Clostridium Difficile in 93 year old dad
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Comments (12)I cannot imagine paying $280 for a cord of wood. Even during the winter, local prices top out at about $150. We heat the house with wood in the winter; using an airtight stove with a catalytic converter so there are no smoke fumes. DH collects the wood from storm-downed trees in the neighborhood, or occasionally brings a load taken from deadfalls at our mountain place. We have a gas furnace for back-up, just in case we are both ill or injured and can't bring in the logs. That's used mostly during ice storms... no one wants to heft armfuls of logs up ice-slick steps and sometimes storms last longer than expected. Frankly, I would hate to be limited to one car per household. However, I do believe there could/should be a limit as to how many horsepower per household... or better yet, a limit on total mpg... wonder how many people would choose to have three Prius or Civics rather than one GrandCherokee or Trailblazer? Perhaps the day will come when ration cards will be required in order to buy gasoline; certainly such a plan would not be supported by by gasoline companies, but I bet auto manufacturers would suddenly discover they were quite capable of producing high-mpg vehicles! A 2001 report from Vermont states that vehicle emissions were the source of 65% of their pollution. Not long ago, I read that in the DC area [that's a 35-mile radius surrounding DC), vehicles accounted for over 80% of the pollution. Imagine making a 2/3 decrease in the pollution simply by making it undesirable to drive oversized vehicles. Far more effective than limiting or outlawing fireplaces....See MoreMom has alz, but Dad's driving me crazy
Comments (10)It seems that most older people, when faced with the loss of their independance, have great problems dealing with it. When we asked my father about giving up driving (he was 93), he was in tears, saying that would just kill him. He drove until the day before he died, no accidents luckily, but I was so scared for him. The sight of my take-charge, strong father reduced to that emotional state when faced with giving up driving really shook me. Now I'm taking care of my 95 yr old Mother, altho she lives in a senior apt complex, now with assisted living. I've had to take all financial matters away from her because she was driving me crazy, not understanding the bank statements, obsessing about every penny. Her finances are just fine, but she would not leave it alone. She was upset if the SS check was deposited to her account on the last day of the month instead of the first of the next month, because she was sure "they" would take it away from her. I suppose I took the checkbook more to save my own sanity, but it is, again, one of those independance issues. Most senior complexes like where Mother lives do not accept AD residents (even tho many of the residents are in early stages, I am sure). So that would not be an option for you. What about trying out an apartment close to where you live, if you could do a month-to-month rental, and let your father give it a try? Possible? Maybe with a visiting aide part of the day? But there is no easy answer for your question of how you tell someone that they can no longer take care of himself. It's got to be the hardest time of life, in so many ways. Especially for us kids, who remember when our fathers were larger than life and took care of us. One thing to watch out for is the depression that comes along with this. Is your father on anti-depressant medications? Mother just went on medication this past summer, after saying she didn't need it and then calling me to say how she wanted to die. (I needed medication after those phone calls---if she hadn't taken the medication, I would have!) Depression in the elderly is way under-diagnosed and treated, I have learned. It's an issue you might explore. Keep in touch here on this board. No easy answers. I have often thought that it is a different mind game for you and me dealing with a healthy older person as we are, than dealing with an AD patient. Very different, no less difficult. I recently found that our local Alliance on Aging in Monterey County has a peer conselling group for caregivers who are NOT dealing with alz or cancer patients, like you and me. There are other support groups for specific diseases, but this one fits my needs. It's been my life-saver. So call around and see if you can locate a support group for yourself. It's worth it, I assure you. Helene...See MoreSo, how old is too old?
