My Dad's 38-Year-Old Monstera
John_Alexander
11 years ago
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Over 10 years and I still miss my dad
Comments (45)I have loved reading all the posts and gives me comfort that there are a lot of people who are experiencing the same thing as me. I too miss both my parents, still. My mom died 9 years ago from ovarian cancer and my Dad died 6 years ago after a long battle with renal failure and being on dialysis as a result. I cared for both my parents for years while they were ill. We had always been close and saw each other almost every day of my life. The last few years we all lived together while I was working full time, married and raising two boys. I was so busy with everything that I did not have time to stop and think about what was going to happen when they were gone. I miss them terribly every day and wish I would have just stopped and talked for hours on end to them while they were ill instead of doing the laundry, cleaning the house or grocery shopping or cooking. I am thankful I was able to provide them a safe home to live in and never had to place either one in a nursing home. Both boys are now grown and away from home, my husband works out of town a lot and recently my Uncle (my Mom's brother) has moved in with us after having several mini strokes and can no longer live alone. This has brought back the memories of caring for my Mom and Dad and makes me miss them more and more. I still work full time and this was a huge adjustment as my husband & I were just getting used to being empty nesters and had begun taking trips. We have adjusted accordingly and I am thankful once again that I am able to give my Uncle the care he needs without going to a nursing home. Grief can only be dealt on a day to day basis. Sometimes I can handle it and sometimes I just need a good cry. I think about all the great times we had and that makes me happy, but then the grief creeps back in because I can no longer talk to, smile at, laugh with, cry with or hug my parents ever again. My only comfort is knowing I will see them again one day in Heaven and that is what keeps me going day to day....See Morestep dad and 8 year old daughter
Comments (22)Thank you both for your responses. Amber i do tell my daughter under no cercumstance is she allowed to disrespect him. She has had her privileges taken way on a monthly base. Usually he is the one who picks the punishment and for how long. Sometimes im not exactly sure what all he takes away. The last time he punished er he took everything away from her. She doesnt have tv computer, netflix, going to movies for over six months. I unfortunately did not heard the punishment, because the day he gave the punishment i was recovering from a bronchoscopy. I thought I had heard him say she can not play on anything he bought, but unfortunately i was wrong. She is banned from everything. She can only play with her toys and read books. My husband has always had my oermission to disciplinw our daughter. I've tried very hard not to step on his toe when it came to punishing her. Even though six months of no electrinics is a pretty tough punishment for an eight year old, i've still stood behind him. She had a project last month and my husband refused to help her because of how she treats him. He feels that she wont fail becausebof her age and will give her a grade for effort. I however feel completly different. School work is not something i am going to say no to. No my husband does not have children of his own. Our daughter is his first shot at being a parent. He goes by how he acted as a child and expects the same way, he was a good obedient kid. Myself, on the other hand, gave my parents a challenge. I didn't do bad things against the law but i gave quite a few gray hairs to my mom. I know he cares about her but even i have doubts. I understand how mean she can be, trust me she hurts me the worst when she gets in one of her moods. However no matter how much she mistreats me,im still her mother. I should always be there for her. He is a dad now and he should also be beside me helping her through this. We have tried sitting down with her and explained the things we would be able to do as a family if only she listened to what we asjed her to do. She seems to behave for a few days and goes back to the same way as before. Unfortunately she is half the time with us and half the time with her bio dad so she gets a break from her punishmebt. When she comes back we have to start all over again. I've tried to explain to my husband she is just a child, usually when ahe is not around, but he doesn't follow. To him he just see an evil kid who will not change. He has even said out loud that if she doesnt change that she will one day be flipping burgers at a fast food joint. Anytime i sit with him and talk about her it's always negative. He doesnt even believe her teacher when we were told how smart she is and how polite and respectful she is. I was evwn stopped by the before and after school care staff last week, on how polite and respectful and willingness to help she was....See MoreClostridium Difficile in 93 year old dad
Comments (15)C. Diff is NOT a hospital -only infection, but it is encountered there most frequently because of the high use of antibiotics in a hospital and also because people who develop the infection at home end up there. We all have this organism in our guts. What happens is, using an antibiotic will destroy the balance of gut organisms so that the C.Diff organisms, not affected by the antibiotic, are no longer kept in check by the other bacteria usually found there. The C.Diff proliferates and reaches toxic levels causing infection symptoms. C.Diff is a spore forming bacteria which makes it harder to treat -- spores resist killing -- if too many spores have survived the treatment period, they can bloom later and the process starts all over. It is impossible to predict how likely any one person is to develop C.Diff after receiving antibiotics (and nearly any antibiotic can trigger it) nor how well or quickly any one person will respond to treatment for the C.Diff. Older, sicker, or more chronically immune-suppressed, as well as young children, will be more prone to it and likely to respond less well to treatment. A healthy individual is at much lower risk of acquiring it from the environment -- the risk there comes from exposure to an unusually high number of spores/live organisms from a contaminated environment. It is possible to protect yourself, and avoid carrying the spores to another susceptible individual, by wearing a disposable covering gown and gloves when cleaning or visiting and washing hands thoroughly. Maifleur01's link is a good one. I would just rip out the carpet and dispose of it....See More20 year old Monstera base with 3 leaves. How to stimulate growth?
Comments (3)@lindac92 thank you for your response! Unfortunately I will have to repot it since it‘s in a large garbage can temporarily for transport (the old planter had broken). About 2/3 of the plant was already pruned off right before I saved it. I hadn’t thought about how I would be compounding the shock of this if I take more off for propagation. Is there any risk to the root system from the plant losing so much of its foliage at once? if so, how can I minimize the impact? I have heard of some people trimming off a proportional amount of roots to the foliage that was removed but don’t know if that applies in this instance. I’m thinking it may be best to follow your advice to leave it be after I situate it in a new pot. Give it water and sun. Wait for it to acclimate before deciding on a course of action....See Moremeyermike_1micha
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