know. Or the fact that his mom lost it once and insisted he take a drug test. It was freaky. There are other things too...but that isn't really the point. And he thinks that if I see my mom he should go. ANd if he is eating lunch with his mom I should go. Sometimes I just want to do my own thing with my mom or sister. That we should never really visit family without the other spouse. I really don't get that. His family is tolerable and some are even very nice, but they are not my family, and my family drives him crazy, so why do we need to always feel as if the other person needs to attend family functions? Just because we are married? Is that what most people do? Most of the relatives are within an hour and live in the same town. Usually, we both go to each others relatives, but I have tried to do the , Ill go to yours for an hour or so and then over to mine for the rest of the day. But that makes him so mad. I invited him to go to my sisters to see my nephews who adore him. They love him and ask about him atleast weekly. Its far enough away that we have to fly. He had a work trip so he arrived there the day after me and left the day before me. He was there for less than 48 hours. To be honest, I was pretty annoyed that he was annoyed that I left him alone for 3 or so hours on Sat, with the boys and BIL. Me sitting next to him would not have made my sister's house clean or the kids better behaved or BIL less annoying. In fact, it would have probably ensured we got on each others nerves. I think he thinks when he is there we purposely do nothing and just sit around. Well, that is my sisters life. Work, make dinner, bathe the kids, go to bed, do it all over again. They are pretty young kids so taking them out is a chore at this point. So, I told him yesterday he does not ever have to go again, but that we would need to give some explanation. Me saying he has to work, isn't going to cut it forever. The 5 yo thinks my husband is coming to his b-day party in March. He will be so sad to know he is not coming. Of course, I plan to lie and say he is working. What do I say to my sister? "My DH doesn't like your DH, your messy house or how you are never happy with your food, and he hates you don't have a spare room and can't deal for 48 hours." I don't think that will make anything better.

What IowaGirl and ChemoCurl wrote will work. It's the only way to cancel your print job. Unplugging the printer won't do work because the computer will continue spooling the print command. So, cancel the print as explained above. The problem is it takes so long for it to cancel, so you will have to restart the computer for the cancel command to take effect. The dreaded problem I have with WindowsXP is doing it the one time doesn't work. If the first time doesn't work, restart the computer and do it a second time. Then restart again. Otherwise, you just have to sit and wait for the print job to cancel.

I used to get "glue ear" when I was little. I had tubes put in five times. And now that I have used peroxide as well as an alcohol/vinegar mixture in my ears as an adult, I REALLY wonder if over half of my problems as a child could have been avoided if the d@mn doctor (ENT) had just told my mom to put alcohol in my ears every time I got water in them. I seriously think a lot of it was swimmer's ear. That said, do have a doctor check out her ears so you know whether or not the eardrum has been perforated. Even if it has, it was NOT necessarily the peroxide that did it. The fluid buildup could have done it. Both of my eardrums still have perforations. I have used peroxide during a bad earache, and even with the perforation, it can hurt really bad from the fizzing. When that happens, I just dump it out immediately. That immediate release of the fizzing liquid can also cause what feels like a "pop." Earaches can hurt really really bad, yet not cause the perforation. It's just such a delicate system, and pain is the body's way of telling you there's a problem. When you do go to the doctor, ask about using the alcohol and vinegar, as well as the peroxide. That way you have the doc's input as to whether one or the other is better in her situation. And don't let them put you off and say it's a waste of time. I've cleared up an outer ear infection with the alcohol and vinegar as well as gotten a great deal of improvement on an inner ear infection. It CAN work. I hope she feels better soon! A combo sinus/ear infection is the PITS! You might also try getting her to take some Airborne to boost her immune system.

The same color looks much darker on a horizontal surface than a vertical one. I have the same color on our screened porch siding, wood floor and ceiling and it looks completely different on each of those three surfaces. High ceilings look better with a darker paint, imo (unless they have a lot of plaster medallion ornamentstion in a really formal room--- those are best left white).This is our library colour scheme....BM Golden Straw on the walls, BM Linen on the molding, SW custom green black on the doors and transom and SW China Doll on the 14 ft ceiling. I was lying in the sofa and was struck with the similarity of wall and ceiling combination with your room. Of course, it looks totally different during the day and at different times of the day :-)