Comments (38)I don't think age has much to do with it. If you're going to fall you are going to fall. I do think there is a time in your life where you should not be thinking you are 25 years old anymore!!!! Saturday morning we got up to wet carpet along an outside wall. Our buildings are almost like a T in shape. The snow and ice in a valley of the roof was melting (in the 30's the two days before) the water ran down the valley behind the vinyl siding to where it met the cement floor, then ran in somehow. DH has used the roof rake at least 3 times this winter pulling piles and piles and piles of snow off the roof.You stand on the ground to use a roof rake. DS got up on the roof and used a snow shovel to clear the roof also. So 4 times its been cleaned off, but still a bad ice jam snow layer in this valley where the two roofs meet. DH got up on the roof Saturday to shovel again, only in some spots this time because the snow was so packed down with the winds we've had he couldn't get it with the roof rake. He is not in top shape, he isn't out of shape either. He slipped on ice and started falling head first toward the parking lot pavement. He was trying to twist himself around so that when he fell he would fall on a side, arm,leg anything but his head. It happened so fast he couldn't get twisted around. So he "spread eagled" out as much as he could to try and stop himself with his hands and his feet. He stopped with his chin 4 inches over the eavetrough! Scared the beejeepers out of him and me too! It all happened in the blink of an eye there was very little time to react. When I think about how he'd have landed if he'd hit the pavement (on his head) and how he could have been hurt I get so mad at him!!!!!!!! Leave it alone, I'd rather do anything to cope with a problem then to have him permenently injuried!!! He does not need to think he is 25 years old and can do anything anymore. He is 56!!! Bottom line my opinion NOW is nobody needs to be on a roof unless you have proper shoes and a safety belt!!! I don't care how young or old you are....See MoreOT: how old are you?
Comments (56)Good thread. As confirmed many times above, there's no shame in growing older. I'm 72. My mother died two weeks after her 38th birthday, and I've long been aware that every year--every day--is a gift. My role model for aging was a woman named Emilie, whom I met when I was 30 and she was 85. Cataracts prevented her from driving, so she hitchhiked to work at the library every day. She had six sons, and lost her only daughter to pneumonia when the baby was 18 months old. She said, "If I could survive that, I can survive anything." In her 80s, she gave up housekeeping (her daughters-in-law "mucked out" occasionally) and enjoyed her garden, baking, and listening to whale song records. When I met Emilie, my first child had just been born, and we became close friends. I don't hitchhike and I do my own mucking out, but I hope I have Emilie's youthful spirit. These days, my three best friends are aged 62, 66, and 86. I also have several friends in their 30s whom I see on a regular basis. My son has said about them, "They can't be your friends--they're my age!" :-) I grew up in NYC, but have lived for the past 40 years on an old farm out in the country in Pennsylvania. My husband died in 2005 after suffering with dementia for 10 years. My middle daughter died in 2001. I'm happy to say my surviving children live near me. My daughter and her family live on a lake 17 miles away, and my son and his family built their house within sight of my own. I have a 24-year-old granddaughter and two grandsons, ages 4 and 22 months. Family health history is a hot topic with me, and I've brought up the subject so many times my children probably tuned me out long ago. I've written down much of it so that some day they'll have it if they need it. I grew up knowing that "all the women" in my mother's family died young. I wish I had more details on that, but I know my mother's mother died of a heart attack in her early 40s. My mom died from cleaning a rug with carbon tetrachloride. One of my first cousins died of a heart attack at 49, and her sister had unexplained liver failure in her early 60s. When I head my DNA tested I learned that my liver is more susceptible to damage than most, and I also learned I have a gene mutation that impairs the processing and elimination of toxins. I suspect this is why I have a serious reaction to foods containing solanine (tomatoes, potatoes, peppers, etc.), as solanine is a poison. It is present in foods in a small enough quantity not to be a problem to most people. I wonder if this is why my mom died from breathing toxic fumes (chlorinated hydrocarbons). Carbon tet made a lot of people sick, which is why it's off the market, but I don't know how many it killed. On my father's side, we have lots and lots of heart disease and diabetes. In fact, just last night one of my cousins in Germany sent me a copy of my great-grandmother's death certificate. Yes, heart disease and diabetes. Her son, my grandfather, died of a heart attack at 61, and one of her grandchildren lost a foot to diabetes. I've told the story at the KT before about how my dad had such blocked arteries in his 40s that he couldn't walk up a subway ramp without taking nitroglycerine. He wasn't overweight, but he smoked and had high cholesterol. A doctor, clearly ahead of his time, told him to quit smoking and stop eating saturated fats. So my dad gave up cigarettes, ice cream, cheese, sausage, and on and on, and completely reversed the condition. He lived to be 90. I've inherited his "fat clearing genes"--which don't do a very good job of clearing--as well as blood sugar issues. I was diagnosed as pre-diabetic at 22. My diet is limited, and can be a royal nuisance when dining at friends' homes, but I've staved off these two family curses, and am pleased to say I require no meds. Now, if I could just get rid of all the ticks on my property, I might have some energy and stamina. :-)...See More- 10 years ago
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